A scientist tried to persuade his mother not to continue to believe in Buddhism and the existence of the Buddha.
Mom asked her, "If I find out when I'm dying that the Buddha doesn't exist, but because I believed in his existence all my life, I've made myself a good person all my life, and I feel hopeful in life for a lifetime." So, even if he didn't exist, I didn't have much to lose, right? ”
The scientist nodded yes.
Mom continued to ask, "But if I find out on my deathbed that he does exist, then I'll make a lot of money because my decades of practice will be rewarded in the future, right?" ”
Mom continued: "So, whether he exists or doesn't exist, believing in his existence is only good for me and not harmful, right?" ”
The scientists were speechless.
In the book "Self-Healing and Growth", the Jungian scholar Li Mengchao used the record of dreams left by the famous psychologist Jung to interpret the story of Jung's life into a wonderful case analysis, with a straightforward point of view, bold and creative. The book tells us that in fact, everyone has a dual personality, many times people do not know who they are, stable identity, for life, is a stable profit.
Each person hides a dual personality
Girlfriend Dan Dan is a beautiful woman who is envied by many friends, not only is she beautiful, she is also a good wife and mother in life, and she is an elite backbone at work, which can be said that she does not do a good business.
But in a casual chat, I learned that she has actually been very inferior, and I am curious, how can such a good woman in everyone's eyes have inferiority? She told me that in her heart, it is not as sunny and positive as we see on the surface, and that she has always lived in a child with low self-esteem.
When she is alone, completely and in front of others are two personalities, two identities.
She said that she was the real her only when she was alone. Her sense of inferiority comes from the second-married family, and she often carefully maintains this family, because this is her second marriage, and she is afraid that her bad marriage will fail again, and she will make her head up for the rest of her life.
In the book "Self-Healing and Growth", it is said that in fact, everyone hides a dual personality, and the source of this dual personality is inferiority.
I don't know if you've had an experience like this:
Sometimes I feel generous and humorous, sometimes I feel that I am introverted and sensitive, as if I have two personalities, when I encounter things, one asks to put things down as soon as possible, and the other is grumpy, and the two personalities in my heart pull each other, so that I don't know who I am and can't identify.
The book tells us that the root cause of this dual personality identity is the inferiority of the heart, including Jung, whose inferiority mainly comes from the following three points.
Psychologist Jung was a village chief during his school days, so he was often looked up to, but after middle school, he found that the parents of his classmates were much stronger than his parents, his parents were just poor rural people, and his proud father was just a priest, so he went to school every day to face the inferiority of his classmates.
Jung's mother was also very strict with him, always making all kinds of rules, saying hello to his close friends in the city for his parents like an adult, and for the sake of self-esteem and vanity, he was always cautious, like walking on thin ice, maintaining his perfect image in front of outsiders, but his heart has always been inferior.
Jung's mathematics has been bad during school, so he hates mathematics very much, almost to the point of mentioning mathematics, which makes Jung a "scum" during school, and this fear has lasted all his life, because as long as he mentions mathematics, he will have inferiority, and he has a "scum" personality in his heart.
So how did Jung get out of this dual personality and finally stabilize his identity to heal himself?
This book gives us the answer.
Reading is the best tool for healing
In addition to family happiness, smooth career, high emotional intelligence and IQ, there is also a most important source for a person who is not inferior to himself.
Reading will not only allow you to make like-minded friends and enter better social circles, but it will also make your cognition awaken, make your pattern bigger, and make yourself realize who you really are.
As Jung says in his book, "I suddenly woke up, 'I am myself!' It was as if I had passed through a wall of fog, and behind the wall of fog there was no 'I' yet, but at the moment of passing through the wall, the 'myself' was born. Before that, I also existed, but everything only happened to me, and now everything happens to 'myself'. Now I know that I am myself, that I exist. ”
This is the sense of stability typical of self-identity, and reading therapy almost healed Jung at that time, the little boy who was autistic and split, and began to grow into a confident and handsome teenager.
Jung said that after the age of seventeen, he began to overcome the feelings of inferiority brought about by poverty and countrymen. He found that poverty was not an obstacle and was not the primary cause of human suffering. The children of the rich are no better than the poor children in ragged clothes, and happiness depends on a deeper cause than the amount of money in their pockets.
Write at the end
If in those days when you feel like no one understands and don't want to tell anyone, try reading the great Jung, who experienced the breakdown of his parents' marriage, his mother's mental illness, sexual harassment, scum fear... After the calamity of fate, how he healed himself and was reborn.
Maybe what you have experienced in this life is what Jung has experienced, and maybe after you have seen Jung's miserable life, you will have the motivation to resist the dissatisfied status quo in life.
Greatness is not sought by everyone, but healing and growth come from ourselves, and each of us is the master of our destiny.