When it comes to Kang Hui, everyone should be familiar with this person, he is a famous host of CCTV, and Liu Yajie, a young sister who also works at CCTV, is known as "immortal lover" by the world. Both of them are very good, they have been married for more than 20 years, but now they have no children of their own. To outsiders, it seems that this may be the reason for their physical body that has led to the absence of children.
(Kang Hui and his wife photo)
But no, in Kang Hui's just-published "Average Score", it is said: "From the first day of marriage, my wife and I did not need to communicate and make a unanimous decision: no children, form a Dink family." This solves the doubts about the couple in the hearts of everyone, in fact, the child is the bond of the whole family, and the family has a child to have vitality. In the course of an interview, Kang Hui, who chose the Dink family since he got married, now regrets the decision.
The reason why he regrets it is not because of himself, but because of his parents, from the guilt of his parents. The sick father lay in the hospital bed for many years, and when the father who had been tormented by the illness for many years was leaving, Kang Hui was at work, waiting for Kang Hui to rush to his father, and before he could say a few words, he died. Kang Hui's mother is not in good health, suffering from uremia for many years, and has to go to the hospital regularly every week for dialysis.
(Kang Hui)
However, Kang Hui's mother did not let him know these things, afraid that he would worry about himself again and disturb his work. For the successive deaths of his parents, Kang Hui has made a new change in his life. Even more in the letter in the program "Lu Yu has a date", Kang Hui's mother's only request for her son is to let him have a child and make up for the regret of Kang Hui's father. The regret for Kang Hui's parents in this life is that they have not enjoyed the happiness of their children and grandchildren around their knees. In Kang Hui's "Average Score", we also see kang hui's parents' desire for children and grandchildren, and over time, the mother less and less mentions the idea of holding grandchildren.
Perhaps he reluctantly accepted his son's choice, but he was a little unwilling in his heart. Kang Hui, who lost his parents, may be guilty of his parents, saying that if time can be turned back, time can be repeated. Be sure to let your parents hold your grandchildren early and don't let them go with regrets. The reason why Kang Hui made the choice to be a Dink family before was that he did not want to be tied up and burdened by life, but now he has the regrets of his parents and the guilt of his parents. Children are not only the bond of a family, but also the sustenance and hope of a large family.
When we are parents, we can understand the parenting grace of our parents, and when children appear in front of the older generation, we can feel the hope and sustenance of the older generation for life. Many people choose not to have children and be a Dink family in order not to be stressed and tied up when they are young, but they do not think about the feelings of their parents.
First, the reason for choosing to do dink
There are many people who choose to be Dink, and part of it is the same reason as the Kang Hui couple, life does not want to be bound, tied up, so they will give up having children. Because life in addition to work and other favorite recreational activities and preferences, in their schedule has been arranged to the fullest. Then another child joins in, and that balance is upset.
So in order to enjoy the current life, couples will choose not to have children and be a Dink family. There is also a part of the reason, the couple missed the best time to have a child, and when they want to have children, they have no choice but to be a Dink family. For example, at the best time to have a child, family conditions do not allow it to raise a child. The husband and wife did not have children in the principle of being responsible for the children, and as a result, they waited for the economic strength to be better, but they did not have children again. Thus forced to choose to be a Dink family.
Second, the advantages of being a Dink family
No children is equivalent to life without entanglement, other families in the time of raising children, couples can do what they like. No need to run day and night for the sake of children, life is free and unrestrained. Without the pressure of succession, life is no longer so busy.
After this big expense of not having children, the quality of life has also greatly improved. Not only that, but there are also data that show that the divorce rate of the Dink family is very low and low. Because the husband and wife have common hobbies and do not quarrel over the children, such a husband and wife relationship is very strong, and the husband and wife live happily and harmoniously.
Third, the shortcomings of being a Dink
Although the Dinks have certain advantages, there is a lot less joy and happiness without children. Although there was no pressure to raise children when he was young, he also lived alone and helplessly in his later life. Although the old idea of "raising children and preventing the elderly" is no longer advocated, having a child around in the old age will not be very lonely. When you are sick, there are children waiting around; when there are things, there are children discussing together; when bored, there are children around to relieve boredom.
Such laughter is not available to the Dink family, nor can they experience the joy brought by children. Of course, choosing a Dink family is subject to pressure that others do not have, such as: pressure from parents who want grandchildren, and the traditional thinking of the older generation is rarely able to accept their children as Dinks without children.
They believe that there is life with children, and there is hope with children. There are also strange visions from outsiders that do not understand, with the development of the times, people's thinking is also constantly improving. But a family needs the birth of a child, and it also needs the joy and laughter of the child. Therefore, a family has not seen the birth of a child for a long time, and the people around it have also discussed it.
Fourth, correctly view the Dinks
In our daily lives, we also have the Dinks around us. We should look at them correctly, respect their choices, and not look at them with colored glasses. Everyone's choices are different, and every family's lifestyle is different. Some people are born to like children, and there will be people who naturally dislike children.
Some people say that the Dinks are quite selfish, saying that they don't want children if they don't want children, and don't think about their parents. But in fact, they don't have a child because their parents want a child, just like the task is completed. Children born in this way will not be happy, and the Dinks' practice of not wanting children is a manifestation of responsibility for children.
(Kang Hui Tu)
summary:
Like the Kang Hui couple who chose the Dink family, there are many in life. You must know that heaven is fair, just like the Kanghui couple, although there are no children, but the husband and wife are both excellent. They also have regrets in life, but they gain a lot in their work. In this society that advocates freedom and equality. Everyone has the right to choose their own way of life and should not be bound by the opinions and opinions of others. There is no absolute right or wrong in the world, everything is made by your own heart, and since you have made a choice, don't care about the eyes of others.