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Love is a clichéd topic, but not everyone can navigate love, and there will be many people who use the wrong way to love, even if they exhaust all their strength, they still get nothing in the end.
Love is not like a number study problem, there is a fixed formula, only need to follow a certain step to get the correct solution, but we need to think on our own, constantly hit the wall, constantly introspection, so as to find a more suitable emotional path for ourselves.
Many methods in love do not apply to everyone, and often need to make more suitable choices for each other according to the relationship between two people, if you just blindly follow the routines of others, it is likely to be counterproductive.
Some people use routines to love, some people love with sincerity, some people are too reckless in love, just patronize their enthusiasm, do not discriminate at all, do not know how to leave room for themselves, and end up full of scars.
Some people are too cautious in love, looking forward and backward, afraid of the east and the west, lacking a little courage, and can only let love slip away from them.
If we can all compromise, we may be favored by true love. The combination of sincerity and routine, recklessness and timidity are integrated into each other, do not be too enthusiastic to love, leave room, keep a measure, it will be much better.
Love is sometimes like a spring, the tighter you pull, the greater the force that finally bounces back, hurting others and hurting yourself, it is better to maintain good strength, do not drag too tightly, and give love room for breathing.
A low-ranking woman, full of a relationship, exhausts all her enthusiasm and energy to love a man, thinking that as long as she pays enough and is good enough for him, she can get the same love from him, which will actually only make the other party pay less attention to you.
Wanting to get the love of a man, a high-ranking woman is not too enthusiastic, but does a little.
A high-ranking woman who knows how to love a ruler and is enthusiastic
Don't do anything too full, and understand the truth that things must be reversed.
The same is true for loving a person, many times once a woman falls in love with a person, she will completely abandon all her worries, forget all things, devote herself to it wholeheartedly, and try her best to be good to men, but in fact, instead of being cherished by him, she will not take you more and more seriously.
Love is a seesaw game played by two people together, and only when both parties are involved in it can balance be achieved, and the game can be carried out more smoothly.
If only the woman is trying her best, and the man has never invested, then the final result can only be that the woman is exhausted and the man is gone.
Being too enthusiastic about a person will scare the other person away, any relationship is like this, if one party digs out his heart and lungs, the other party will naturally put away his own good and is not willing to invest again, after all, everyone wants to enjoy the beauty that can be obtained without paying.
And women are too enthusiastic, to a certain extent, they will lose their sense of obscurity, all your sincerity is spread in front of each other, the other party can see it clearly, has already pinched your mind, how can you be willing to be concerned about you?
Love a person again, but also understand that the lover has a ruler, enthusiasm and degree, only by controlling the enthusiasm within a certain range, properly maintaining a certain distance, do not fully expose their own minds, can we give men a sense of crisis, can make him willing to spend time to guess your mind, good for you.
A high-ranking woman will never love someone more than she loves herself
Women in the lower rank try to get the love of men with continuous giving, while women in the high rank always put their energy on themselves and will never love a person more than they love themselves.
Zhang Ailing said: Like a person will be humbled to the dust, and then blossom.
But who would like a man who is humble to the dust?
People are very selfish, if you are a wild flower on the sole of your feet, you will not look at you at all, and when you are a flower that blooms in the middle of the flowers, you will be willing to stop for you after passing by, willing to stay on your body, willing to pay for you.
Those who love men more than they love themselves, they are willing to think of themselves as wild flowers, give all the good things to men, let him become a towering tree, but when he stands taller and higher, how can he see you?
Those who are reluctant to themselves, who are absolutely generous to men, and who spend all their money and energy on men, eventually become wildflowers trampled on the side of the road, and will not be exchanged for half a point of pity for men.
Men's attitude towards you is what you teach, you don't even love yourself, and how to expect others to love you, only if you take yourself seriously, men will take you seriously.
When you focus on yourself, the whole world will come to love you
Women who are seriously focused on themselves are the most beautiful. The most beautiful appearance of a woman is never to bend down to please others, but to stride forward, fill the face with confidence, and firmly take their own path to usher in a fragrant way.
Someone loves others with all their strength, and the whole world revolves around men, and in the end they are abandoned.
Feng Xi in "North and South" is like this, her world is completely around Li Xiang, where Li Xiang goes, she follows him, saddles up for him, and serves his food and living like a nanny.
He has been waiting for Li Xiang to marry her, accompanied by ten years, and finally in exchange for a sentence, "We are not suitable."
In fact, What Li Xiang said is also correct, the world of two people has long been out of the same runway, and it has long been no longer a road person, and it is indeed no longer suitable.
Don't blame the man for leaving you behind, real life is far more cruel than you think, when you have no value, men treat you like grass and try their best to get rid of you.
And when you focus on yourself, pour all your body and mind into yourself, love yourself well, and make yourself more and more excellent, at this time you will find that the whole world is happy with you, and the male god you once felt out of reach will also turn around and love you.
Men are very realistic, love is very realistic, when you have no value, others are not even willing to look at you more, and when you have value, men will see you as a treasure.
Wanting a man to love you more doesn't take much effort at all to understand his preferences and become the kind of person he likes.
There is no need to put yourself in the dust and deliberately sacrifice your own preferences to cater to the other party.
You don't even need to be too enthusiastic, you don't need to be very active with him, when you start to focus on yourself, make yourself better and better, more and more dazzling, then men will naturally be reluctant to throw away your hand, will hold you in the palm of his hand to care.
Don't imagine love too crazy, don't overestimate love, love is very realistic, don't imagine teenage love, two people you and me, a cup of milk tea can be happy for a long time.
Adult love is more of a realistic consideration, whether a man will love you depends on your value, recognize this, in order to get the love of men.