I met a girl who made my heart beat, but she said that we were not suitable, should I pestered her to continue to fight?

2022.2.10 GOODNOON

I'm a boy, if you have emotional troubles in your heart

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Fan Help:

Happy New Year, brother. In fact, I have not added you WeChat, and have been paying attention to the public account for many years.

I don't think I should have encountered this situation today, but I didn't expect that God still likes to tease people.

Here's the thing, I was single after 18 years and had been away from love at that time.

Until this year, the family introduced a relative who was barely considered a close neighbor.

The first day I got to know her, and the next day on the first day of the New Year I said to pick her up, and she didn't want to.

I kept saying I knew the place, and by the time I got there she was already home, and then I went home.

At night she told me we were inappropriate and that she liked to mature (she was 29 of mine 27).

Then I also impulsively said that I might not be very likeable or something like that.

In the next few days I found out that I had fallen in love with her, sent her a message and called her and she didn't reply.

In fact, I don't know how to fall in love, I always thought I could really change my heart, and now I don't know what to do.

If I failed this time, I felt that I would be completely disappointed in love, and I had always had mild depression before.

And I always think about her a little bit, and I don't want to do something to embarrass her myself.

It was mainly my relatives who asked me to pestering her or something like that.

I belong to the slow heat type, these days the countryside eats wine ah, I have observed her for a long time.

Then I recently asked her out to talk alone once, and she was embarrassed not to reply to the message.

Brother Zai replied:

Whether there are any other ins and outs between you I don't know.

But you are not yet the beginning, learn to respect the choices of others.

At least she didn't half hang on to you as a spare tire,

So it's not that you're being played by love, it's just that you and she lack a "point" word.

If you meet someone and like her in a short time,

That's basically just a superficial liking.

It can only mean that her appearance meets your aesthetic requirements for the other half.

But love is a two-way street, and you can't force the other party to like you at first sight.

Including the personality that she initially got along with, it may not be the type she likes.

You are right to say that love should be exchanged for sincerity.

But the premise is to like each other, not to love each other in one direction as you are now.

If you like a person, if you can treat someone sincerely in exchange for the other party also likes you, love will not be so difficult.

Therefore, don't feel tired and not love because of this, the beginning of love often starts from the edge of the eye.

It can only be said that you have a chance to meet, but there is no beginning for the time being.

Therefore, don't pestering you because the other party doesn't like you.

Not only will the way of entanglement not make her like you, but it will easily cause her to become disgusted with you.

If you really like people, be honest.

Talk to the other party generously to give you a chance to get along, and slowly try to see if you can touch her heart.

Don't think about one step in place, the internet has given love a lot of convenience.

If she is willing to give you a chance, start with the identity of "net" friends.

At least from the chat first, see if you can improve her good feelings for you.

After a while, if she shows interest in you, go on a date again.

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