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During the Winter Olympics in full swing, in line with the spirit of "rubbing up the hot spot and trying to lean up", today Orange and everyone talk about the topic of sports!

In fact, for the two words of sports, oranges have childhood shadows, if how to learn bad people called scum, then I am an uncompromising sports slag, not only sports performance perennial penultimate no suspense, even children do games can not keep up with the rhythm, peers think I am slow and stupid, all are unwilling to take me to play, in short, the physical ability is poor to a strange point.

My mother is a responsible tiger mother, paying special attention to my all-round development, and seeing where I have shortcomings, I have to make up for it. For more than ten years, she spared no effort to try to make me love sports, not to exercise and strengthen the fat physique of my weak chicken, and her old man was really full of mobility, and under her unusually persistent support and encouragement and insistence on supervision, it also contributed to a lot of exercise in my childhood that should have died.

So, when I found out that some readers and friends asked me how to encourage children who did not like sports, I was so happy: this is not the right person! I'm very experienced with this problem!

Let's start with three ways to make me willing to exercise:

1. Find an acceptable way to exercise

My mom knows I hate sports, but she still tries to find sports that I don't hate so much.

So under her sincere care, skating, skiing, swimming, rollerblading, these expensive sports I often play, because these sports are more exciting, not very tired and fun, so I still like it. So my mom grabbed the straw and spent a lot of time and energy taking me to play. Actually, I played a lot of times and the level was very bad, but as long as I grew a little bit, my mom would be shocked (because she couldn't do it anymore) and I would have a great sense of accomplishment. Later, even though my mother was too busy to accompany me, I missed these sports and often took the bus to play by myself.

I still remember that there was a pop of trampoline stalls in the city, charged by the minute, I liked it very much, my mother gave me a lot of money to jump trampoline, and played on the day until one day I jumped disgusting and didn't want to go.

My mom often takes me to the nearby forest park for walks and hikes, and on weekends I will have a picnic outside, because the pace of this activity is relatively slow, the outdoor air is good and fresh, I also like it, and I still maintain this hobby to this day.

The most exaggerated one was that my mother found that the ice slide in a park I liked to play, every time I needed to climb very high to slip down, tired I was still very happy, that is, it was too expensive to charge two pieces for a slide, so she actually rented at five o'clock in the morning to take me into the park from the back door in the dark, and then played enough with the free ice slide.

All in all, as long as I am willing to move and sweat a little, my mother will fully support no matter what the activity!

2, social and companionship

When I was a child, although I hated sports, I hated loneliness even more, and as long as someone was willing to play with me, even if I played some tiring sports, I didn't care.

When I found this, my mother would spend a lot of time with me to exercise, and she taught me to shoot balls, jump squares, jump leather bands, jump rope, and play badminton. Although I am not very interested in these activities, I am still very happy because I have my mother to play with me, and she will praise me if she plays well.

My mother will also find a friend's child to be my playmate, she will buy some delicious and fun for other people's children, so that people are willing to let me do some sports activities, and try to let me run and jump as much as possible. Because she was looking for some of the little brothers and sisters that I wanted to seduce the most at that time, I was still very useful for this.

My mother will also prepare the coolest sports equipment for me at that time, in the summer I have insect nets, badminton rackets, shuttlecocks, jump rope, leather bands, in the winter I have ice climbing plows, ice carts, ice skaters, ice tops (that is, toys for children in the northeast playing on the ice and snow), many of these things are not bought, they have to do it themselves or friends who have crafts in the factory, many sports are excellent children do not have a single piece at home, they can only condescend to play with me.

Anyway, as long as I find someone to accompany me to do sports games, my exercise will not be less.

3. Participate in collective projects

I am not a competitive person, especially in the short board of sports, it is even more completely lying flat and ridiculed: I am just poor or stupid, sports idiot, no one wants to force me to work hard.

But even so, there are still two times in my memory, and I have been ignited by the passion of sports, and I have been practicing a sports skill for a long time.

Once was to jump the leather band, because I could not jump high, so in this project I have been disliked by my friends, and no one is willing to take me. It is undoubtedly very sad that a girl cannot fit into the group game of jumping bands.

But suddenly one summer, the technique of jumping leather bands developed a new trick, this trick is not a test of high jump, but a test of the accuracy of the footwork and the endurance of long-term jumping, and then I found that these two things I seem to be hopelessly worse, can improve my ability through exercise. So I made up my mind to practice this new trick every day as soon as I had time, and finally practiced to the point where I couldn't make a mistake in a hundred shots. Then I became the god of the new tricks of the jumping band, and the little friends rushed to get me to join their gang, which was really the summer that made me the happiest.

The other was a school-wide jump rope competition, in which 30 people from each class competed, and the team that jumped the most people in three minutes won. This competition is not a test of physical strength, but a test of the mastery of timing and the degree of cooperation of the team, this time I feel that I have a chance, not only in school and classmates to train hard, go home every day to force my parents to shake the rope to increase their weight, and finally not only successfully participated, our class also won the first place in the school!

In fact, I don't like to jump leather bands or jump ropes, but the collective project has such a magic that people can be willing to overcome difficulties and explode their own small universe for the sake of the sense of honor and belonging of the whole team.

After three useful methods, and then three taboo practices, of course, these may be useful for children with good physical fitness, and for sports idiots like me, it is only counterproductive.

1, basic physical fitness training

Running, jumping rope, sit-ups, leg jumping, squats... All in all, there are some pure physical exercises that are very good for the body, but they are very boring and tiring, and my mother once prescribed to me how many these exercises must be done every day, and then made a list, and supervised me to do them one by one every day.

I was ambitious and insisted on it every time, and every time I insisted on it for less than two months, I made all kinds of excuses to jump the ticket, and finally it was over.

No way, this repetitive physical training is too painful for me as a sports idiot, it will always be accompanied by a terrible feeling of lack of oxygen and severe pain in the body, and there is no way to divert attention, torture! Torture cannot be persisted, it can only be feared.

As a result, every time I finished a physical training session, I didn't want to move for at least a few months.

2, radical method

One of the most evil things about my mom is to compare other people's physical qualities and athletic abilities with me all the time, and is committed to creating an immersive atmosphere experience that I have the worst in the world:

As long as she meets any slim little girl, she will say, look at the size of the people, and then look at you!

Walking on the main road, she casually looks at a child running past and says, you see how fast people run, you look at you!

Even if she watched a sports game on TV, she would say, you see people win the world championship at the age of thirteen, you look at you again!

What can I do to react? Since I was so bad that no one could compare, I had to admit that I was completely lying flat...

The radical method is a stuffy stick, a small probability of waking people up, a high probability will only knock people unconscious.

3. Draw a flatbread

Of course, my mother often encouraged me, and she thought that the only reason why my athletic ability was so poor was that I didn't work hard enough, as long as I exercised in place, all my troubles could be solved. So she often looks forward to a better future for me: as long as I exercise more and throw off the flesh on my body, not only can I become beautiful and shiny, but I can also run as fast as a swallow and jump high, never be bullied again, never have friends again, and my ugly duckling who is disliked will one day become a white swan loved by everyone...

Of course, my mother said that these were for the purpose of motivating me to work hard, the problem is that her statement completely negates the difference between people and people, thinking that what others can do, as long as I work hard, can also be done, this theory invisibly raises the standard of my sense of achievement, making me feel that as long as I have not become as light and beautiful as other children, I will always fail. So although I learned a lot of sports skills, increased a lot of physical fitness, and improved some sports performance, I was still full of frustration, because I knew that I was still far from the standard of the white swan, and I tried my best, but I could only reach this point, how failed?!

This feeling is like making a scumbag believe that as long as you work hard, you can also get into Tsinghua Peking University!

Well, the standard is set too high, it really won't motivate people to work harder, it will only make people want to give up!

In summary, it can be summed up.

A child with poor athletic ability is not that he deliberately wants to be so bad, it must be because of the inherent shortcomings in physical fitness (different people's heart and lung ability, oxygen utilization ability is very different), resulting in him inevitably feeling physical pain and mental frustration once he exercises. If you don't want to do everything to sweeten up and counteract some of the bad feelings that accompany this kind of exercise, then no matter how much you encourage him to exercise, it will be futile. No one wants to take the initiative to torture and abuse themselves every day!

So I came up with some ways to counteract the pain and frustration, including: finding a more suitable way of exercising for children (for example, I am more suitable for some slow-paced activities that test endurance, skill, and flexibility); finding more stimulating and interesting sports programs; giving children strong emotional support and social support; giving children the opportunity to integrate themselves into the collective sports achievement, being collectively driven by growth, and so on.

In addition, we should also avoid some worse behaviors and aggravate the painful feelings caused by children's exercise, including: do not force children to do particularly boring training, do not use other people's standards to demand him, and do not expect him to become an athlete one day. You can let the child know the reality: this aspect of you is more special, even if you pay more effort than others, it will still be much worse than others, which is very frustrating, but the exercise itself is good, beneficial to the body and mind, we but ask for good things, do not ask about the future, do not have to pursue what must be exercise out of the effect, just need to enjoy the sports and the game itself to bring easy happiness, as for the physical fitness, that is a by-product, do not have to force.

Enjoy sports, focus on participation, rather than just the pursuit of results to win or lose, this is the real Olympic sports spirit, it is not only suitable for powerful athletes, in fact, it is also applicable to every ordinary ordinary person, even if the physical fitness is worrying about the fat house, put down the burden of thought, find the right way, you can also find fun in sports!

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