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The "Augmented Sages" has a saying: "Learning is like sailing against the current, if you don't advance, you will retreat; your heart is like a plain horse, easy to let go and difficult to chase." ”
The meaning of this statement is: "Learning is like sailing against the current, to keep making progress, and if you don't work hard, you will retreat." Learning is like a horse running on a plain, and if you don't pay attention to the horse running, you can't catch up. ”
Life, is like this, if you do not progress, then you will slowly regress, indulge your laziness easily, it is difficult to start from scratch and be diligent.
I'm often asked, "How can a person be better?" ”
In fact, for most ordinary people, as long as they do not change the difference, they are slowly getting better.
Because for ordinary people, their progress is often very small, which requires long years of persistence, dripping water can penetrate the stone, everything is done naturally, most people's progress, in fact, need to cross the time of persistence, in order to see the results.
It takes time for a person to prove that a person is getting better, and a person's deterioration is clear at a glance.
The beginning of a person's "deterioration" is like this
The beginning of a person's deterioration begins with various complaints about negative energies
There is a term in psychology called "self-fulfilling prophecy."
"Self-fulfilling prophecy" means: "The words that a man often says may become prophecies of his own life." ”
Because people are very narcissistic animals, once you say a word, you fall in love with your own statement, and in order to prove that "I said" is right, you will push things in this direction.
The more a person complains that he can't do it, the more he will not do it, and the more a person feels that his future will not be bad, then the future will not be too bad.
Our outer life, that is, fate, is often the result of our inner consciousness, which spends a lot of time pushing.
For a person, pay attention to the words that you usually like to say, because it has great significance for you, and maybe that is your future life.
The beginning of a person's deterioration begins with complaining about negative energy.
Life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten, and no one's life is easy. Complaining about it, there is no point except to make yourself feel worse and make yourself worse.
In addition, the more a person likes to complain, the more he will not meet his own nobles.
They all say: "Things are clustered in groups, and people are divided into groups." ”
The noble people in a person's life are often positive, and they are often people who do not lean towards the person who emits negative energy, because the real achievement is to complete each other, not to let the other party make themselves worse.
You will find that those who always exude negative abilities rarely have friends, and this is the reason why.
When your friends are with you, they will only get worse and not better, and your friends will naturally not come near you again.
When you give up on yourself, naturally no one else will come to save you.
Even the saviors, the people they save, are people with the will to survive.
The beginning of a person's deterioration begins with boasting about himself
I once read a sentence like this: "A man who is truly rich in his heart never shows off everything he has, he does not tell others what books he has read, what cars he has driven, where he has been, how many clothes he has, what jewelry he has bought, because he has no sense of inferiority." ”
This is deeply true.
A few days ago, a Tsinghua professor's "cycling photo" was exposed, which caused a lot of discussion for a while.
Professor Qian's low profile and humility have punched many people in the face
A professor who has made outstanding contributions, but has not driven a luxury car and wears a famous brand, in fact, even if he is high-profile, there is nothing wrong with it, but the more connotative people are, the more low-key, because in their hearts, personal insignificance, realizing self-worth and contributing to the country is the most important thing.
Although his life was very simple, his heart was very rich and rich.
Showing off too much will not only anesthetize yourself, make yourself no longer motivated and worse, but even bring trouble to yourself.
Just like the uncle who raised fish to get rich, he had made a fortune in a low-key manner, but because of his high-profile flaunting wealth, he attracted people's eyes, and the fish pond was drugged, making him ruined, and he returned to the pre-liberation period.
The old ancestors said: "Do things modestly, be low-key."
This is not unreasonable, but many people do not understand it.
The beginning of a person's deterioration, never acknowledging the excellence of others.
In reality, there is such a person that they do not recognize the excellence of others at all.
In their cognition, the excellence of others is just good luck, if they have that luck will be better than them, think that they are not worse than anyone, and then show off their knowledge and ability everywhere.
But as everyone knows, the better people are, the more low-key they are, rather than going around showing off.
The more something is missing in a person's heart, the more he will show off something
Because in order to hide their problems, they will show off everywhere.
When a person is unwilling to admit the excellence of others, it begins to slowly deteriorate.
Because you can't see the gap between the two sides and can't recognize your own problems, you naturally can't really grow, and then live in your own delusions, and naturally become worse and worse.
I'm often asked, "When I find myself getting worse, how do I change myself?" ”
To change yourself, in fact, it is not difficult, that is, to start from the simplest things, when you complete a thing, after having confidence, you will not feel that the things behind you are as difficult as imagined.
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