"AA" is an abbreviation for "Algebraic Average", which roughly means to share bills equally per head.
The AA system is fair to every member in people's social situations, which can reduce quarrels and conflicts. Some couples around Sugar Mother are in love, in order to make each other have no burden and concerns, they will also AA system to share the cost of love.
But this fair way, once linked to marriage, some "taste" is likely to become the fuse of family conflicts.
Daughter-in-law complained to her mother-in-law: Your son thinks marriage should be AA
A woman shared a paragraph on the Internet, her own dialogue with her mother-in-law, and the three views of the mother-in-law who have seen it are not ordinary, and want to have the same mother-in-law.
When the woman and her husband chatted, the husband said that marriage should be AA system, and the mother-in-law heard this point of view, did not stand on the side of her son, but said what many women wanted to hear the most.
"When a pregnant person is 5 months pregnant and gives birth to a child, you give birth for a while, he gives birth for a while, feeds a person and feeds a night", the mother-in-law also said that she wants the AA system, and first ends the "salary" of washing and cooking to see the child.
The old man said more and more angry, rushed out of the kitchen to beat people, still shouting in his mouth, I see that he is tight.
Seeing her mother-in-law's words, Sugar Mom could feel happiness across the screen. Some elderly people in life, no matter who is right and who is wrong, will help their children speak and stimulate contradictions. This mother-in-law can convince people with reason, no wonder everyone is saying that she has three views.
Do you want the AA system in marriage? Will you be happy without AA? Many people have talked about this matter with Sugar Mom before. Feelings can be described in one sentence, the "account" can be calculated clearly, and the "cost of silence" cannot be calculated.
When marriage meets "AA system", which option is happier?
Sugar Mom still remembers that when my parents earned money when they were young, they would put it in a box at home.
They only remember the total amount of money, not who puts more money. All the expenses in the family are taken from the box, and there has never been a conflict over the problem of money for many years.
Later, the married life of young couples after 80 and 90 gradually became popular with the AA system. There are also many couples around Sugar Mother who follow the trend. After the freshness, the advantages and contradictions are all revealed.
Some families, because they have a clear "account" and spend their own wages, are completely independent of their partners, and feel that this is more independent and free. More couples feel that after the AA system, they are becoming less and less like a family, and it is too tiring to calculate every day.
In fact, the couple running this family together will pay a certain amount of feelings, time, and energy, and these "silent costs" are not clear.
As the mother-in-law mentioned earlier, since the husband wants his wife to be responsible for half of the family's expenses. So how to calculate the things of pregnancy and childbirth, taking the child to do housework?
The true "AA" in marriage should do this
From another point of view, couples who can AA have their own jobs. And many families, after getting married and having children, often become a model of male and female masters, when women have no income, how to share the cost of the family with their husbands?
In principle, AA marriage is not completely wrong, as long as both husband and wife can accept it and live happily.
But for most families, the real AA system in marriage is not to calculate money, but to be "fair" in the following aspects.
AA is also required when writing
The home is a husband and wife, and there is no one who should do the housework, who will not do it, only willing to do it.
When you don't care about money, whose work is easier, more rest time can do more housework, usually two people more division of labor. If you want the AA system in terms of money, then the housework must be divided equally, otherwise how can it be fair.
"Status" AA is the secret of good feelings
Even in today's day and age, there are still people who emphasize how high their "status" is in the family, and how arrogant one person is and how humble another is, which is an unhealthy marriage model.
Instead of pursuing the fairness of two people in terms of expenses, it is better to advance and retreat together in daily life, in fact, there is no need to pursue who has a high status in the family.
When the husband and wife respect and love each other, and are equally important in each other's hearts, they will not care who bears more expenses, because both people are working hard for this family.
Some people say that a good marriage must talk about money, put things on the surface, and marriage can last longer.
Back to the mother-in-law's point of view at the beginning, if the couple has differences on the AA system, it is also crucial to have an elder in the family who can persuade each other, otherwise the discussion will collapse.
In marriage, the real AA system should be set to protect the interests of both husband and wife, not to avoid responsibility and reduce their own burdens.
Candy Mother's Heart:
A happy marriage cannot be achieved by copying other people's models, whether or not you choose the AA system, as long as the couple maintains the same position and point of view, and manages the marriage and feelings in a way that suits them, it is difficult to fail.
【Today's topic】Do you think it is necessary to "AA system" in marriage?