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Preface
He starred in "Struggle" directed by Zhao Baogang and was well-known, and at his most glamorous time, he was even as famous as Hu Ge, who is now popular, and the two were jointly shortlisted for the four major students in 2009.
He is Zhu Yuchen, who has won the love of countless audiences with his superb acting skills, and many crews have thrown olive branches to him for cooperation.
With such an achievement at a young age, Zhu Yuchen's life should have gone to the next level, but today he has failed in both love and career, what caused this result?
Almost morbid maternal love
Zhu Yuchen grew up in a wealthy family, but his childhood was not happy. His mother was extremely strict and demanded not only excellent grades from him, but also a grade 10 in the piano.
In addition to this, his mother also arranged all kinds of small things in his life, and the all-round love made him feel suffocated.
After being admitted to the Chinese opera, Zhu Yuchen was ecstatic, thinking that he could finally leave his mother. But the reality was not as he wanted, his mother not only insisted on sending him to Beijing to study, but after making the bed, she was also worried that the creeper by the window would hurt her son, and wanted to find hot water to scald it to death.
Fortunately, Zhu Yuchen stopped it in time, so he did not destroy the school's property. But in the next second, something happened that made him even more embarrassed, and his mother actually asked his roommates one by one if they were snoring, so that the other party would not affect her son's sleep.
When the school year passed and his mother returned to Shanghai, Zhu Yuchen was completely relieved. In 2007, Zhu Yuchen became popular with the role of Zhongzi in "Struggle", and successively starred in the male protagonist of "Who Calls the Shots of My Youth".
The past two years were his highlight period, when martial arts dramas were very popular, and many dramas sent invitations to him. Zhu Yuchen wanted to take advantage of this opportunity to go to the next level, but was strongly opposed by his mother. The reason is that she is worried that the martial arts action is too dangerous, and she is afraid that her son will be injured because of it.
So, Zhu Yuchen gave up this great opportunity and chose to only take on modern dramas. 's mother was afraid that he wouldn't be able to take care of himself, so she moved in with the crew to help him, and even interfered with the filming progress. Over time, few plays came to him to act, and Zhu Yuchen's career declined.
Emotional twists and turns
Like his career, Zhu Yuchen's relationship has also had bright and beautiful moments, but every paragraph ended in failure and ended gloomily. And among them, it is inevitable that the mother who is too controlling will participate.
Zhu Yuchen and his first love Tang Wei became lovers at the door of the art examination. At that time, Tang Wei rented a house in Beijing, and Zhu Yuchen did not have a dormitory to accompany his girlfriend.
As Tang Wei was admitted to the Chinese opera, his friends thought that they were very good matches, but Zhu Yuchen's mother didn't think so.
One day, she came to the school to look for her son without saying hello, and found that the person was not there, so she learned about her son's relationship. For Tang Wei, she is quite dissatisfied, thinking that the other party can neither do housework nor take care of her son, and is not a qualified daughter-in-law.
With such a layer of contradictions, the two quarreled constantly, and their relationship ended without a problem.
After the lovelorn Zhu Yuchen came out of his sadness, he and Huo Siyan became a couple because of the drama during the filming. For her son, the mother seems to approve of it.
But it didn't take long for Huo Siyan to choose to break up, because she realized that Zhu's mother's goal was to find an all-round talent who could take care of her son, more like a nanny than a partner. This is obviously contrary to her concept, so Zhu Yuchen's second relationship ended in failure.
In 2012, Zhu Yuchen and actress Jiang Yan became acquainted with each other because of the play. At first, there was no ambiguity between the two, but by chance, he brought home the cucumber made by Jiang Yan himself, which instantly attracted his mother's attention.
Zhu's mother inquired about Jiang Yan's news and found that the other party was beautiful and kind, and could cook, which just met the standards in her heart, so she encouraged her son to pursue boldly.
It's rare that my mother takes a fancy to her, and I thought that this time the relationship could be a positive result, but I didn't expect that there was still a problem halfway.
It turned out that after Jiang Yan became Zhu Yuchen's girlfriend, Zhu's mother already regarded the other party as a prospective daughter-in-law, and began to pick bones in eggs, saying that her cooking skills were not up to standard and her dress was not dignified.
During this period, she also complained to her boyfriend, but every time Zhu Yuchen would choose to change the topic and never come forward to defend his girlfriend. Under such pressure, Jiang Yan was physically and mentally exhausted and chose to leave Zhu Yuchen.
After experiencing many emotional failures, Zhu Yuchen's mood became more and more depressed. He gave up the idea of finding a partner on his own initiative, because he felt that his wishes were far less important than his mother's opinion, and even had thoughts of suicide because of his mother's growing desire for control.
The tragedy of "Ma Bao Nan".
In 2018, Zhu Yuchen and his mother participated in "My Kid". In the show, he invited a group of friends to have a heart-to-heart talk. During this period, he took the initiative to talk about an old incident between himself and his mother.
He used to know how to cook, but he took pity on his mother, who gave everything for him, and cooked a meal on a whim one day. Zhu Yuchen's original intention was to repay his mother well and express his gratitude to her.
But the mother cried, and even asked pitifully, "Don't you need your mother?"
The soft-hearted Zhu Yuchen felt so guilty that he hurriedly apologized to his mother. Zhu's mother felt a sense of crisis, and bought pots and pans overnight and rushed to Beijing from other places to take care of her son. He has also become what people call "Ma Bao Man." ”
When mentioning this matter, Zhu Yuchen was clearly smiling, but the helplessness in his eyes was so obvious. After his friend left, he was left alone, and the loneliness after the excitement became more and more hurtful.
Seeing her son so pitiful, Mother Zhu, who was sitting in the observation room, had a distressed expression on her face, but she was not guilty.
Zhu's mother bluntly said that she broke up her son's two relationships with her own hands, but it would interfere, because she wanted to love her son with her whole life, and she had no ego at all. She even proudly spoke to everyone: "I top two Filipino maids!"
In the face of such suffocating maternal love, all the guests present looked at each other, and the public also complained: it was the sick love of Zhu's mother that ruined her son's life.
This assessment is a bit of an exaggeration, but it does have some validity. Zhu's mother obviously has two children, in addition to her son Zhu Yuchen, and her daughter Zhu Beibei. But in her eyes, she only has her son, she is very patriarchal, and she says that she loves her son and is willing to give everything for him, but isn't this a selfish act of self-satisfaction?
epilogue
There is such a point of view in the famous writer Long Yingtai's "Eye Delivery", the so-called father, daughter, mother and son, all watch them go away and don't have to chase after them. As a parent, letting go is a lesson that must be learned.
Zhu's mother obviously didn't understand this truth, not only did she not live on her own, but she also fell into an inexplicable obsession, refusing to let go of herself or her son. Now Zhu Yuchen is 45 years old, and finally has a new girlfriend Du Ruo, can his relationship come to fruition?