I live upstairs with a little couple, or a couple. Boys wear pairs of black-rimmed glasses, Sven, girls have beautiful pupils and light makeup, and they look handsome, counting as handsome men and beautiful women.
One side of the reason is simply that girls can't tolerate dancing aerobics and often enjoy their own slimming time regardless of the time period.
One day, I couldn't help it and knocked on her door.
And then they got along pretty well.
It's just that the way it rings has changed to endless quarrels, sometimes from three o'clock in the morning to seven o'clock, sometimes from eight o'clock in the evening to the early morning.
There is often the sound of dishes breaking, mixed with the sound of empty wine bottles and tables and chairs and benches colliding.
When the boys quarreled, they did not give in at all, while the girls' voices were very sharp, and finally only the wailing in the bathroom was left.
Is this scene familiar to you?
And my mood changed from anger to unbearable.
What can't bear is their love.
Think about it, what is the source of your anger?
1. Face
Psychologically speaking, the essence of face is a public image that a person strives to maintain, which includes the prestige, achievements, and social image of the individual.
Face includes constructive face and defensive face.
Constructive face, such as a son's full score in the exam, is a particularly face-saving thing.
Defensive face, shown is a kind of psychological self-esteem, which is what we commonly call "people want faces, trees want bark".
Reactions to emotions manifest as anger and shyness.
Men have a higher need for defensive faces than women, and when the situation is beyond his control, accompanied by great anxiety, men often choose to use anger.
2. Boredom
When the relationship between the sexes passes through the sweet period, the two sides gradually put away the peacock tail of the opening screen, especially the man, who needs to bear the pressure from all sides, including social interaction and balance interpersonal relationships.
He was tired of this fast-paced lifestyle, and he was also tired of the mental exhaustion brought about by the run-in between two people.
He thinks that quarrelling, and prevailing, overwhelms you as soon as possible, ends the controversy as soon as possible, and returns to peace of mind.
In film and television dramas, there are often two teenagers who fight each other to the corners of their mouths with injuries, sit paralyzed on the court, expose their hearts, and finally form a dead party.
However, men are from Mars, women are from Venus, and the way to solve disputes violently will only erode little by little, and the love that gradually fluctuates in the wind and rain will be shaken.
A few days ago, tencent video's program "Transparent People" was quite touching after watching.
The interviewee was a female lawyer who had handled more than 400 divorce cases. Her feeling is that modern couple life has too little communication and home is like a hotel.
Impetuous environment, impetuous emotions
After the sweet period, the only way we express our dissatisfaction is anger
Not even willing to sit down and have a good chat
At the beginning of the year, the "Li Xiaolu hair incident" was hyped up.
Compared with Wang Baoqiang's dead net, I appreciate Jia Nailiang's attitude more about the practice of going to court.
At the outlet of public opinion fever, he published a microblog, indicating that the attitude was:
This is my woman, this is my housework, please don't hurt my beloved little sweetheart.
There is a particularly interesting word - "boundaries violated".
Once we receive an external stimulus beyond our expectations, the consciousness of someone violating the line is awakened, and the human body activates the "fight or flight" response mechanism.
Anger is one of the most critical responses to this mechanism.
The way anger is expressed in the adult world depends on the moral code that has been formed.
Effectively controlling emotions and cooling the dizzy mind reflects a person's self-control and also reflects his demeanor.
Switching the way to express anger, in addition to giving people a sense of comfort, but also reflects a person's cultivation.