Text/July Chang'an
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Good love is like a beautiful music, and the more you listen to it, the more intoxicated you become. And off-track love is like poison that pierces the intestines, who touches who bleeds through the seven holes, who contaminates who is the enemy of the world.
Two people with families fall in love, betray the beautiful love, and think that their love is the most beautiful, but when they give it desperately, they find that there are too many things to carry.
Finally, it was drowned in spit and accused by thousands of people.
There is a saying that goes well: "Love outside of marriage is a continuous high fever, and when the fever subsides, you will find that a dull life is the most reliable." We always sink in love and love, and after a certain age, we find that the feelings of the long stream of water have gone further. ”
Indeed, the person who guards him day and night, although unremarkable, is a lifelong dependent and cannot be abandoned.
Two people with a family are in love, so do it, and you will be able to avoid trouble.
01. Don't contact, don't bother, forget everything
Time is the best medicine for forgetting emotions.
Try to restrain the thoughts in your heart, do not contact, do not disturb each other's lives, and face those hidden feelings with a peaceful mind, as time goes by, the love will slowly fade, and the love will die out.
In life, love is by often contact and friction with each other, once the electric fire of love, will give birth to the magnetic field of love, if at this time cut off contact, restrain the desire in the heart, do not contact, then even the deepest feelings will become weaker.
In this world, love without connection does not exist, and no one will wait for you for a lifetime because of an empty vow.
The so-called "near the water tower first get the moon" is this truth, close to the close will get a lot, often contact will produce feelings, and deliberately estranged, broken contact, no matter how deep the feelings can not be compared to long-term indifference.
Friend Xiaojun and another woman with a family fell in love, but he withdrew early, cut off all contact, no longer sent messages, called, tried not to go out with her alone, so in time to stop the desire in his heart, with the passage of time, love, slowly disappeared.
He said: "If all contact is constantly dropped at that time, it will definitely endanger the families of both sides, fortunately, it is timely to wake up." ”
It is rare for the prodigal son to turn back to the gold and not change, and it is the best way to stop the loss in time, not to contact, not to disturb, to face life with a positive attitude, to face the lover next to you, so that the home will be warm.
02. If you don't forget, you can only stay in your heart, silently collect, and no longer overflow
The greatest misfortune of love is to meet the right person at the wrong time, and the right person has long become the most beautiful landscape in the eyes of others, and you are also sleeping with another person.
Perhaps, this is the cruelty of love.
After understanding what love is all about, I know that it is too late.
The walls of the world have long been laid before your eyes, and you can't cross this high wall no matter how you cross it, unless you push it all down with violence, but the consequences of doing so are serious.
Unique feelings keep in your heart, even if you don't forget, you can only silently store it, and it is no longer overflowing.
Your forbearance is for the families of both sides, your helplessness is full of the cruelty of life, the cruelty of love, don't say anything about yin and yang, don't say anything about God's injustice, who you choose that year, you have to be responsible for a lifetime, people have to take responsibility.
Even if it is very painful and painful, we must try to restrain ourselves, let the heart stop at peace, and bury that fruitless love in the depths of the heart, without touching it.
Can't forget, don't forget, once had not wrong, let it become a kind of life thoughts, that is the warmth of memory, there was once a person who was deeply in love with himself.
But remember, don't let the love break out again, you can only silently store it in your heart and warm your own good memories.
Just like her, knowing that all this is empty, she decisively puts love in her heart, no longer overflowing, silently thinking about it, silently living an ordinary fireworks life with the guardian.
She wrote in her diary: "Love, if you can't put it down, please put it in your heart, don't let innocent families be implicated." ”
Although this is a bit of a torture for yourself, it is not to say that you forget it, you really can't forget it, and that's all.
People should take care of the overall situation, selfish love will ruin everything, do not let selfishness occupy the heart, so that the gain is not worth the loss.
03. After all, the affair is a mirage of nothingness, and the talent next to you is the most real existence
A Zen master said to the man who was having an affair, "Have you seen that mirage in the desert?" It's beautiful, but it's very illusory, it seems to be very close to itself, but it's actually thousands of miles away. ”
Love is always far away, no matter what kind of true heart, separated by this high wall of worldliness, it is ultimately futile.
In fact, many people with families move each other, but they do not come together, and there is no mutual friction between each other, and when they come together and rub each other, they will wear off the cloak of love passion, and life will become flat, and then they will find that everything is the same as before, without any change.
It is only a matter of time before the person who once loved to the death and wanted to live will eventually become a dull person.
For example, an emotional expert once said to me: "Don't think that someone else's wife or husband is good, it is because you don't get it, once together, you will fade the aura of beauty and become an ordinary man or woman." ”
Ta is just the beauty of your imagination, and when you return to reality, you will find that he is incomparable to the person who once silently guarded himself.
Love is nothing in the plain, it is the lightness in the mutual run-in, the passion of the affair, but a meteor for a while, after the fall, only the dark sky remains.
If you don't want to grope in the dark night, if you don't want to live in the abyss of pain all your life, please restrain the desire in your heart, cut off everything, even if you can't cut it off, don't overflow it, but silently store it, keep it in your heart, and truly treat the people around you.
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