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I didn't expect that in the Year of the Tiger, I would write About Li Lianglei and Wang Lihong again.
Their Weibo divorce war began on December 17 last year and has not ended this year.
During the period, the woman released 9 "Leishen Hammer", declaring that the man was "about P cheating addiction", "narcissistic personality" and "divorce if you have a male baby".
Wang Lihong's parents, BY2 Sun Yu, Xu Ruoxuan, and black people are all involved.
The progress of the Tiger Years ago is as follows.
BY2 Studio and Li Lianglei shouted at each other, one said that li Lianglei had sent a private message, to make her legally responsible for rumors and slander, and one sent a video to prove that she had not received the other party's private message at all.
But BY2 Sun Yu has a tough attitude, and Li Lianglei can't come up with evidence at all.
Wang Lihong's uncle Li Jianfu posted a small essay on Weibo, quoting a story in the "Warring States Policy" to satirize Li Lianglei for "catching the wind and catching shadows" and has caused "cyber bullying".
Li Lianglei and Wang Lihong had an argument over visiting children, and she opened the "Hammer of LeiShen" again, and the second time she started a war on Weibo.
The focus of the general discussion is summarized for everyone, mainly mentioning Wang Lihong buying water troops.
And, during Wang Lihong's visits to the child, her and the child's safety were threatened.
Although Li Lianglei is still logical and clear, the details are in place. But that time has already caused dissatisfaction among the masses -
Public opinion is not the juicer in your living room, if you want it to run, you should use full horsepower at the right time, and the one who should be handed over to the judiciary should be handed over to the judiciary.
In the woman's description, the man shook the door vigorously, the child witnessed all this and cried, and she also "shook her hands all night".
In Wang Lihong's photos, the gift balloons were scattered on the ground, and some netizens began to feel sorry for Wang Lihong's "good poor father".
In the Year of the Tiger, the story of the two people continues to be renewed.
The latest plot of this century of divorce crap is that some American netizens pulled out of the New York court for the progress of their divorce case.
Wang Lihong's side has submitted 11 pieces of evidence, but his ex-wife has not provided one.
The court's mediation column reads that Li Lianglei does not want a divorce.
Li Lianglei quickly responded on Weibo and directly drew the key points.
1. The man's 11 pieces of evidence are all false.
2. The court asked me to submit evidence before 2/11, and I was ready.
3, the court information is confidential, the so-called netizens broke the news, but Wang Lihong is doing public relations.
4, Wang Lihong still did not see the child.
5. Wang Lihong refused to pay maintenance.
OK, at this step, netizens have issued soul questions -
Verbal criticism, let people all over the world believe that your husband is a personal scum, cheating, engaging in married female stars, sleeping with friends everywhere, recruiting J, regardless of children.
So why are you refusing to divorce?
We have written several articles before, all from the position of understanding Li Lianglei.
Today I have not changed, from the perspective of women, I still understand Li Lianglei.
It is inevitable that Wang Lihong will use the power of capital and public opinion to save his reputation for himself, as Li Lianglei said - "You are the power itself."
(From 26 years of art, Weibo has 68 million fans, won numerous awards, stood at the top for a long time, and is an Asian superstar.) Of course, it must be, for sure, that the forces behind Wang Lihong are indeed huge and intricate)
At this point, the development of things has long been not Li Lianglei Wang Lihong's private marriage, behind it is the cake of countless people, it is the interests of the whole body, and it is Wang Lihong's choice to settle down in the second half of his life.
Using all our strength to win back public opinion is one of the jobs that stars are best at and share.
Speaking of justice, all divorce lawsuits are difficult for women if they involve cheating.
Because the woman's intuition and even the facts seen, and the evidence of the judicial emphasis, are two things, the matter of infidelity is very difficult to define the evidence in the judicial definition, only with some screenshots is far from enough, and even the opening record is not enough to prove that some laws should be accurate to the image.
Sun Yu's tough attitude is behind the confidence given by the lawyer.
In this matter, the thing I want to explore most now is, why is Li Lianglei essentially unwilling to divorce?
First, Li Lianglei is the beneficiary of this marriage, which is an objective fact
There is no need to question this, Wang Lihong is like a brand, then Mrs. Wang Lihong is the side line of this brand.
Cruelly speaking, this matter will also bring benefits after divorce - "she is Wang Lihong's ex-wife" is of flow value, just like the Coca-Cola company evaporated overnight, these four words, can still get tens of billions of valuations.
(Li Lianglei's luxurious circle of friends, as well as a material life with a high foundation, objectively speaking, is due to this marriage)
Does Li Lianglei know this herself? apparently.
Therefore, she knew that Wang Lihong was addicted to gun guns, liked to call prostitutes, and did not mind that she was underage, and was still willing to marry him.
Therefore, her relationship with Wang Lihong has collapsed to the point of "I am alone with three children waiting for my father to return, waiting for the notice that you want to regain your freedom", and still cooperates with Wang Lihong at the Little Dome concert, pull-up and kiss.
Cruelly, if Wang Lihong does not file for divorce, she can continue to cooperate for the sake of Wang Lihong's wife.
This is never simply because of love, there are benefits, and there is a huge vanity at the level of social reputation, "The Moon and Sixpence" is not said, women value others as higher than life.
It is easy for people to think of each other thoroughly and sharply, but it is difficult to look at themselves with the same eyes.
Self-examination and self-examination are things that Li Lianglei, a doctor of psychology, is not easy to do.
Second, Li Lianglei's misunderstanding of human nature is too deep
When Li Lianglei accused Wang Lihong of bringing unknown people to visit her children and coercing them, she wrote a sentence - "I and my three children are counting down the days when dad is finally going to go home, and the children are looking forward to seeing dad in bed together." ”
But the other side of the fact is that Wang Lihong has now changed his mobile phone number, does not dare to go home alone to visit his children, and refuses to meet with Li Lianglei alone.
Any of his actions, and any words, may indeed be collected by Li Lianglei as evidence of rebuttal and bullying.
(Li Lianglei also mentioned in her own article that Wang Lihong had "one cry, two troubles and three hangings")
When Li Lianglei decided to overthrow Wang Lihong, she should have thought that they would never return to a peaceful state of coexistence, and everyone, including children, would be crushed to pieces at least once in this nuclear explosion.
Alas, in fact, it is repeatedly crushed to pieces countless times.
But at this stage, she is still looking forward to "counting down with the children as usual, counting down the days when Dad will finally come home, and discussing what Dad can do together when he comes home."
Wang Lihong is an ordinary person, and even the morality and empathy of ordinary people have not been achieved, but Li Lianglei hopes that he can play a good god.
Relationships serve interests, and only when they are in the common interests of both parties will the relationship continue to improve, and the destroyed are powerless to be grateful.
The last big divorce that caused such pain and unhappiness was Jia Jingwen and Sun Zhihao, and we saw Jia Jingwen's most haggard face and also heard the most vicious attack from the pillow people.
The matter ended with Alyssa Paying NT$26 million scrawled.
It took them 9 years to repair it to be able to share the frame for the child at the graduation ceremony of their biological child, WuTong sister, but all of this premise is also in the interest.
Today's Jia Jingwen has married Xiu Jiekai, because "The Distance Between Us and Evil" and "Waterfall" have a double golden shadow in hand, and the love career has a double harvest; Sun Zhihao has no loss in the last marriage but profits, and then marries Lin Ruoya to live a sweet life.
People who can say, "Let it all pass," are people who are better off now. Only those who win have generous capital.
Whether Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei still have the opportunity to go to a win-win opportunity in this life is already metaphysics, after all, this generation of newborn audiences is no longer so tolerant of men.
Third, Li Lianglei's misunderstanding of the relationship is also very deep
Li Lianglei repeatedly mentioned in the previous article that Wang Lihong is 45 years old, and he still needs his 80-year-old parents to stand on the cusp of the storm to shield him from the wind and rain, he has long lied, deceived the public, and has mental problems such as sexual addiction and narcissistic personality, and always hopes to "emotionally manipulate" Li Lianglei.
Before marriage, she considered herself a doctor of psychology, ready to reform him, reshape him, simply think "I reach out and save the people I love from fire and water."
Now divorced, she still has not chosen to stop fantasizing, and wants to use her professionalism, patience and affection to transform him and make him the ideal ex-husband.
Li Lianglei has been playing the role of "savior" in the marriage, and has also tried to control the other party with excessive sacrifice, the essential reason is that in this marriage, she has paid too much and too much, and the sunk cost is difficult to recover.
(She wrote that she gave everything wholeheartedly for her family, even if she gave up her job and life without complaint, because she was a great mother.)
Writing this article today is a bit trivial, what does it mean for us ordinary people?
I think there are at least two points.
First, don't think of marriage as heaven, marriage has always been a painful thing, and like our lives, marriage cannot save anyone who needs to save themselves.
In Marriage Story, when conflict erupts at its worst, the wife and husband express their truest dislike for each other.
My wife said: I was disgusted when you touched me, and I wanted to peel my skin when I thought of sleeping with you.
The husband said: Every day I wake up, I want you to die. If I can guarantee that our child is okay, I hope you get seriously ill and then get hit by a car and die.
Admit this, and then think about whether you're mature enough to accept it all—
Have the ability to change what can be changed, have the generosity to accept what cannot be changed, and have the wisdom to distinguish between them, and finally be willing to gamble and lose.
If you can't do it for a while, I suggest you first make yourself a more independent person, rather than becoming the absolute nourisher and giver of a relationship, don't believe that you can love to the point of not returning, impossible, so to speak, often want the most.
The second point is to admit that the essence of marriage is also pragmatism, all emotional essences are pragmatism, and the strong always have a stronger right to speak.
The weaker side, because it has no "strength", will think of all "means" to control the other party - excessive sacrifice, patience, please, or negative blows, retaliation, common destruction.
Unfortunately, it is useless, because people can't do it at all, relying on each other and controlling each other.
Why can Zhou Yangqing break up freely, after saying a bunch of big heroine declarations, his head does not go back.
Because they don't have children, but the most essential thing is —
Zhou Yangqing left Luo Zhixiang, still Zhou Yangqing, her Factory in Yiwu tirelessly operated for her life of angry horses and flowers; her social resources continued to bring new opportunities and create new pleasures; people who admired her, really fake, but she definitely did not lack the heart-pounding experience.
But at the age of 16, he followed Wang Lihong, born for eight years, and did not have time to become Li Lianglei, who became Wang Lihong's wife first, and Wang Lihong only needed seven words to completely defeat her - "refusing to pay alimony".
This is the saddest thing about me in the whole story.