When the child was crying, I just wanted to catch her and beat her up. Get up in the morning, the boss did not wear clothes to play with toys, I said a word to her, caused her negative emotions, as soon as I saw her crying, my heart came to breathe, blood rushed to the brain door at once, eager to beat her violently, at this time, even if I silently read my own life a thousand times in my heart, I could not control my emotions.
Freud said unexpressed emotions never go away. They are simply buried alive and will one day erupt in an even uglier way.
The child wanted to cry because of my accusations, which touched the grievances that I had suppressed for many years. When I was young, my father was very strict and did not allow us to cry, and all the grievances were buried in the bottom of my heart.
Recently, I was watching Teacher Zhang Defen's "Meeting the Unknown Self", which wrote: Children's crying is a natural flow of life energy, which completely does not affect their essence. After crying and making trouble, they can suddenly return to the joyful state of inner peace. It is the adults themselves who cannot bear it, but instead suppress them, which causes the problem.
I closed my eyes to feel my negative emotions and slowly calmed down.
Crouch down and sincerely hug the child and tell her: Mom feels your grievances and understands you. When the child's emotions are seen, after a few minutes the rain has passed.
Hopefully, every child can be treated gently.
I am Xiao Xiao, welcome to share your parenting insights, we grow together on the road to parenting!
