In the world of love, young boys and girls have not experienced too many disturbances in the world, so their feelings come warmly, come purely, adults in the face of love, sometimes too many worries, inevitably will be afraid of the tail.
The chances of these situations occurring in young people are very small, because they are not deeply involved in the world, so they will not worry about how bad they will face if they hit the south wall.
Everything has two sides, because there are many and few experiences, so adults can often face failure calmly, while young people are easy to collapse.
It's not that they're vulnerable, it's that they haven't experienced a blow from their feelings, and when people face the unknown, they always exude an instinctive fear that sometimes has nothing to do with age.
The taste of the world is pure joy, love is a vain thing, you have the courage to confess, but also need to have the courage to face failure.
Due to the difference in personality and the way of cognition of feelings, some people who fail to pursue the opposite sex will laugh and pass, and some people will fall into anxiety and self-blame once they fail.
However, there will be a corresponding solution to all the problems, and we just need to find it.
There are three methods that can completely solve the situation of depression and difficulty in extricating oneself after the failure of the pursuit and the collapse of the mentality.
First, have the courage to face failure
Those energetic souls are more alive and more vulnerable precisely because they have not yet suffered the ravages of life.
In the TV series "The Best of Us", Lu Xinghe confessed to Geng Geng ninety-nine times, but once did not succeed, if such a plot is moved to real life, it is estimated that many people will have a mental breakdown and cry.
After all, no one has such a strong heart, can endure ninety-nine failures, and still continue to insist.
Lu Xinghe was not sad, he had also drunk alone in the middle of the night, but life would not stop and wait for you because of your decadence, crying, and the next day still smiled to meet a new round of rejection.
Lu Xinghe can't think of it? No, he did this to show the courage to face failure that many people do not have.
If a person likes you, she will have a hundred excuses to reject you, and although Lu Xinghe's ninety-nine confessions have failed, who can guarantee that the hundredth confession is not a reason for Geng Geng to agree to him?
As Douyin recently said, the best way to eliminate fear is to face it head-on.
Second, learn to reconcile with yourself
01) In this life, people can reconcile with the world and with strangers, but when they only need to reconcile with themselves, they begin to make difficulties.
In the Thai movie "The Little Thing about First Love", Xiao Shui was a yellow-skinned little girl at the beginning, and she had nothing to do with beauty and temperament, but the person she liked was a male god who swept the whole school.
This disparity in the crush did not consume her courage, she for the love in her heart, in order to be generous in front of the people she likes now, Xiaoshui has been working the road to beauty.
Finally, Xiaoshui turned white and beautiful, and when she went to confess to the senior with joy, before she could speak, she found that the clothes on the senior's chest were written with "LOVE", which was obviously a girl's handwriting.
This confession began silently, but also a silent end, Xiaoshui was rejected very thoroughly, she thought that she was not hard enough, not good enough, so the senior did not like herself.
So, with a grudge against herself, she left the place.
02), when they met again later, Xiao Shui and the male protagonist did not have a partner with each other, this time Xiao Shui did not choose to escape, because when she came back, someone had already told her that the senior had liked herself before she became beautiful.
As for the handwriting, it is the message of the same class when she left, and it has nothing to do with love.
Many times, people are always entangled in their own emotional world, if you start to reconcile with yourself, you will find that all the unhappiness will disappear, and you think that the person who rejected you may also secretly like you.
Third, find a way to vent your emotions
Some people will hold back even if they are unhappy in their hearts, but the place where people's emotions are stored is like a balloon, which will slowly become larger with the accumulation of unhappiness.
But the most resilient balloon also has its own expansion limit, once a limit is passed, the balloon will explode, and the human mentality will collapse.
Once had a friend, she likes to practice the word when she is unhappy, according to her words, it is a pity to drop things, yelling and not elegant, and the practice of the word post can also be through a stroke of the way, let their irritable heart gradually calm down.
For her, practicing words is a breakthrough for venting emotions.
Twenty-year-old teenagers will always have their own sense of shame, feel that they have grown up, and casually revealing emotions is always a manifestation of immaturity.
But even in the adult world, there is no such thing as holding emotions in their hearts, but their way of handling them is relatively mature and rational, and we can't see it, so we think that they have no emotions.
When the heart is sad, proper catharsis is conducive to maintaining a good attitude.
Unsatisfactory things in the world, nine times out of ten, even if a golden cicada like Tang Monk is reincarnated, it still needs to go through nine nine eighty-one difficulties to reach the Western Heavens to learn the scriptures, let alone me and other mortals?
There must be a road before the car to the mountain, the boat to the bridge is naturally straight, people always have to encounter failure, but failure does not mean the end, but the beginning of the next story.
When we encounter problems such as confessing failure, learn to relieve ourselves early so that you can have enough energy to meet the beginning of the next beautiful story.
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