Ms. Liu's husband is the eldest son in the family, the two younger brothers bring their wives and children to dinner every day, Ms. Liu proposed not to let them come in the future, and they should separate their families when they are married. But I didn't expect that my mother-in-law and husband said that she didn't know the general body and didn't know the reason.
After Ms. Liu fell in love with Old Zhao, she learned that her in-laws lived in the same building as Old Zhao, and although the two younger brothers lived outside with their own families, the two younger brothers worked and helped in the old Zhao car repair shop, and the younger sister-in-law and children also came to eat every day.
After the breakup, she regretted it again, felt that Old Zhao was still good to her, reconciled with Old Zhao, and became pregnant after three months, and the two were ready to get married. Old Zhao was indeed very attentive to her, fully satisfied her requirements, and gave more than 500,000 dowry money, of which 200,000 were borrowed by Old Zhao outside, but he said that he would handle this debt alone.
But 3 days after marriage, Ms. Liu regretted it again and wanted to divorce, because she really couldn't stand the way Old Zhao and his big family were making a fuss, although she could stay on her own floor and don't care, but she just wanted Old Zhao to live separately from her parents, at least the sister-in-law and children should not come to dinner every day.
Old Zhao disagreed, saying that their family has always been like this, the two younger brothers have given him great help in work or life, the mother is even harder, cooking rice every day, cooking the brother-in-law children come to eat, the mother has no complaints, because his family is convenient in the geographical location, the two younger brothers are helping the car repair shop on the first floor, close to the school, everyone is relatives, and it is right to help each other. Ms. Liu can completely not mix, if you don't like it, you can stay upstairs, you can also cook your own rice.
But Ms. Liu can't accept it, the family is a girl, the family has always been very spoiled her, she can't understand the so-called affection of this big son, think that each one is good, every day to her house is chaotic, looking at it is annoying.
That day Ms. Liu was not too hungry, came to the kitchen, the mother-in-law was serving noodles, she said, Mom I am not hungry today, less sheng to me. But the mother-in-law filled a bowl very full, and Ms. Liu knew that it was not her own, and waited. Who knew that the second bowl and the third bowl were very full. She said, Mom, I want less sheng. The mother-in-law was a little angry, put the spoon on the table a little heavy, Ms. Liu was on fire, directly dropped the bowl, said that the mother-in-law deliberately targeted her, the mother-in-law contradiction was about to erupt, old Zhao persuaded the two from it, but it did not ease much.
In the evening, Ms. Liu did not want to cook herself, so she let her mother-in-law and sister-in-law cook her rice by the way, but she did not cook her for several days, she was very angry, and told her mother-in-law to directly dismantle this stove, anyway, it was useless, I could not even eat rice. And directly smash all the dishes in the kitchen, all the things that can be smashed, and in front of the niece and nephew, standing at the door when the sister-in-law brings the child over, scolding what is ugly, and telling Old Zhao that we must separate the family, the house is ours, the car repair shop is ours, why everyone does not put her in their eyes.
Old Zhao had no way, just say that I transferred the shop to my brother, it was my turn to help my brother work, and I received more than 4,000 yuan a month in salary, and there would be less arguments in the future.
Ms. Liu was unhappy, saying that he deliberately blocked her mouth, saying that this was not the result she wanted. The shop sold, the annoyance is still there, but also affected the family economy, she insisted on letting lao Zhao and her mother-in-law's family all leave a little clear, do not always be a family chaotic together. For many years, Lao Zhao has benefited from the tireless help of his parents and the assistance of his brothers, and he does not want to be too clear with his family, and feels that it will hurt the affection between each other. The feelings of the two husbands and wives have been tested, and they want different things, how should this marriage go on?
@ Muye Xiaoxiao Ms. Liu longs for an independent small family space is understandable, I believe that most women want to live separately from their in-laws and be well with each other. But she once broke up because of the situation of the old Zhao family, and then remembered the good and good old Zhao, in the eyes of old Zhao may feel that she at least reluctantly accepted, but in the three days after marriage repeated because of this matter of remorse, although it is difficult to do love the house and Wu, fully accept all people and things, Ms. Liu can actually choose not to participate in the non-interference and do not bother, after all, her small family has an independent living space upstairs, the tired mother-in-law is not her, but she always wants to let the old Zhao independent, for the old Zhao who has been helped by relatives for many years, It is difficult to completely change the existing model, otherwise it will make the family centrifuge, and not all relatives can easily understand that Ms. Liu cannot bear that feeling, especially the mother-in-law.
If Ms. Liu wants to solve the problem, she can't smash things at every turn, lose her temper, and be tough This practice will only make things worse and worse, which will make the in-laws, including her husband, resist her requirements more and more, it is better to have a softer attitude, be softer, slowly persuade Lao Zhao, find a balance point to solve, do not easily let the marriage go to the point of one shot and two scatters, not because of the separation caused by the feelings of the two couples, it is really not worth it. #Emotion# #婚姻 #
