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"What you can't get is always in turmoil" is a lyric and a portrayal of real life.
Sometimes, you have to admit, you have to bow your head like reality, that is, there are some things that people often get easily and then will no longer cherish. Sometimes, the more active you are, the less cherished the other person is.
This is especially true in the affairs of men and women.
For men, if you are very proactive, then you will be pinched by him, and you will be at his mercy. Even sometimes your initiative will not only not get any response, but will be cold-eyed, and even will be disliked and perfunctory.
For example, the more you take the initiative to contact him, the more likely he is to back off and resist. In such moments, your true heart is wasted.
Even if you message him often, he won't reply to you. So, when he reacts that way, you should do that to him.
No more active contact with him
When you contact him with passion and enthusiasm, but he is holding a shelf, ignoring you, and even no matter what message you send, no matter when you send a message, he will not reply in a second.
After a long time, your passion will naturally be consumed, which is natural. At this point, you should stop, you should stop this act of actively contacting him.
It is precisely because of your initiative that he feels that he is sought after, so that he has unlimited self-confidence, and he will think that he has the capital to be proud of you, and he feels that he is on the top, so that he will not take the initiative to ignore you.
Therefore, you should learn to "want to get away with it", you should stop active contact, let his feeling of being sought after disappear and stop. Only in this way can he react and calm down, and can he know how outrageous and sad he has done.
When you no longer take the initiative to contact him, he will stop and think about why you, who were so active before, are no longer active at this time. Only by forcibly changing his habitual behavior will he think about it all from your point of view. Therefore, this is the best choice for him.
Hot and cold to him
"The highest-end hunters often appear in the form of prey", it is true, in love, it is also a very important thing to want to catch and indulge. Since he is used to your initiative, and in the long run, he will naturally not know how to cherish.
In this case, the first thing you have to do is stop taking the initiative and stop being nice to him. Secondly, what you should do is to be hot and cold to her, and you want to indulge her.
It is precisely because you used to give him too much care that he got used to all this, and even let him get in the inch.
In order to get rid of this situation, of course you should not continue to be so nice to him, because this will only make him feel that you are right to be good to him, not because you love him. Over time, when he gets used to it, he won't feel that he should be good to you as well.
Therefore, at this time, you should also change your attitude towards him, occasionally look at him coldly, let him know that your kindness to him is not taken for granted, let him know your difficulties and hardships, and let him think about your feelings in a different position.
This kind of indulgence is the best solution.
In the face of the person who cherishes us, we can completely understand his sincere and wholehearted goodness, and even these efforts can be said to be completely worthwhile.
But in the face of those who do not cherish us, the better we treat them, the more they do not know how to cherish, the more he has to move forward, the more he feels justified. In the end, the real people are only ourselves.
Therefore, in the face of this kind of man who does not know how to cherish you and does not know how to reply to your message, then it is the best choice to treat others in the same way.
For women, we must know how to be reserved and measured, only by cherishing ourselves in this way will men cherish you.
In particular, they are often like springs, making you very active with them, but they will make them feel attractive, only if you withdraw, you are no longer so active, they will think about what attitude they should use to treat you.