Text/BeiShu Source: Beishu Youyue (beishu2016)
Many women do not understand, obviously said that the eternal person, why one day suddenly left?
Actually, what's sudden.
No love in this world begins for no reason, and no one's departure is decided suddenly.
Feelings, although scattered and impermanent, are also traceable.
A man wants to leave you, often there are early signs, women must see clearly as soon as possible, so as not to be hurt too deeply when separated.
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I'm getting impatient with you
When a man is ready to leave, the most direct manifestation is that he is becoming more and more impatient with you.
I don't have the patience to listen to you, I don't have the patience to take care of your emotions, I don't have the patience to pay attention to everything about you.
The heat that used to greet you has long disappeared, replaced by his disgusted eyes, which are impatient words such as "you are very annoyed", "I don't know", "casually".
Even once you argue with him on this issue, he will take advantage of the problem and propose to break up on the grounds that they are not compatible with each other's personalities.
Man, only if you don't love will you be so impetuous and impatient, only if you want to leave, you will not want to waste a minute and a second on you.
A person who truly loves you should be tolerant, willing to wait, and patient enough.
As Orange Tree tells in "Luxury Man":
"He was very kind to me, accommodated me in everything, and never became impatient. He was very attentive and remembered all the things I liked, he would listen intently to what I said, with a quiet smile and sparkling eyes. ”
A man's patience will only be left to the people he cares about.
Even if you are not gentle, careful, and even a little unreasonable, he is still willing to coax you, protect you, and tolerate your willfulness and small temper from time to time.
In fact, whether men love themselves or not, many times women can feel it.
Isn't there such a sentence?
"I've seen you love me, so I know what it's like that you don't love me."
But he loves too deeply and still has expectations for the other party, so he is unwilling to admit it and deceive himself.
Women should understand that in the matter of love, forced to be fruitless, forced to stay sad.
For a person who sees you as a, leaving and forgetting is the best way to deal with it.
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Becoming more and more hypocritical to you
The most common routine for a man to leave you is to package hypocrisy as affection as an illusion to confuse you.
For example, saying that he loves you and hurts you, but never sees him have a practical action;
For example, you are often promised many things, but you have never really fulfilled them once;
Especially in terms of money, it seems that your material needs are satisfied, but when you spend money frequently, it turns face with you.
Look, the set of beautiful words, when he really lets him do it, he will perfunctorily prevaricate for various high-sounding reasons, and even push the responsibility on you, making you feel guilty.
A person's sincerity will only give to the person he loves deeply. If you don't love, you will become more and more hypocritical.
Some people may feel: "Since you don't love, why do you still drag on and waste time, does it mean that he is reluctant to do it?" ”
Not.
Not to break up, is that he wants you to completely despair and take the initiative to give up, so that he does not have to bear the guilt of a negative person;
Without breaking up, he can enjoy your efforts while looking for new goals to "seamlessly connect".
Some men are very shrewd, do not directly mention the breakup, it is completely due to human self-interest, and it has nothing to do with loving you.
So, if one day you find that a man has only false love for you, then you must be prepared for him to leave you, and there is no need to have a deep affection for him.
In the intersex relationship, the most hurtful thing is that they obviously do not love, and they still leave hope. Obviously, I don't love it, and I still make people happy.
Love is the most beautiful emotion in the world, whether it is love or not, it needs to be sincere.
Therefore, men can treat each other sincerely when they love, and they should be honest and honest when they do not love, not hypocritical and not disguised, so that they are worthy of the people who love you with their hearts.
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Increasing indifference to you
There is a saying: "The antonym of love is not hate, but indifference." ”
I agree.
Hate is the continuation of love. Indifference, but true despair.
I don't care about your joys and losses, I don't care about your thoughts and changes, and I don't care about your difficulties.
He also no longer shares his life with you, plans for the future, the enthusiasm of the past becomes a tepid attitude, and the once intimate mutual is only a cold and distant relationship with nothing to talk about.
You don't know what he's thinking or what he's going to do. Your relationship is said to be lovers, husband and wife, but more like roommates, living a clear life.
This act of pushing you away with indifference and drifting away from you is a sign that a man is ready to leave you, and it is also a proof that he does not love you.
I remember there is a saying: "Only when people are particularly attentive to what they like." ”
A person who has you in his heart will inevitably approach you involuntarily, always care about your emotions, enthusiastically share his life with you, and let you connect more closely with his feelings.
Only if you don't love you, it doesn't matter whether you are happy or sad, because your emotions are already irrelevant to him.
Only if you want to leave, will you cut off the emotional connection with you, because your relationship is no longer worth his trouble.
In the feelings, the man's inattention is not loving, indifferent, is to want to leave.
If you encounter such a situation, it is recommended that you let it go as soon as possible.
Love, to go in both directions is worth it, rather than constantly consuming yourself in such a repressive relationship, it is better to turn around and leave, in order to meet people who know how to cherish you.
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The saddest thing in your relationship is that you are full of joy planning your future with him, but he is planning how to leave.
But it doesn't matter, I believe that the people who will leave are not destined to be people. The emotions that will dissipate are not the right fate.
For those who want to leave, there is no need to force them to stay, they should let go, they should forget, and if they do not cling to the past, they will definitely be able to meet the right people.
Finally, may everyone harvest a sincere love, as Mr. Yang Dai described:
"You don't have to linger every day, stay in touch at all times, I know you're not going to go, you know I'm not going to change." Remember each other, be busy, have someone to share when you are happy, and be accompanied when you are sad. ”
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