As the saying goes: "Raise a child at a hundred years old, always worry about ninety-nine",
Parents in life who arbitrarily interfere in their children's lives because they are too worried about their children abound,
These parents feel that their efforts are all because of love,
But from the child's point of view, the excessive efforts of parents make them breathless.
Star Zhu Yuchen is such a person who is crushed into a "ma bao man" by heavy maternal love,
Why did Zhu Yuchen break up with Tang Wei Jiang Yan?
How did he degenerate from a popular young student to a 43-year-old "Ma Bao leftover man" who no one dared to marry?
It all had to be answered from his mother.
In 1979, Zhu Yuchen was born in Shanghai, and he also had an older sister.
But it was clear that he was more favored than his sister.
Parents have high hopes for Zhu Yuchen, and mothers regard their sons as treasures in the palms of their hands.
The living conditions of the Zhu family are not superior, just an ordinary family that can no longer be ordinary.
But Mother Zhu still gave all her efforts for Zhu Yuchen.
Aware that Zhu Yuchen may like piano,
Mother Zhu spent a lot of money to buy a piano for her son and came back,
It was the 80s of the last century, and few families could afford an expensive piano.
The Zhu family is no exception, but Zhu Mama just tried to break through the difficulties and bought the piano.
Kids are three minutes hot for everything,
Zhu Yuchen's interest in piano soon faded,
But his mother forced him to practice the piano every day, and he was not allowed to be lazy.
Whether it was windy, rainy or unwell, he would practice the piano for hours without moving.
In addition, all the breakfasts in Zhu Yuchen from primary school to high school are responsible for his mother.
At one point, the mother proudly said: "We have no maids in our house, I am my son's mobile kitchen." ”
From eating, wearing, living and traveling, to life choices, Zhu Yuchen's life must all be listened to by her mother.
He also thought about rebellion, and during the rebellious period, Zhu Yuchen secretly applied for the acting major from his mother.
He did not choose the opera at the doorstep of his home, but chose the Chinese opera in Beijing.
Because in this way you can stay away from home and get out of your mother's control.
In order to be admitted to the Chinese opera, Zhu Yuchen forgot to eat and sleep, and studied very hard every day.
However, he still fell behind, and he was discouraged outside the door of the Chinese opera.
For the first time, he felt frustrated by hiding in the protective shell built by his mother.
Zhu Yuchen felt that his life had reached the bottom of the valley,
When he turned around, he met his own love.
That year, there was also Tang Wei, who was outside the school gate of the Chinese opera,
Two frustrated young men fell in love at first sight and quickly fell in love.
For Tang Wei and Zhu Yuchen, the sadness brought by falling off the list is huge.
But the two didn't get decadent for long,
They encouraged each other to persevere, and agreed to be admitted to the Chinese opera together next year.
In order to be able to review better, Zhu Yuchen stayed in Beijing,
Spent 300 yuan to rent a house next to the school, and fell in love while studying.
This should be the happiest time in Zhu Yuchen's life,
Without the intervention of the mother, wandering in the ocean of love,
Talked about a love that will never be forgotten.
A year later, Zhu Yuchen was successfully admitted to the Chinese opera through re-reading, and Tang Wei fell off the list again.
That's when the two men disagreed.
Before the college entrance examination, because of the huge pressure, Zhu Yuchen and Tang Wei constantly broke out quarrels,
After the results came out, the disheartened Tang Wei and Zhu Yuchen parted ways.
He began the road of re-examination alone, and Zhu Yuchen's first love ended.
Many years later, he recalled with regret:
"I was too young at the time", ignorance and ignorance made him miss his first love.
The results of the admission spread to the family, and the mother's face could not see a little joy,
Zhu's mother did not agree to her son to become an actor, but the result was irretrievable.
She had to compromise and pack her son's luggage and send him to school to report.
The first thing Mother Zhu did when she went to the Chinese opera dormitory,
It was the full dormitory that asked: "Classmate, do you sleep and snore?" ”
When she learned that no one was snoring in the dormitory, she breathed a sigh of relief:
"Just don't snore, or you'll be noisy to my son when you sleep."
The housemate felt ridiculous and ridiculous after hearing this sentence, but more absurd things were still to come.
After inspecting the environment of the Chinese opera, Zhu's mother was quite dissatisfied with the climbing tigers planted outside the dormitory building.
The intention of the school leaders is good, and the large area of climbing tigers looks green,
Can relax people's eyes and mood,
But Mother Zhu didn't think so: "This will attract insects, I have to take boiling water to burn these climbing tigers to death." ”
Zhu Yuchen blushed shyly and desperately tried to stop it from the side, and her mother gave up this idea.
During his college years, he gained a short period of freedom to hone his acting skills without restraint.
And I'm looking forward to the opportunity to prove myself.
After cooperating with Li Bingbing on "Hui Niang Wanxin", he began to look for a bigger stage.
At that time, the most famous director in the TV drama industry was Zhao Baogang,
The ratings and word-of-mouth of the dramas he made were very impressive, and they became popular with Liu Ye, Chen Kun and other big coffee.
When I learned that Zhao Baogang was preparing for the new TV series "Struggle",
Zhu Yuchen quickly rushed to the crew to prepare to meet with the director.
Zhu Yuchen took the role of "Huazi",
But Zhao Baogang already had a candidate in mind at that time.
I hope that the more famous Ren Zhong will star in "Huazi",
He loves the character and is not ready to change the role.
When the agent took Zhu Yuchen to see the director,
Zhao Baogang was choosing a carpet on the stall,
Ordinary actors will squat down to show respect when they see the director crouching,
But Zhu Yuchen stood proudly on Zhao Baogang,
Looking down at this famous director, he introduced himself unceremoniously: "I am Zhu Yuchen." ”
Zhao Bao just squatted on the ground and looked up at this newcomer actor,
I think his temperament is lazy and uninhibited, and he is very similar to the character of Hanako,
Immediately decided to replace Ren Zhong to let him play Huazi,
This decision directly changed Zhu Yuchen's fate.
In 2007, "Struggle" became the annual hit drama, opening the precedent of youth inspirational drama.
The actors who participated in the show became popular because of this drama,
Ma Yili's article Tong Da is Zhu Yuchen because the fame of this drama has increased greatly, and he has become a first-line actor.
After that, Zhu Yuchen participated in Zhao Baogang's "Who Decides My Youth", and his fame went to a higher level.
Together with Hu Ge, Lin Yushen, and Zhang Junning, he was known as the Four Great Students, and he burned through half the sky in the interior.
Looking at Zhu Yuchen red, the mother's heart could not say the joy,
Vowed to be the strong backing of his son, so that he has no worries.
In the heart of Zhu Yuchen's mother, her son has become a big star.
But still a child, she took care of her son like a baby.
Hearing that pear juice is good for her body, she squeezed juice for her son to drink every day and did not allow him to drink water.
When her son posted a microblog to record his life, she bought a thick book and copied down all the microblogs sent by her son, scaring Zhu Yuchen into not daring to send microblogs again.
I heard that someone said bad things about his son on the Internet,
Mother Zhu was furious and wanted to find out the person's real name information,
Create your own trumpet to speak for your son,
And proudly said: "Everyone knows that I have given my whole life to my son." ”
She "tops two nannies by herself", changing tricks every day to cook for her son.
Either give him soup to replenish his body, or squeeze him juice to quench his thirst.
But when Zhu Yuchen showed a little dissatisfaction, Mother Zhu said in a tone that was about to cry:
"Don't you like it? This is what your mother did for you. ”
Zhu Yuchen could only soften his heart again and again, and then he simply gave up confronting his mother:
"Anyway, as soon as I resisted, she said I was not filial piety,
In the end, I still accepted it, so I might as well accept it at the beginning. ”
The heart is content to accept the maternal love that ordinary people cannot bear.
Mother Zhu not only has to control her son's life, but also to control her son's feelings.
She herself said: "I have participated in every relationship of the child",
When Zhu Yuchen filmed "The Story of Time and Yin", she and the actress Jiang Yan in the same group had an affair because of the play.
Mama Zhu was once very satisfied with her,
Because Jiang Yan loves cooking, she often shares food with other actors in the crew,
Mama Zhu felt that this was a girl who cared for her family.
But Jiang Yan's true character is fiery and brave,
Cooking is just her hobby, not a specialty she deliberately wants to learn.
There are many contradictions between the avant-garde and dashing Jiang Yan and Zhu Ma,
In the end, Zhu Ma beat Mandarin Duck and asked the two to break up.
After Jiang Yan, Mama Zhu took a fancy to Huo Siyan, who was also an actress, and hoped that she could be her daughter-in-law.
But Huo Siyan saw it very clearly,
Feeling that Mama Zhu was not looking for a daughter-in-law, but a new mother for her son, she politely rejected her.
After people in the show business circle know Zhu Ma's strong desire for control, they are less and less in love with Zhu Yuchen.
Zhu Mama's parenting views have also made many celebrities quite critical,
The son complained: "My mother's love makes me feel very depressed",
Da Zhang Wei complained: "What age is it now that we still pay attention to the division of labor between men and women?
The era of male and female weavers is long gone. ”
Euphemistically criticized Mama Zhu for finding her daughter-in-law with criteria such as "taking care of the family and filial piety".
It may be that the criticism of the crowd has awakened Zhu Ma's mind,
She began to realize that she had to let go and let her son live on his own.
But it seems that it is too late, zhu Yuchen, who is already 43 years old, is still unmarried.
Because for a long time, I don't drink water but only drink Zhu Ma's love juice,
His face was frequently poxed, he looked haggard, and he no longer had the spirit of the past.
Falling from the altar of the "Four Great And Great Students" who sat on an equal footing with Hu Ge,
Zhu Yuchen's current situation makes people sigh,
Hopefully, he will soon know that it is not necessarily a good thing to be too obedient to his parents.
Adults must learn to control their own lives,
Before you can find your own happiness, you must get rid of the shackles of "maternal love".