Author | Small flutter
After nearly a month of the Dumei Bamboo Hammer Wu Yifan incident, the police finally ushered in the police report!
According to the police report, there is also a third-party fraud between Du Meizhu and Wu Yifan.
Seemingly earth-shattering reversal, in fact, the police report confirmed many of Du Meizhu's allegations against Wu Yifan.
1. Wu Yifan's agent did indeed invite Du Meizhu to Wu Yifan's liquor bureau in the name of MV casting.
2. The two parties drank alcohol at the first meeting and had sexual relations.
3, Wu Yifan does have mobile phone collection behavior for girls.
In fact, regardless of the outcome, one fact is irreversible: Wu Yifan's virtue, his use of idol privilege for sexual gain, is always disdainful and repugnant.
Earlier, he never apologized, and in the words of Weibo, he vowed to emphasize that he had not committed a crime, otherwise he would go to jail himself.
The reason why the Wu Yifan and Du Meizhu incident caused anger among netizens is that this is a relationship between a pair of unequal sexual rights.
Love beans do not sleep powder, teachers and students do not fall in love, doctors and patients do not interact...
It is not good to use one's own special power to enter an unequal relationship between the sexes, which is the rule of the industry and the professional ethics.
Idols, teachers, doctors... These occupations, which are related to people's three views, will inevitably have to give up some freedom, and the public will have higher demands on them, not just "not going to jail."
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Unequal sexual power refers to the fact that two people still have an intimate relationship in the face of obvious inequality in cognition, status, power, and resources.
Specific to the Wu Yifan incident, the girls who have emotional ties with him, some people have a fan mentality that regards him as an idol, and the other part is a newcomer to the entertainment industry who calls him "the predecessor of the industry".
In the chat records released by his first gossip girlfriend, Xiao Gna, it can be seen that she has the joy and sweetness of interacting with popular idols, but in the end, she is sad because Wu Play disappeared. She thinks she is in a relationship, but in fact she is just one of Wu Yifan's many girls.
Du Meizhu is the latter, she originally wanted to "talk about the right thing" and make her career further, so she participated in Wu Yifan's liquor bureau. I didn't expect that the price behind this was unbearable. When Du Meizhu was interviewed, she made it clear that she knew that the situation was not right and did not dare to escape. Because she was threatened: "Wu has a strong position in the entertainment industry, and she is studying acting, which is not good for the future." ”
Looking at These scandals of Wu Yifan, in fact, it is not a simple love relationship.
First look at the age of these girls:
In 2016, the first gossip girlfriend who was exposed was Little GNa, born in December 1996, and she was 19 years old when the two fell in love;
Qin Niu Zhengwei, who was photographed holding hands with Wu Yifan in 2019, was born in 1998, when he was 20 years old;
This year, the person who watched the movie with Wu Yifan was suspected to be Xiaoyi's classmate, born in 2003, just turned 18;
In this incident, the girl who said she was drunk and woke up in Wu Yifan's bed was beautiful, born in 2002 and not yet 20 years old.
Five years have passed, Wu Yifan has reached the age of establishment, but the female friends are still young girls!
Look at the identity: Qin Niu Zhengwei Beijing Film Academy student, Xiaoyi classmate Zhejiang Art College student, Du Meizhu student of communication university of China...
Among Wu Yifan's gossip girlfriends, there is no female love bean and actress who are equal to his power and resources. Most of them are students who are not deeply involved in the world, or newcomers who have just entered the industry and want to gain a foothold in the show business circle.
Why is Wu Yifan so fond of these young girls? Do you just think they're cute?
In the chat records of Zhang Dansan and Wu Yifan, Wu Yifan came up and asked "well-behaved", he only likes well-behaved girls. And what does it mean to be obedient?
The first is the absence of sexual experience.
What he wants is "clean".
The second is to be good at manipulation, even if you find yourself deceived, do not resist. Because this act of resistance is "hurtful" for Wu Yifan.
In fact, such unequal sexual relations are gray areas.
The weaker side is difficult to obtain evidence, and those who secretly leave evidence can be immediately punished by fans and supporters as bad girls and cunning girls.
Looking at Ma Weiwei's remarks in support of Wu Yifan, I couldn't help but giggle in my heart.
From the first exposure of love in 2016 to today, the number of girls exposing Wu Yifan has been increasing.
Wu Yifan nakedly begged to meet just because he saw photos of beautiful women's long legs on social networks.
The first time we meet, we have to feed food mouth to mouth and touch our breasts.
The girls in Wu Yifan's eyes are incomplete, they only have a certain part: white skin, long legs, big breasts... But there is no human dignity, just tools.
Wu Yifan's practice of crushing women with idol power and repeatedly jumping on the edge of the law has made him lose his qualification to be an idol.
Unequal sexual power, through casting, this is not news in the entertainment industry.
The most famous is the Hollywood predator Weinstein sexually assaulting multiple actresses.
Because of his power, Weinstein can invite actresses in and out of the hotel at will, force them to have a relationship on the grounds of choosing roles, and then use work, roles, awards, and money as a temptation to make most of the victims choose to reconcile.
He saw the actresses as playthings and never saw them as a person.
There was Angelina many years ago. Julie and other famous movie stars accused Weinstein of his crimes, but he was very tough, refused to admit guilt, and even beat a rake.
The incident lasted until 2020, when more than 100 people came forward to expose his sexual assault, and Weinstein finally turned himself in.
It can be seen how difficult it is for the weaker party to defend their rights in unequal sexual relations.
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This unequal relationship between the sexes does not exist only in the entertainment industry.
Many countries explicitly prohibit teacher-student love, doctor-patient love, and many companies and enterprises do not allow leaders and subordinates to have intimate relationships.
It is because in the relationship where there is an asymmetry of social roles, one party has the right to allocate resources, while the other party lacks or needs it, and after the two have an intimate relationship, it will cause harm to both parties, especially the weaker party.
The strong side, on the other hand, causes abuse of power, and when they fall into the world of golden power, every step forward is building a solid prison wall for themselves.
Therefore, the relationship between teachers and students will become a very sensitive word today.
China has banned teachers and minor students from falling in love, and foreign universities such as Oxford University have banned teacher-student love, including adults, and strictly prohibited all teachers from developing romantic relationships and sexual contact with students.
In fact, this is precisely the protection of the weak side, but also the restriction of the strong.
This reminds me of a movie "Summer That Can't Be Said", which is based on the real incident of a teacher sexually assaulting students at a university in Taiwan.
In the film, Professor Li, played by Dai Liren, is very knowledgeable and elegant, but he uses the worship of female students to have sex with them.
And all this is not out of love, but out of a show of power.
Professor Li likes students with bad grades, and the worse the grades, the more he likes them. Girls with poor grades tend to have more inferiority, and the teacher is very satisfied with the slightest gesture of kindness.
At this time, the teacher's power is relatively larger and more, enough to cause absolute control and crushing of girls. Therefore, many students who have been violated will not report to their teachers.
What's even more frightening is that they will mistakenly think that they are in love with the teacher.
In the movie, Bai Bai, played by Guo Caijie, began to have sex with Professor Li voluntarily after being raped for the first time.
She brainwashed herself into thinking she had gained love.
As Lin Yihan's novel "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise", Fang Siqi wrote in her diary:
"After thinking about it for a few days, I came up with the only solution, I can't just like the teacher, I want to fall in love with him." You can do whatever your loved one wants to do to you, can't you? ”
This novel is also the real experience of the author Lin Yihan, who said in an interview:
"The largest massacre in human history was Fang Siqi's rape."
On April 27, 2017, Lin Yihan hanged himself at his home in Taipei at the age of 26.
It is precisely by taking advantage of the Stockholm symptoms of the victim's affection for the perpetrator under great stress that they have succeeded in their violence again and again.
The movie "Summer That Can't Be Said" also has a name, called "Cold Cicada", which very accurately describes how painful and hurtful once caught in this relationship is indescribable.
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So how should an upright strong person deal with gender relations with unequal power?
There is a case on the network:
A sixth-grade girl writes a love letter to her Chinese teacher to make a bold confession, after which she receives a well-meaning response.
The teacher's reply first expressed his gratitude to the girl for giving her precious, beautiful and pure feelings.
Then affirmed the girl's act of expressing love.
"There is inevitably dirt in the world, and the teacher hopes that you will keep your original intention, be able to express your love without being shy, and never forget to love at any time."
At the same time, the teacher also rejected the girl's love with great seriousness:
The teacher also has love for you, the love of the elders for the younger generations, and the love of the teachers for the students.
The teacher did not take advantage of the girl's youth and use the teacher's power for what should not be sought.
Later, the teacher also responded in WeChat, "Even if a student my age expresses love to me, I will refuse, because it involves a teacher morality issue." "
The seemingly joking words show the kindness of the teacher's heart.
Some people, when you are weak and ignorant, have not plundered you, but have warmed you. It is the most beautiful memory of a lifetime.
However, there are good and bad memories, just as there is light and darkness in this world. But how we face the darkness determines how much it hurts us.
Montesquieu said: "All power is unchecked and will be corrupt." ”
Unchecked sexual power will eventually be eaten away.
Victims muster up the courage to stand up and face the darkness may not make the law immediately decide, but at least some of the powers can be restrained and the perpetrator knows that harm comes at a price.
This also wakes up later people to polish their eyes:
Even your most beloved teacher cannot coerce you into bed.
Even the idol you worship, reaching out and touching your chest, is obscene.
A man's morality is only related to his actions,
It has nothing to do with his identity.