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The cruellest sentence that destroys the psychological defense line: hard work is the shame of the hard worker

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The cruellest sentence that destroys the psychological defense line: hard work is the shame of the hard worker

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In all novels, I am obsessed with detective novels, especially in recent years, after the "psychological crime", "crime drawing" and other criminal psychology have become "essential" to solve the case, this kind of novel will show the other side of human nature to the fullest, and also let each crime case bring people more reflection after fear.

This winter vacation, I inadvertently came into contact with Chu He's detective series. Chu He has published the "Heart Poison" series, "Heart Meteorite", "Wrong Pity" and so on. This time, I finished watching "Heart Madness" in one breath (at present, only "Heart Fever" 1 is still out of paper). The paper novel has eliminated the beauty part and retained the original appearance of the crime solving - the essence of the novel. In general, the whole book is full of characters, rich in detail and true, logical reasoning online, the layout is weird, composed of one case after another, and they are related to each other, from the development of the first story clue, and for the subsequent cases to lay the clues, the slightest bit, very wonderful.

The biggest feeling of watching Chu he's novel, in addition to the tension and meticulous logic brought about by its layout, the deepest feeling is the psychological analysis and elaboration of the perpetrator behind the case, and behind the cruel violence is countless psychological codes, just like dominoes, because of the replacement of one of the dominoes, which leads to psychological collapse and embarks on the road of crime or suicide, which makes people sigh.

The cruellest sentence that destroys the psychological defense line: hard work is the shame of the hard worker

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The opening chapter of "Heart Madness" has a very sense of film and television scenes - in the book bar under the big shopping mall, a depressed person is guilty of passion by some psychological cues, and the leader of the serious crime team of the Ministry of Public Security is just at the scene and deals with the scene in time, thus opening the prelude to the novel. A crime scene hides details and becomes the clue or key to solving the case later.

Every person who commits a crime has his own "perfect" reason for committing a crime, and in "Heart Madness" 1, the most speechless case is that a university professor who is mentally pathological due to his own inability to do so actually instigates others to commit suicide to achieve his experimental purpose: he implies that ordinary people who work hard but have no ambition, instead of living so hard, it is better to die a sensation, so that the strivers can find someone to help themselves to pretend to kill after suicide, and the helpers will then find his helpers to achieve his killing disguise - a "hard person" A dominican psychological experiment of suicide.

Among them, one of the "hard people" he hunted was really painful but helpless. She is a guzheng player who has no talent but has been working hard, but she was ostracized by her colleagues because of her efforts to face the image of a "labor model", and her efforts were not only useless, but even became her shame. In the absence of family love, what you have learned and done can not get positive feedback, it is easy to fall into self-denial, world-weary emotions, at this time it is easy to be "exploited" by the evil person, not only give negative psychological hints, break the psychological defense line of the "hard worker", and want to "die" to obtain liberation. Thinking about it, negative energy is a knife that can kill people!

The cruellest sentence that destroys the psychological defense line: hard work is the shame of the hard worker

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Effort, upwards, should have been recognized and encouraged positive energy, but because of the psychological pathological implications: effort becomes useless, but also becomes the shame of the strivers, this is a big blow to an ordinary person.

You know, most of us are just ordinary people, how much courage it takes to reconcile with ourselves, but at this time, you get not positive encouragement, but a hint that you are a person abandoned by the world, which is to stab your spiritual world with a knife until it collapses, but others can not see a drop of blood.

If you ask, why are they being hinted at and going to extremes?

Thinking of what Li Meijin, a teacher who studies criminal psychology, mentioned that most criminals who want to go back to their childhood, you will find that they lack the love of their parents and the positive encouragement of others. The love of parents is the greatest protection for a person's growth, the best barrier against the malice of the cruel others in society, because he knows that no matter what, there are parents at the bottom, there will always be people in the world who love you, they will always pull you when you need help the most, and will not let the evil in the dark places of the heart grow.

Just imagine, an ordinary person who works hard, works hard for what he likes, although the talent is not so high, but I am willing to work hard, what a positive and positive attitude towards life. As a parent, one is not too utilitarian requirements to how to get ahead, give children a free and relaxed growth environment, a happy ordinary person is very happy; second, do not care too much about the eyes of others, be strong in your heart, and do not be swayed by others.

Tell yourself and your children: Being an ordinary person with physical and mental health is a very happy thing under the heavens!

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