Author | Fan Deng Reading · Yao Jin
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Xia Han
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At the age of 16, she was selected as Miss South Africa, at the age of 31 she became a single mother with three children, and at the age of 72, she became an "Internet celebrity" active on the catwalk.
This is the legendary experience of "Silicon Valley Iron Man" Elon Musk's hardcore mother, Meyer Musk.
Today, let's walk into Meyer Musk's autobiographical novel , "Life by Me".
This book will give you the strength to move forward and start thinking about your life again.
The Italian poet Dante once said:
"Life is our own, and life should be dominated by ourselves."
When we can control the initiative of our own life, we can live a life of wantonness.
And The heroine of "Life by Me" Meyer Musk is such a woman who can control her own destiny.
Although she has suffered domestic violence and repeatedly encountered walls in the workplace where fame and age are important, she still lives her life hot.
As long as you have a dream in your heart, life will not be difficult for you.
Let's walk into Meyer's legend and find her wisdom in life.
Both inside and outside, it is a weapon to walk the world
Meyer Musk grew up in South Africa, and in her teens she began working part-time as a model at her parents' friend's modeling agency.
Because her job is as a nutritionist, she often fights in a suit, feeling that this is both solemn and can win the trust of customers.
It wasn't until the appearance of her friend Julia that she began to change her dress style.
She completely cut off her wardrobe, leaving only the clothes that made her heartwarming and comfortable, making it a fun thing to wear.
She bought some simple basic pieces and layered them on top of each other.
Sometimes she wears a green or pink cardigan, sometimes with jeans and boots, making her a fashion darling.
In life, she will use makeup to embellish the deficiencies of her facial features and make herself look more delicate and young.
As the saying goes: the spiritual world is rich, and there will be light in the eyes.
In addition to external cultivation, Meyer also paid great attention to inner improvement.
She pays attention to her health and eats only fruits, vegetables, whole grains, legumes, and dairy products.
Work out for 40 minutes a day and stretch your body on a yoga mat.
She is also very attentive to people and objects, and when she finds that her grandchildren's meals are too noisy, she will teach them dining etiquette and communication skills.
She often said:
If we can be kind to others, learn to listen, always be optimistic, and avoid talking about our own tragic stories;
With healthy eating habits, a positive and optimistic attitude to life, and the full potential of yourself, you can become a very attractive person.
She advises us to manage our strengths, to make our lives more colorful, to make ourselves more interesting and smart.
In her eyes, everyone is a limited edition small universe.
Only by giving full play to their own strengths can they live out their own meaning of life.
This spiritual connotation and confidence also gave her unlimited self-confidence.
Let her straighten her waist at every trough in her life and be safe.
I like this sentence:
"A woman's true charm has nothing to do with age, it comes from the deep love of life in the soul, the ultimate pursuit of beauty and an optimistic and enterprising attitude towards life."
Both inside and outside cultivation is Meyer's weapon for walking in this world.
If we can have a delicate appearance and an interesting heart, we can live our own best state.
Because a person who cultivates both inside and outside, a person with a rich soul, is destined to have a wonderful life.
Parents' words and deeds are the best education for children
Meyer's parents are motivated and adventurous, and they often encourage their children to support themselves.
At the age of four, Meyer walked to school with her sister holding hands, and at the age of eight began helping out with her sister at her father's clinic.
She felt it was her part to help the family, but her father didn't think it was unpaid labor and would still pay them five cents an hour.
The words and deeds of her parents have also had a profound impact on Meyer.
At the age of 31, Meyer became a single mother.
Busy with work, she does not have much time to take care of children, and her parenting principles are:
Do not overprotect your child and influence your child with a positive attitude towards life.
When the children were young, she would choose to do client counseling at home.
When there is a modeling assignment, she will take the children to the work site and let them read a book in front of the catwalk.
The children were involved in Meyer's career at a very young age.
Her daughter, Tosca, helped her with letters to doctors and served as her full-time makeup artist, while her sons Elon and Kimball helped her do what she could.
She never interferes in the lives of her children, always encouraging and supporting them, following the development of their nature.
When Elon was twelve, he got all the shortcuts to writing code on a computer, and Meyer encouraged him to contribute to a game magazine, earning him five hundred dollars.
The youngest son, Kimball, has loved to cook food since childhood, and his daughter Tosca likes film and television performances, and Meyer has given him respect and support.
When her daughter, Tosca, sold all the houses, cars, and property in south Africa without her consent, Meyer not only did not blame her daughter, but also praised her daughter for speeding up the progress of her handling of this matter.
This relaxed and free parenting style allows children to have a clearer and clearer plan for their lives.
They are willing to take responsibility for their own lives and have achieved extraordinary results in their respective fields.
The eldest son, Elon, is a world tech star, the younger son, Kimball, is the owner of a major U.S. restaurant chain, and the daughter, Tosca, is a film director.
As psychologist Wu Zhihong said:
Only through independent exploration can we form ourselves, know who we are, and know the most suitable position in this society.
Meyer's wisdom is that she doesn't take care of their children like other parents.
She will make herself a role model for her children, give them the space to grow freely, and respect their dreams.
This free-range parenting style also makes her children talented and excellent.
A growth mindset is a cure for life
Meyer was born into a harmonious and happy family of origin.
Perhaps nourished by the warmth of her family, she imagined the world too beautifully and did not know how to protect herself.
In high school, Meyer had a boyfriend, and after the two were separated and merged many times, the two completely broke up because of the boyfriend's cheating.
But after the breakup, the boyfriend and Mayer's parents said that Meyer agreed to his marriage proposal.
Because Meyer was not in good health at that time, he once gained more than 200 pounds.
Extremely inferior, she became a compromiser of this marriage.
After marriage, her husband was ruthless to her, and even let Meyer paint the plane before she gave birth.
When Meyer slowed down due to contractions, her husband resented her for brushing too slowly.
In addition to scolding, her husband threatened her that if she dared to file for divorce, he would cut her face with a knife and shoot several children in the knees.
The marriage, which lasted nine years, made Meyer miserable.
After the enactment of South Africa's first divorce law, she divorced her husband and began to rebuild her career.
She has traveled to eight cities in three countries.
Every time she went to a new place, she would contact the local doctors.
Write to them again and again, convincing them to allow themselves to give nutrition counseling to local patients.
She volunteered to teach everyone about model catwalks and image management, and gave lectures on nutrition and rebuilding self-confidence.
Constantly expand their circle of friends, expand their influence, and continue to promote their careers.
As she puts it:
Although we have also experienced the blows of life, we must always believe that we can walk through the endless darkness and have the light we want.
Meyer's life has not been smooth, but fortunately she can face life with a growth mindset.
No matter how big or small the opportunity, she dared to try.
In her junior year, she participated in a beauty pageant with a try-and-try mentality and won the beauty pageant championship.
She has a positive and optimistic attitude, and after the children left, a person's life is also enjoyable.
She has the courage to step out of her comfort zone and not let age become a constraint on her life.
At the age of 62, he also wore invisible underwear to take maternity photos, conveying the concept of agelessness to everyone.
She says she prefers her current self, and she feels that every decade of her life is better than the previous one.
Meyer tells us from her own personal experience that the low points of life are not terrible.
When we look at life with a growth mindset, we can cross the critical blows of life, continuously expand our life boundaries, and usher in a new dawn of life.
Write at the end
I saw a question on the Internet: What is the best way to live in life?
One of the highly praised answers was:
In fact, life has experienced hardships, setbacks are not terrible, mainly we must have a good attitude, in order to grow armor on the wound, armor blossoms.
Life is a multi-prism, and everyone has their own unsatisfactory.
Some people have just lost love, some people complain that there is no good job, and some people feel confused about life.
But life never starts too late, as long as you dare to think and dare to do, you can have a piece of your own world.
Don't be afraid to get old, and don't be afraid to fail.
When you live your life well, time will give you a satisfactory answer.
Click "Watching" and may we all be guiding lights on our way forward and live the life we want.
Author | Yao Jin, a freelance writer, believes that the beauty of life lies in the calmness and calmness of the heart.
Column Director | Come slowly
Typography | Zheng to the north
Image | The pictures in this article come from the Internet, and are invaded and deleted
Music | "E8r Piano Song" on the shores of Lake Baikal