"The advantages of children who love to talk back are obvious, parents must not scold", the parenting truth of the Renmin University Internet celebrity professor, how many parents have been punched in the face!
Don't always want the child to be quiet and obedient, many times, the child who will resist the mouth is more advantageous
In the future, there will be more success
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Not long ago, I saw a video on the Internet
In the video, Chu Yin, a professor of Renmin University Internet celebrity, is sharing with friends the reasons why his children's essays are well written
He believes that a big part of the reason is that children are curious about the world
Even if the world is ordinary, it is very dramatic tension in the eyes of children
Another reason is that the son is usually very good at talking back
This also means that he has strong expressive ability, logical thinking, and has his own ideas and opinions
This advantage allows him to play out perfectly when writing essays
Indeed, the children in life who like to talk back
They're really talking and writing is inspiring
The creation of words and sentences is both logical and full of thoughts
It can be said that it is very good
Let's explore together what are the specific advantages of children who love to talk back
I also hope that it will be helpful to all parents
01
Children love to resist, and logical thinking is clearer
I once saw such a video online
In the video, a father unceremoniously criticizes his daughter who made a mistake
As a result, the daughter was also very rude, and in turn taught her father a lesson
Not only is the movement quite fatherly, but the language is clean and clean
Every word was said to the point, and he criticized his father's way of educating his children very clearly and clearly
He also vividly gave the correct way of parents in the cartoon
Then she chewed on the words and used ancient poems to teach her father
"I am a little girl who knows that speaking should be civilized, have connotations, and will use ancient poetry to teach people"
"You're an adult, but you only curse"
In the end, the little girl's father could only surrender unconditionally, and he was convinced of the child
Many times, children will refute their parents
Arguing with their parents does not mean that they are rebellious or ignorant
And this can only show that at this time, their self-awareness has awakened, and their language and expression ability have also made great progress
At this time, they will no longer be blindly obedient like when they were children
Instead, he began to have his own ideas and opinions
In addition, through debate with parents, children tend to be more logical
As parents, we must give our children the opportunity to refute themselves, so that they can learn to express themselves and organize themselves
Engage logically and thoughtfully in everything without blindly cutting and controlling
02
Children love to resist, and the language vocabulary is richer
In life, we often see some children
They are always able to speak amazingly, and they have a rich vocabulary at a young age
Expressed precisely and clearly
Even more powerful than some adults
Other children, on the other hand, always like to be silent, and when things happen, they always can't find the right words to express themselves
The most obvious example is when a child is wronged and wronged
Those children who usually chat with their parents often and like to talk back
Often able to quickly organize the language, clear themselves, and tell the truth of the matter
But for those children who don't usually talk much and are always quiet and obedient
At this time, they can only cry, or turn the facts upside down, and finally choose to give up
I remember hearing about such a case before
A father wanted his 10-year-old son to learn the Olympic numbers, so he supervised him to sort out the knowledge points of the Olympic numbers
But the little boy sighed reluctantly
"The great poet Li Bai has not yet become an official when he is dozens of years old, I am only ten years old, you forced me, it is really difficult to shu Dao, it is difficult to go to Qingtian."
As soon as the child's father heard it, he asked rhetorically, li Bai wrote poetry well! Are you better than that?
Unexpectedly, the little boy was also domineering
"I read it well"
Looking at the father-son dialogue, we can find out
The boy not only reacted very quickly, but he was also able to quote the scriptures, which was really promising
In their daily lives, parents must not always scold and control the children who love to talk back
Otherwise, the child's mouth will look like a rusty faucet
No matter how you twist it, you can't throw anything out
On the contrary, if you always chat with your child, you are happy to discuss the argument with your child if you have questions
Over time, the child's vocabulary will become richer and richer, and it will be easier to export into chapters
03
Children love to resist and observe more carefully
I have seen such a news
A father questioned his daughter loudly
"Are you short of pen, or lack of books, why is homework not well written?"
Unexpectedly, the daughter replied
"I lack a good father with patience"
Many times, you will find that children are often more able to point out the problem with one hit
They are always able to subtly find the core of the problem
Quickly point out your mistakes and fight back against you
Makes you dumbfounded
Just like Liu Xing in "Family with Children", every time Liu Mei said him, he could fight back with precision
In the end, Liu Mei had to admit that her son was right
In fact, the reason why children can have such abilities
It is because their observation is very meticulous, not only can they appreciate the problems in it very delicately, but also find solutions quickly and accurately
Just like the girl in the news, she explained that dad was the key to her problem in one sentence, and also told him
As long as you are patient, I will get better and better
A person is only in life, good at observation, careful to discover
They can express their ideas truthfully and fluently, and have their own views on things
It's like a child writing an essay when they're a kid
Some children always write essays that are rigid templates in the essay
The sun is always red, and the sky is always vast
They never observe for themselves, so they don't find anything else!
04
Children love to resist, parents should guide well
Some people say
Communication between parents and children can not only improve children's language skills, but also promote children's brain development
And the so-called communication here is by no means that you unilaterally order the child and nag the child
It's about asking you to talk to your children as equals
Let them fully express themselves, express their ideas and opinions, and be able to respond to them in a timely manner
Well, Shunzhi is natural, in such a back-and-forth
You will be able to guide your children very well
There is a mother who does child psychological counseling next to me
She revealed that after her son went to the third grade, he often liked to work with her and always resisted
And this mother never scolded or stopped the child
Instead, every time they argue with their children in a reasonable and well-founded manner
The two sides always do not give in to each other, each putting forward arguments and arguments, and one thing always has to be discussed for a long time
Sometimes I even write it down with a pen and collect evidence online
Or flip through various books for arguments
In this way, after one mother-child debate after another, the child's knowledge and vocabulary reached a high peak
Eloquence and homework have also become pretty good
The so-called practice makes true knowledge
Indeed, it is better than exercising children in books
Such daily interaction will actually benefit children more
As a parent, you must not deprive your child of the opportunity to exercise, and learn to communicate
Cultivate your child's thinking logic and increase your child's vocabulary
At the same time, children learn to express, learn to observe, and learn to think
Finally, he grew into an independent and confident adult
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