If physical loneliness can be understood as not having the company of family and friends around.
Then the spiritual loneliness is reflected in the fact that family and friends are around, but the heart is full of loneliness, feeling that they are incompatible with the world.
The psychological concept of loneliness is:
A subjective state of social isolation accompanied by the painful experience of an individual becoming isolated or unaccepted from others.
Spiritual loneliness accentuates "the individual's perception of being isolated or lacking in contact with others."
You may not feel isolated at all.
Because I have never been integrated into the collective, why talk about isolation?
The causes of mental loneliness are as follows:
Self needs on
Childhood and adolescence are important stages in the establishment of self-awareness, and if psychological trauma occurs at this time, it is easy to lead to problems with self-awareness.
According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, everyone has social needs as well as belonging and love, and for teenagers, these needs can be obtained from both family and peer interaction.
They aspire to be accepted by others, value their position and image in the minds of others, and value the evaluation of others.
At this time, if a false self-understanding is formed, it will hide its own heart.
But on the other hand, they are eager to gain the attention and understanding of others.
As a result, this need is not met, and it falls into pity and distress, resulting in a sense of loneliness.
Lack of social skills
Everyone who lives in this world needs to socialize, which is determined by the nature of human beings as social animals.
This is especially true in contemporary times, no one can completely survive from society, unwilling to socialize, social lack, easy to lead to spiritual loneliness.
Because you don't have social skills, even if you're in a party, you don't know how to communicate with the people around you.
Everyone needs to socialize, so people are eager to socialize, but without mastering social skills, the actual communication situation is not good, which is also prone to loneliness.
Negative emotions
When social failure occurs, some people are more inclined to give up, "people interacting with people is the most tiring thing" because social failure can cause negative emotions.
If you can't deal with this negative emotion correctly, you will have a dislike and avoidance of social things.
Second, improve the sense of spiritual loneliness:
Understand the need to socialize
Everyone is in a unique social network of your relatives, friends, and friends.
Go to the supermarket to communicate with the salesman, go to dinner to communicate with the waiter.
Social networking is unavoidable, so looking at social things correctly, this is an ordinary thing that can no longer be ordinary.
Master social skills
Speaking is also a technology, not everyone is born to speak the Tao, you can not be good at words, but you must master social etiquette and polite language, put "hello" and "thank you" on the lips, even if you are not good at socializing, people will be willing to interact with you.
Eliminate negative emotions
When social failure comes and negative emotions come, don't give up and think about the efforts you've made before.
If you really feel lost and miserable, give yourself some time to get back to a familiar environment.
You can do something you love yourself and wait until you've adjusted your mood back to positivity before moving on to social situations.
Spiritual loneliness is not terrible, as long as we know it well enough.
By mastering relevant social skills and ways to regulate emotions, you can avoid its negative effects.
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