Gu Ailing won the Winter Olympics championship, which is what the Chinese people are looking forward to, and she also lived up to expectations and turned this expectation into reality.
How was such a genius discovered? How did her parents raise her? Let's talk about it today.
First, the "Frog Princess" Gu Ailing: Genius Girl + Stanford Scholar
From a long time ago, Gu Mama did not dare to watch the live broadcast of her daughter's game, did she not love her daughter? No, she would ask the coach something like this: Did Gu Ailing land on the ground. As long as the child lands, I don't care about anything else.
This can be seen from one side, Gu Mama's love for her daughter has reached the point where she is worried that her children's performance will be affected by her own unbearably nagging.
This talented Chinese girl born in the United States is a child created by the combination of Eastern and Western education.
Gu Ailing attends one of the best private high schools in the United States, and even graduated a year early, and the principal's evaluation of her is that it is rare to see students who can combine so many studies and sports so well.
Yes, Gu Ailing is not only skiing, she also loves long-distance running, basketball, and has a good performance in gymnastics, yoga, horseback riding, football and so on.
Participating in a cross-country run got a good result of second place in San Francisco, not to mention free skiing, he was already a national junior champion at the age of 9, he won the first place in the adult event at the age of 13, and he reached the top of the annual fides league table at the age of 15.
Such a child, under the influence of his mother, learned piano, ballet, vocal music and other interest classes from an early age. And this is not enough, Gu Ailing from the primary school, every summer vacation will return to Beijing, according to the arrangement of her mother, go to Haidian Huangzhuang to take the Olympic number class, do not understand the fifth grade of the Olympic number does not matter, then listen to the fourth grade.
The result? "Coming to China to take the Olympic mathematics class has been of great help to my studies, and my mother told me that coming to China for ten days of classes can top the United States for one year."
Last year, Gu Ailing was admitted to Stanford University with a high score of SAT1580 (out of 1600, close to full score).
Proper genius sports girl + all-round invincible learning bully. Seeing this, we can't help but exclaim, this child is also too cattle!
Second, the educational achievements under the "combination of East and West"
Mother Gu Yan herself graduated from Peking University, stayed on Wall Street after studying in the United States, her father was very low-key but also graduated from Harvard University, and her grandfather also studied at a famous school, such parents gave Gu Ailing a strong family atmosphere.
As a highly educated parent, Gu Yan gave full play to the respective advantages of Eastern and Western education.
When her daughter was full of love for skiing, she respected and supported her daughter, even if her heart was full of insecurity about this sport that skated like "flying in the air", but in the end she did not hit her daughter because of it.
Recalling her daughter's education, Gu's mother said:
When Ai Ling first went to school, the teacher said: Don't correct children's typos, don't discourage children's creativity; praise them less for their intelligence and more praise for their efforts. I did just that. ”
These are the more prominent features of Western education, respecting the child's personal choices and paying more attention to the child's state. As long as the conditions permit, we will let the child act, and then let the child learn and grow in such trial and error.
Of course, now our domestic parents have also realized these situations, when the child is always in a state of being hit and criticized, like a flower bone that has not yet flowered, under the attack of a cold current and cold wind, how can it blossom?
The only flowers that can do this are plum blossoms and other flowers, but there are thousands of flowers, such as plum blossoms, after all, are a minority.
Therefore, giving love to children, than giving children coldness, will be more suitable for children's growth.
At the same time, in the face of children's learning, Gu's mother is very sober, and after comparing the learning content of the East and the West, she chose a path of "Chinese education" for her daughter.
With solid learning, to ensure the quality of her daughter's learning, good quality, must be based on a sufficient quantity.
For many years, our education has always been criticized, feeling that it is not free enough, too much pressure, too much to learn, and even criticized as "cramming education".
It is true that the current situation of education in China is an excessive internal volume, and the well-known "Haidian mothers" in the country are representatives of this type of situation, but this does not mean that the overall direction is wrong.
A good foundation, enough pressure, helps to cultivate good habits in children, habits must come from a large number of repetitive behaviors, and repetitive behaviors are often not so interesting, unless we help children find enough motivation and motivation from them.
Third, the environment and vision, the key to growth
Gu's mother is very good at exploring her daughter's strengths and strengths, and at the same time making a good integration.
In the whole road of her daughter's education and growth, as a mother, she has done a lot of things, Gu Ailing recalled her own growth, frankly said that her mother and grandmother have a great influence on her, both of them are the women she most admires, because "very confident, very brave, very powerful."
With Grandma
For her mother, she gave this evaluation: "Every child feels that their mother is the best, but I really think that my mother is the best mother, and my mother does more than other mothers." ”
Facts have once again proved that not only to become a tiger mother, it is the best for the child, and there is no need to wait for the child to understand the hardships and good intentions of the parents after he becomes an adult.
The best way to do it must be in the present, with love to accompany the child's growth, with respect to give the child space, and in the face of the habits that need to be deliberately cultivated, the environment and atmosphere are very important, such as sending his daughter back to China every year to study in the Olympic mathematics class, Ting Dad believes that such a practice will be continuously used in life and environment.
With such a strong wisdom and vision of Gu's mother, for the growth of her daughter, she will inevitably give her daughter the best imitation object with the power of words and examples.
Just as she recalled why Gu Ailing fell in love with skiing, when Gu's mother taught skiing on the snow park, her 2-year-old daughter fell in love with skiing from an early age under the influence of such an environment.
So much so that her mother said that if she liked golf, her daughter might fall in love with golf.
For another example, the decision to naturalize in China was made in 19 years, and in terms of these major decisions, Mother Gu was the most important.
Fourth, let all the advantages be stimulated
Only talent is absolutely not enough, if there is talent and hard work, such a person will not become a talent, the odds are not great!
Gu Ailing is known for his extreme concentration, but at the same time, he only trains for two days a week on weekends, and under the combination of the two, it is Gu Ailing's experience:
"I make the most of every minute on the slopes to practice and study the movements. Some players inevitably want to be lazy and rest, but I don't, and I enjoy every second of training. ”
It's love and liking, and in the process of high concentration and enjoyment, the potential of the whole person is stimulated.
So, is it better to focus on one thing?
Gu Ailing's answer is not what the average person thinks, she found that if there is no skiing, learning will become boring; and without a week of study, skiing can not be very enjoyable.
In order to enjoy skiing, she needs to make the most of her time and finish her studies well. And skiing is the reward she gives herself, and for the reward, it is obvious that happiness is far greater than pressure.
Under such a long period of self-discipline, she has formed a habit of doing any of these things, focusing on and efficiently completing them, and then switching cleanly to the next thing.
Focus, efficiency and hard work plus talent, all kinds of success factors are available, but there is still a very important ability, that is, a stable state of mind.
In this regard, The Valley Mom, who gives her daughter the most influence, plays a key role.
As a "Bei university bully", Gu Mother's emotions and mentality are very stable, in the face of various problems in the child's growth process, her attitude is calm and aware of coping, Taishan collapsed in front of her face and did not change color, such an ability is like a mainstay, in the subtle has become Gu Ailing's powerful spiritual core.
Writing here, we can completely say that Gu Ailing only became famous because of various accidents, and learning the growth history of celebrities is completely hindsight.
It's very interesting to look at it this way, no one can succeed by simply imitating anyone, we just need to get inspired like this:
1, the mother will always be the most important supporter of the child, whether in the past, present, future, please accept the child unconditionally;
2, stable mentality and emotions, is one of the most important abilities we can give to children;
3, the treatment of children, must be zhang and relaxed, vision is more important than ability, and ability is more critical than achievements, only look at the results, that is, only seize the tail of opportunity, very passive;
4, do not envy other people's children, the children around you are like a seed of perfection, they (she) have unlimited potential, just to see if we understand him, whether we learn to go with the flow, if, Gu Ailing is required by parents to enter a famous school, can not ski because this will affect learning, how will the effect be?
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