Love is appreciating your merits
Accept your shortcomings as well
01
Chen Rulaixin said that when what I did met my boyfriend's expectations, he was very happy and very good to me, saying that he liked me like this, and once I messed things up, he began to scold and grin, accusing me of not doing this little thing well.
Afterwards, I apologize to me, but I always feel that he can only accept my good, can not accept my bad, sometimes afraid of where he did not do well, he is angry.
Feeling that he can't relax in front of him, can't be himself, often worry about where he is not doing well, and make him dissatisfied.
In the end, what could have been done was done in a mess, and every time he criticized it, he was scared and frightened, and felt that the whole person became unconfident and scared.
Originally very confident, now they are cowering and shrinking, and they can't find themselves more and more.
02
If a man can only accept your good and cannot tolerate your bad, it can only mean that he likes you and has a good feeling for you, because liking is liking a person's strengths and liking the feeling of being happy with her.
But not to the extent of love, because love is restraint, is tolerance, everyone always has some small shortcomings, love you although not necessarily feel that your shortcomings are also cute, but will not accuse you, he will comfort you, everyone has shortcomings, it is not a big problem.
You will naturally relax, a person will only dare to make mistakes in a loving, relaxed environment, and will grow himself through mistakes, not because he does not dare to do it, and even has no chance to grow.
Only accept your good people, unless you can always have a smooth sailing, otherwise when you encounter problems, he will either blame you, do not solve the problem, and the two people are unhappy.
Either just throw the pot at you, say it's your problem, shirk responsibility, either case, you're going to be tired with him.
03
And really together, when he wants to leave later, he will give up, and the reason for giving up on you is the shortcomings that he can't accept.
In other words, today you changed this shortcoming, he likes you again, what about the other shortcomings, people cannot be perfect, there are always some shortcomings.
If he doesn't see your strengths and just stares at your shortcomings, then no matter how you change, he can find out your shortcomings, and you won't be happy in the future.
With someone who blames you every day, you won't be happy and will even end up losing yourself.
This kind of love is not what you want, and it will not last long, because when you meet someone better than you, he will definitely leave you.
Accepting only your goodness and not accepting your imperfections is not love.
04
The man who is willing to be with you for life is not to see his attitude with you when he is in a good mood, but to see what he does to you when he is angry.
He only accepts the good you bring, but he can't accept the incongruity between you, is not willing to operate, to appreciate, then when you are not good, he will not come close to you.
Life will not be smooth sailing, you must have a bad time, this time he is accusing, laughing, falling into the well, or helping you, accompanying you, there is a big difference.
Just liking may make you suffer, but love can make you more courageous to face the difficulties of life and become better.
It is said that two people become close, starting from seeing each other's difficulties and weaknesses.
Because only in this way can two people really accept each other from the heart.
Only accept your good, never go together, the heart will never blend.
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Love emotions, interpret emotional confusion, pay attention to marriage problems, and be willing to listen to your sorrow and happiness, along the way