When it comes to Aries, in fact, most people's impression is still lively, cheerful, open-minded, and can afford to put it down.
This is not only the way he wants to show others, but also the way he wants to do it.
In fact, these are the real side of the Aries, as far as possible to make themselves happy, as far as possible not to spread negative emotions to others, as far as possible to let themselves away from the things that will make them sad.
Although there will be grievances, there will be hesitations, and there will be contradictions, but I think it is not important, at least in this process, the Aries can persist and can get growth from it.
Let me give you an example, when I was studying, I didn't do well in an exam because I was too sloppy, and before the exam, I said that I could enter the top ten, and I fell out of the top twenty.
Aries felt that his classmates were laughing at himself, that the teacher did not value himself, and that his parents were disappointed, which made him feel particularly guilty and remorseful, and vowed to get back the lost face next time.
I would argue that no matter what the results of the next exam are, this state of mind will definitely bring positive reflection and growth to Aries. Because he can feel the strength that shame brings to him and the determination to break through himself.
In fact, most of the setbacks are such an example for Aries.
Because Aries is a person with a strong desire to win or lose, he wants to prove himself, he will not be easily defeated, and he will not casually admit defeat, admit that he can't do it.
But he needs to compare, needs the environment, needs motivation, and more needs the satisfaction after success.
Even if no one affirms him, as long as he feels that he is more powerful, and can immerse himself in the fantasy of a stronger future, he can get a lot of confidence and satisfaction from it.
I always say that Aries is resilient for this reason.
Optimism is indeed the talent of Aries. But this optimism is based on self-confidence.
And there is a thing that is neither easy to compare, nothing to extract from the environment, even more difficult to find something sustained, nor to define whether it is successful or not.
This is feelings, and to be precise it should be "love".
First of all, we will score clearly, this does not refer to what is "ambiguous", "in love" or something, it refers to "love".
The word "love" is too heavy for Aries.
Let me tell you this, some Aries, when they were young, full of energy, constantly "ambiguous" and constantly "in love", even if they cried after breaking up, they would feel that it was no big deal.
After crying, wiping your tears and snot can start a new feeling, a new life.
Isn't that normal?
Isn't "love" something that makes people cry?
Just love and love, crying and crying, suddenly one day, he is tired, he wants a stable love, he begins to think about the nature of love, he begins to look forward to the future of love...
The most vulnerable side of the Aries is exposed.
In the past growth experience, Aries has always been accustomed to diverting attention is to cover the old wound with new wounds, as long as he runs fast enough, the troubles will not catch up with him.
To put it bluntly, as long as there is a slight hesitation, he begins to think about whether this thing is what he really wants, and whether he is willing to continue to spend time and energy to maintain it, it must not be what he wants, and he must not be willing to maintain it anymore.
To put it bluntly, for a long time, when dealing with less important setbacks, Aries would choose to go around.
To put it bluntly, Aries is not good at solving problems, and is not good at pulling, and the most feared thing is repetition.
For a long time, Aries adhered to the idea that "if there is a person who always makes me cry, I will definitely leave him." ”
Why does he make himself cry? Why are you crying? How to solve the problem after crying?
None of this concerns the Aries.
In the face of ordinary people, he can also really leave, while crying and blaming each other, while feeling that two people are inappropriate, the feelings seem to dissipate.
Connecting these two paragraphs, you can feel how vulnerable Aries will be when he really faces "love".
I made a conflict, I cried, I wanted to leave while crying, and I found that I was reluctant to do so, so I cried even harder...
Crying in front is that the other party has provoked himself to cry, so he can find a reason to blame the other party, and when he finds himself very depressed, very contradictory, but does not know what to do, he can't blame anyone.
He didn't even know how to talk to the other person. He will only silently doubt himself, doubt feelings, and be afraid that the other party will not like such a self and resist confide in the other party.
The Aries who have experienced it understands.
After the ambiguous period, through the sweet period, through the run-in period, there are bittersweet, there are joys and sorrows, but it is not important, at least they are still free, this feeling will not bind themselves.
When Aries really began to think about the future, began to think about stability, consider family, think about life, and face love. He will become extra sensitive, extra vulnerable, extra suspicious, extra aggrieved.
Because he had concerns, he felt fear.
But he had never been like this, so he simply didn't know how to express it, how to deal with it. He will only pin his hopes on getting the other person to give him more satisfaction and security.
What should the other party do to give Aries enough sense of security and satisfaction, let him firmly believe in love, and firmly believe that the future of two people is not within the scope of today's discussion.
I would argue that in this process, the other side occupies eighty percent of the dominance, and the Aries is passive.
I just want to say that if, if you have really loved someone, really considered a certain future, and really made up your mind to choose a relationship but there is no result.
This may have a greater impact on Aries than any other.
Because this regret will make Aries resist, especially when it is heart-wandering, when it wants to rely on a person, when it tries to face the true heart.
He is not afraid of repeating the same mistakes, nor is it that he has completely lost confidence in his feelings and life. Rather, he will still attribute his last failure to his own mistakes.
So he always asks himself if he is ready when he faces his feelings.
He still believes in feelings, and he hopes that good love will come to him, but he is afraid that he is not ready and messes up all this.
What Aries hates most is repetition, hesitation, pulling, contradiction.
And the Aries has become such a person.
So he also incidentally resented people and feelings that were not sincere enough, not firm enough, allowing himself to repeat, hesitate, pull, contradict people. Eventually, Aries' attitude becomes, not demanding, not rejecting.
Accept yourself like this calmly, and face the not-so-beautiful love calmly.
We will look forward to the beauty of love, and we will also bear the grievances brought about by love, but this is not important, because a good relationship will definitely grow up and be healed by two people together.
Slowly, Aries will no longer choose those who will make him cry, but will find someone who will make him laugh and make him feel warm in his heart when he thinks about it.