Mr. Wang and Ms. Yuan divorced in 2002 and have been around for 16 years now. But recently, Ms. Yuan began to compete for Mr. Wang's real estate, and the object of the competition was Mr. Wang's 3 brothers and sisters.
Ms. Yuan said to herself that Mr. Wang was too kind and had no opinion, and she was protecting Mr. Wang.
But this kind of protection, Mr. Wang did not appreciate.
He believes that Ms. Yuan's forcing his siblings to give up their properties is a bit excessive, because she does not want to occupy all the properties. Moreover, her eldest brother was very ill, but Ms. Yuan did not pay any attention to it, and went to find trouble for her eldest brother for three days. It bothered him.
The reason why two people have such entanglement is because after the divorce, the two people are still in a state of cohabitation. During this period, Ms. Yuan helped to run the Wang family, and the Wang family did not refuse anything.
The two men came flat. But this time, Ms. Yuan said: In order to compete for real estate, it doesn't matter if the family is destroyed.
Behind such a thrilling sentence, Teacher Bai read a kind of fear and helplessness in Ms. Yuan's heart. Listen to what Mr. Bai has to say.
<h1 class="ql-align-center" > Said Teacher Bai </h1>
Ms. Yuan, in fact, you have been living with yourself, haven't you noticed?
You have been stressing one thing: Mr. Wang is a person without opinion, and all his decisions come from the outside world.
But before the divorce in 2002, everything that happened was decided by this man. From 2002 to now, for a long 16 years, you have not remarried, and this man has decided.
Where to go about the property problem is still decided by this man. As for his parents, brothers and sisters-in-law, what kind of way he wants to win the recognition, respect and value he wants is also decided by Mr. Wang.
This man is not without opinion, but you have been looking for various reasons for him, and have always made yourself believe that this man will not marry himself again because he has no choice.
How dare you face that truth?
And that truth may be a judgment and decision in the man's own heart.
Sincerely, the golden stone is open. But as we get older, we'll find that, as if that's not the case, some things seem to be working harder and farther away from you.
For you, perhaps because the way and direction of your efforts is wrong.
The dignity that you think should be defended, the fairness that should be obtained, the interests that should be considered, are also accepted and recognized in the hearts of your ex-husband?
Not really.
Your son, your ex-husband, they think that the matter of dividing the property can be passed between relatives, who suffers some losses, who takes advantage of some, it does not matter. But if they think about it, they will feel self-blame and lose their sense of worth.
So, they have no way to identify with your defense of them. What you do, instead, will make them think that it is your control, your intervention, or even a big problem.
Therefore, the harder Ms. Yuan tries, the more troubled Mr. Wang will feel.
A lot of women, even myself, are particularly interested in being the other person's all, but in fact, this is not right.
Because, when all of one person becomes another person, the original person disappears, then who do we still love?
So, if you really love someone, you must accept his true state, and then he has us in his heart, and we have him in our hearts, and that is enough.
And the thirty-four years of entanglement between the two of you will never be without content, and the core of this content, I think, must be love.
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