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Time flies, time flies, and Zhu Yuchen, who once had countless brilliant achievements, has now stepped into the threshold of 44 years old. Now, his life situation is like falling into the abyss, falling into a downturn.
At the filming site of a variety show, he couldn't control his emotions, tears came out of his eyes, and he shouted to the camera in pain: "Is anyone really willing to be by my side?" This sentence deeply touched the endless loneliness and strong desire to be understood in his heart.
This charming man, Zhu Yuchen, was born in the beautiful Pearl of the Orient - Shanghai, and once became a high-profile star overnight because of his superb performance in the TV series "Struggle".
At that time, his handsome and chic appearance and gentle temperament won the enthusiastic pursuit of the audience, and he was as famous as Hu Ge, Lin Shen and other first-line actors, but now he has become a "marginal figure" in the entertainment industry, his interpersonal relationship has broken down, and his career has fallen into unprecedented difficulties.
The crux of the problem may be that Zhu Yuchen has been meticulously cared for and strictly controlled by his mother Zhu Xiangling since he was a child. Zhu Xiangling, an artistic woman, once held important positions in the local art troupe.
Since having her son Zhu Yuchen, she did not hesitate to give up her job and devote herself wholeheartedly to the raising of her children.
Since childhood, Zhu Yuchen's life has been almost completely controlled by his mother. Zhu Xiangling always gets up earlier than her son in the morning, carefully cooks a variety of nutritious food, and even insists on going to Beijing in person when her son enters college, trying to occupy her son's dormitory and always pay attention to his every move.
This kind of over-care, which is almost a "nanny", makes the originally lively and cheerful Zhu Yuchen gradually become a "mom treasure man".
During the days when he was studying in Chinese opera, Zhu Yuchen even had thoughts of suicide. He couldn't stand the ridicule of his classmates, and he couldn't stand his mother's frequent visits and interference in his life.
This pain of not being able to get free space made him suffer a lot in adolescence, fortunately, with his talent and outstanding appearance, Zhu Yuchen finally successfully completed his studies and embarked on his own acting path.
Zhu Xiangling's overprotection and interference have always shrouded Zhu Yuchen's life like a shadow. Professionally and emotionally, he never seems to be able to make his own decisions on his own.
The confusion in real life and the bottleneck of his career, the loneliness in the depths of his soul and the relationship network full of social obstacles, these troubles made Zhu Yuchen, the once glorious "mom bao man", finally unable to bear the deep desire and pain in his heart, revealing the reasons behind this tragedy in life.
And these can be traced back to his education method of his mother, Zhu Xiangling, who strictly controlled it in the palm of his hand.
Since childhood, Zhu Yuchen has grown up under the strict supervision of his mother Zhu Xiangling. This kind of education not only affected his studies, but also set up many obstacles in his emotional world.
Zhu Yuchen's first love happened on the campus of Chinese opera, when he fell in love with Tang Wei of the same class. Both of them have outstanding appearances, and their relationship is getting deeper and deeper. They even planned to rent an off-campus apartment and plan for a bright future together.
Zhu Xiangling, the mother who has always strictly controlled her son's life, has become dissatisfied with this intellectually beautiful Tang Wei.
She believes that this "pampered" woman cannot take on the responsibility of taking care of her son, and only those women who are more virtuous and housekeepers can match their "treasures". Under Zhu Xiangling's continuous interference, Tang Wei finally chose to leave, leaving Zhu Yuchen alone to face the twists and turns of life.
A few years later, Zhu Yuchen had an affair with another well-known actress, Huo Siyan. They all felt each other's attraction in the crew, and there were even rumors that they had discussed marriage.
Just when the relationship was about to sublimate, Zhu Xiangling's reputation once again became an obstacle According to Huo Siyan's later statement, what Zhu Xiangling was looking forward to was not a brand-new daughter-in-law, but a mother role that was more in line with her heart.
Faced with such expectations, Huo Siyan finally chose to give up this relationship. When the 33-year-old Zhu Yuchen ushered in the opportunity again and met the famous actor and chef Jiang Yan, his mother Zhu Xiangling still couldn't let go of the worries in her heart.
This time, she launched an attack on her target, expressing dissatisfaction with Jiang Yan's "fashionable and bright" dress, believing that this image was not suitable for her son's girlfriend.
In the end, this relationship, which lasted for more than two years, also ended in failure.
A closer look at Zhu Yuchen's love process reveals that his mother, Zhu Xiangling, has become the biggest obstacle to emotional development! Her powerful control has even reached such an extreme point that she expects her future daughter-in-law to fully meet her high standards for a "perfect daughter-in-law".
Whether it is the "noble temperament" of the popular actor Tang Wei, the talented Huo Siyan who is regarded by her as an "incomparable mother-son relationship", or the "avant-garde pioneer" of fashion trend spokesperson Jiang Yan, none of them have been approved by Zhu Xiangling.
Zhu Yuchen's experience has undoubtedly attracted widespread social attention and even inspired people's enthusiasm for in-depth discussion. What kind of maternal love can be distorted to this point? Zhu Xiangling's "overprotection" not only deprived her son of the independent living space he deserved, but also ruthlessly destroyed his three relationships that might have brought happiness.
In the name of "thinking about her son", she is actually satisfying her narrow fantasy of the "perfect son". And this kind of deteriorating maternal love can only lead to the tragedy of her son's life in the end.
When Zhu Yuchen suffered setbacks in his relationship again and again, the emotion in his heart can be imagined. He was once the center of attention, but now he has fallen into the predicament of "losing popularity".
The source of all this seems to be traced back to the mother who never gave up.
What is sad is that Zhu Yuchen's sister has not yet been able to enter the palace of marriage because of the pressure of family concepts. Is this just a microcosm of Chinese-style family education, or is it a special situation of individual families?
In 2007, Zhu Yuchen, who was labeled as a "mom treasure man" by the media, became popular overnight with the TV series "Struggle" and quickly became one of the most watched stars at that time. However, even when his career was in full swing, he was always accompanied by the "shadow" that he couldn't get rid of - his mother Zhu Xiangling.
Since childhood, Zhu Yuchen's life has been under the strict control of his mother Zhu Xiangling. Zhu Xiangling not only asked her son to only move within her line of sight, but even his study and life routine had to be carried out according to her plan.
Even when her son entered the critical stage of his university life, she still firmly opposed her son's independent life, and went to Beijing alone to try to forcibly occupy her son's dormitory.
This cage-like growth experience has had a profound and indelible impact on Zhu Yuchen's personality and life path. While studying at the Central Academy of Drama, he was in despair and almost had suicidal thoughts, and he could not bear the ridicule of his classmates and the endless visits and interference of his mother.
Fortunately, with his otherworldly acting talent and handsome and charming appearance, Zhu Yuchen was able to successfully tide over the difficulties, graduate smoothly and step into his own acting career.
On the occasion of 2007, with the wonderful performance in the TV series "Struggle", Zhu Yuchen became famous and instantly became a hot first-line star, and major TV media threw olive branches to him and invited him to participate in various works.
Undoubtedly, this is undoubtedly a pinnacle moment of his acting career!
Even when his career was in full swing, he was always accompanied by his mother, Zhu Xiangling, who could not get rid of him.
Zhu Xiangling not only insisted on accompanying her son to various crews, but also cooked for him and cooked every delicious meal for him. She always pays attention to her son's performance in the play, and once she finds out that Zhu Yuchen is hurt or unfairly, she will immediately come forward, and even criticize the crew harshly.
Zhu Xiangling's behavior undoubtedly cast a haze on Zhu Yuchen's acting career.
The directors gradually realized that if they wanted to work with Zhu Yuchen, they had to learn how to deal with his mother skillfully. Some directors even choose to give up directly, unwilling to cause such "trouble".
Zhu Yuchen's career, under the excessive protection and interference of his mother, gradually went to a bleak state.
From a high-profile star to an obscure marginal figure now, Zhu Yuchen's life trajectory is really suffocating. This tragedy of fate has profoundly revealed all kinds of shortcomings in traditional Chinese family education.
Excessive protection and interference seem to have become an insurmountable gap on the road of Zhu Yuchen's life. Since he was a child, he has been tightly bound by his mother Zhu Xiangling, and he can't even arrange his daily life independently.
Even in the most brilliant stage of her career, Zhu Xiangling still follows her son at all times, not letting go of any opportunity to intervene.
This distortion of maternal love not only completely destroyed Zhu Yuchen's acting career, but also brought him endless troubles in interpersonal communication. He used to have an extensive network of relationships, but with his mother's frequent interventions, these relationships gradually became distant.
Now, Zhu Yuchen has quietly become a "corner character" in the entertainment industry, with few friends, and his personal career has fallen into an unprecedented predicament.
In addition to lamenting, we have to notice that Zhu Yuchen's sister has not yet been able to step into the sacred hall of marriage because of the heavy oppression of family thoughts. Such a phenomenon once again reveals the bitter fruits of "Chinese-style family education".
Parents often hold high the banner of "love their children as their lives", but they are never able to understand the true desires of their children's hearts, and instead deprive them of the right to live independently.
Perhaps, only when Zhu Xiangling can finally let go and let his son go to the world independently, can Zhu Yuchen truly embark on his own life journey. Sadly, however, this realization seems unattainable at the moment.
Zhu Yuchen's life seems to have never really belonged to him. Since he was a child, he has been tightly held in his hands by his mother Zhu Xiangling, and he can't even make his own emotional life.
Looking back on his three relationships, it is not difficult to find that his mother's excessive interference has always been the culprit that led to the end of these relationships.
Zhu Yuchen's first love object was Tang Wei, a classmate of the Central Academy of Drama in the same year. At that time, they were in the prime of their youth and had a deep relationship, and they even planned to live in a shared house off-campus. However, Zhu Xiangling, who is strict with her son, has a lot of complaints about this "pampered" Tang Wei.
She firmly believes that Tang Wei cannot take on the responsibility of taking care of her son, and should find a more virtuous and virtuous woman who is good at running a family to match her "heart and soul baby". Under the constant interference of his mother, Tang Wei finally chose to give up this relationship.
A few years later, there was an ambiguous spark between Zhu Yuchen and another well-known actress Huo Siyan. The two gradually sparked lovers in the crew, and there were even rumors that they had discussed marriage.
However, just as the relationship between the two parties was about to heat up, Zhu Xiangling's reputation once again became an obstacle. According to Huo Siyan herself, what Zhu Xiangling is looking forward to is not a daughter-in-law with a new face, but a mother role that is more in line with her heart.
Faced with this unmet expectation, Huo Siyan finally chose to quit.
Just as the 33-year-old Zhu Yuchen met another acclaimed actor and culinary master, Jiang Yan, his mother, Zhu Xiangling, became more and more worried. This time, she unabashedly attacked her prospective daughter-in-law Jiang Yan, questioning her "flamboyant and dazzling" style of dress, and bluntly said that this image did not meet her son's partner requirements.
Under the resolute opposition of his mother, this relationship, which lasted for more than two years, finally ended in failure.
It can be said that whether it is in his emotional life or career, Zhu Yuchen has never been able to make his own choices. He had a glorious past, briefly stood at the pinnacle of his career, but was eventually bound by his mother's excessive love.
Now over 40 years old, he has become a "marginal figure" in the entertainment industry, not only his career has fallen into a trough, but his interpersonal relationships have gradually become estranged.
It is a pity that Zhu Yuchen's sister has not yet stepped into the palace of marriage due to the pressure of family concepts. This can't help but cause people to ponder, is this typical "Chinese-style family education" causing tragedy?
Parents often use "thinking about their children" as an excuse to give without regrets, but never really listen to their children's voices and understand their needs. They just give blindly, regardless of whether the other person is really willing to accept it.
This kind of behavior of satisfying personal desires in the name of "love" not only completely subverted the trajectory of Zhu Yuchen's life, but also revealed the outdated dilemma of ethics and morality in the entire society.
is like Mr. Jin Yong's "extermination master", although he holds the sword of justice, he has hurt countless people throughout his life, and he did not suddenly realize it until the end of his life. Zhu Xiangling is the same, she firmly believes that everything she does is out of love for her son, but she doesn't know that it has become the heaviest shackle on Zhu Yuchen.
Only when her mother Zhu Xiangling can finally let go and let her son become independent, can Zhu Yuchen start a new life of his own. Unfortunately, such an awakening seems unattainable at the moment.
The 44-year-old Zhu Yuchen's deep loneliness and desire to be accepted deeply reflect the serious problems in Chinese-style family education. His story reminds us once again that we must re-examine this outdated ethical concept that in the name of "good intentions" actually hurts individuals.
Only when parents truly respect their children's wishes and provide them with a platform for independent growth can they effectively prevent the recurrence of such unfortunate incidents. This move involves not only the ups and downs of individual fate, but also the harmony and stability of the whole society and the road of healthy and prosperous development!
Zhu Yuchen's various hardships are undoubtedly like a sharp and heavy bell, which has awakened us to a deep understanding of the shortcomings of traditional Chinese family education. His mother, Ms. Zhu Xiangling, has always exercised extremely strict control over her life in the noble name of "thinking about her son", even to an eye-popping level.
During the recording of the program, when someone questioned Zhu Xiangling's behavior, she said frankly and bluntly, "The only thing I can do now is to pay silently!" This phenomenon of forcibly imposing her "kindness" on others reveals the biggest problem in Chinese ethics.
Parents often give unreservedly in the name of "for the good of their children", but never have a deep understanding of their children's real thoughts and needs. They just give blindly, regardless of whether the other person is really willing to accept it.
is like the "extermination master" in Mr. Jin Yong's pen, although he holds the sword of justice in his hand, he has hurt countless people in his life, and he did not notice it until the end of his life.
This kind of behavior of satisfying selfish desires in the name of "love" not only completely destroyed Zhu Yuchen's life trajectory, but also symbolized the outdated predicament of ethics and morality in the entire society. It wasn't until her mother Zhu Xiangling was finally able to really let go and let her son become independent that Zhu Yuchen could start a new chapter of his life.
This paternalistic "selfless giving" often unconsciously imposes one's "kindness" on others. They just give blindly, without regard to whether the other person really needs it or not.
Zhu Yuchen's case once again reminds us that we must deeply reflect on this outdated ethical concept that hurts individuals in the name of "love". Only by learning to respect children's wishes and giving them the space to grow up independently can we effectively prevent more similar tragedies from happening again.
The 44-year-old Zhu Yuchen's deep loneliness and strong call to be accepted vividly reflect the serious problems in Chinese-style family education. His experience is yet another wake-up call for us to reflect on the stereotypes of ethics that harm individuals in the name of "goodwill".
Only when parents can learn to cherish and respect their children's intentions and give them the opportunity to grow up independently and vigorously can they avoid the recurrence of many tragedies of the same kind! Zhu Yuchen's life course is by no means just an individual's twists and turns in fate, but also a symbol of the many difficulties that the whole society is waiting to face up to and solve!