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Leo Tolstoy of Russia once said this thought-provoking sentence:
"A person is like a score, his actual talent is like a numerator, and his valuation of himself is better than the denominator, and the larger the denominator, the smaller the value of the fraction."
How great a person's achievements are, not to see how boastful he is, but to see how humble he is. Carefully observe life, you will find that the more arrogant people are, the more empty they are, and the more modest people are, they can usually be humble and have great love.
As the saying goes, "Modesty makes people progress", only modest people can respect others, listen to the opinions of others, and be unmoved in the face of fame and fortune. And a person who is arrogant and complacent not only does not listen to anyone, but is prone to aggressiveness.
The writer Montaigne once said:
"Truly learned people, like ears of wheat, thrive as long as they are empty, looking up. But as they mature and fill the bulging grains of wheat, they humbly bow their heads and do not show their sharp edges. ”
People who are rich in heart and rich in knowledge often have a humble heart. People who are empty in heart and lack knowledge are often more arrogant and arrogant. Just as a hollow ear of wheat will bow its head to the sky with its proud head, the ear of wheat that bears fruit will bow its head and face the earth.
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Arrogance is a major taboo in life.
Wang Yangming once said to his students: "The biggest problem in life is a 'proud' word. ”
He pointed out that if a person has an arrogant habit, life is not mixed well, and it is difficult to succeed.
For example, if you are an arrogant person, it is difficult to be kind to your children.
For example, if you are a child and have the problem of arrogance, then he is mostly a person who has no one in sight and is not filial to his elders.
Another example is that if you are a friend, if you are infected with arrogance, then most of them do not pay attention to integrity. For example, if a courtier has arrogance in him, then he is mostly disloyal.
Wang Yangming's words of insight very vividly summarized the characteristics of human nature, and profoundly pointed out the negative impact of arrogance on the cultivation of a person's personality characteristics.
"Zhou Yi" has a cloud: "The heavenly way is profitable and humble, and the humane evil is profitable and humble." ”
Popularly understood, the rule of the Word of Heaven is to make those who are proud and complacent lose money, and to make the humble grow; the rule of man is to dislike those who are proud and complacent, and to love those who are modest.
When she was young, Wang Yangming also had a habit of pride and complacency, such as when she wrote to Wang Chunfu, she wrote: "On a certain day, I also have the arrogance of my generations and the neglect of the world..."
For example, after he failed the first scientific examination, he and his father met various high-ranking officials, nobles, and celebrities who comforted him: "You did not pass the examination today, the next time it must be a gold list topic. ”
After Wang Yangming listened, he did not have the slightest intention of pushing and giving in, but was full of pride, and picked up the pen casually, which was an inscription. Everyone saw that Wang Yangming did not have the slightest humility, and the big guys just looked at each other and casually flattered: "Genius, genius! ”
Afterwards, someone said behind his back, "If this boy really got admitted to the yuan, it would be really unbeatable!" ”
As a result, Wang Yangming took the exam for the second time, and was really moved by those high-level big men who did not look favorably on him and thought that there was no one in his sight, and he was not admitted.
After that, Wang Yangming realized this big problem in his body, and when he was cultivating, he finally woke up and began to live and live with a new look and mentality, and it was precisely because of this that he became a respected thinker in the future.
It can be said that Wang Yang's arrogance when he was young next year has a relatively large negative impact on his early prospects and development, if it were not for pride, he could have achieved a great cause earlier.
02 Only those who know how to be humble can win the love of others
Lao Tzu once said, "The good is like water, and the water is good for all things without dispute." ”
This is an important philosophical approach to life.
Water is always silent, does not compete with all things, and brings moisture to all things. And the water always flows low, into streams and rivers, or into the sea, and it can blend into any place in any humble way. In addition, water can also exist anywhere in the form of solids, liquids, gases, etc., which is the humility of water.
To be human is to be like water, to be kind, to moisten all things, to be humble like water, to exist anywhere in any humble way.
Because humility is the key and foundation for a person to base himself on society and achieve a career. No matter what age a person is, what kind of identity and social status and connections he has, he should always maintain a humble attitude to behave and deal with the world.
The philosopher Socrates said, "I am considered the wisest man because I know I know nothing." ”
A person who knows how to be humble will win the respect and love of others. Modesty is not only a virtue, but also a principle and attitude of dealing with the world, if a person wants to succeed, he must first learn to be modest, polite, and obedient, not to be too arrogant and arrogant, causing the rejection and disgust of others, and even attracting various unnecessary disasters.
As we all know, Einstein was a world-famous scientist, and some students once asked him: "The teacher's knowledge is so profound, how can he learn without getting tired?" ”
Einstein replied, "If the known part of man is likened to a circle, then what is outside the circle is unknown to man." Then the larger the circle, the longer its circumference, and the more unknown parts. My circle is bigger than yours, which means I don't have more knowledge yet. So, how dare I relax? ”
No matter how much a person has achieved and how brilliant his personal deeds are, he should always maintain a humble attitude, never be arrogant and complacent, and have no one in sight.
The Roman statesman and philosopher Cicero once said, "Nothing is more suitable for a great man than modesty and tolerance." ”
The importance of humility is self-evident.
03 Reading Jun said
In short, a person can be proud, but he must not be arrogant. If people are infected with arrogance, it is easy to revel in their own world, not see others, and have a feeling of arrogance and arrogance, and the world is solipsistic.
This kind of complacent and arrogant attitude is not only easy to blind one's own eyes, but also easy to attract all kinds of rejection and resentment, making interpersonal relationships stiff, and finally putting oneself in many difficulties, and ultimately affecting personal growth and development.
For this reason, it is important to be a person and learn to be humble and courteous! No matter what stage of life you are in, what kind of achievements you have, you should always maintain a humble attitude to live and deal with the world, only in this way can you better stand in an invincible position!
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