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The love of each era will leave traces of that era, and the social background and development of the times will affect the love and married life of this era.
In the forgotten corner of love, a novel from forty years ago, the mother and daughter are all facing their love at the age of nineteen.
There is remorse, there is bitterness, there is helplessness, there is an irreparable ending, and of course there is expectation.
Their love or the happiness and misfortune of marriage are more influenced by that era, but even if they bring their love story into the twenty-first century, looking at it from our current point of view, we find that those misfortunes are difficult to change.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > mother, Linghua, and the marriage of love is full of unknowns. </h1>
When Linghua was nineteen years old, she was in the midst of land reform, the task force came to their village, the new society and new atmosphere, the new marriage law broke the marriage shackles of "the order of the parents and the words of the matchmaker" under the feudal thinking.
Linghua is a new-age woman who has the courage to pursue love.
Her parents had previously booked her a family, a small owner in the town who opened a grocery store.
However, because of watching the opera "The White-Haired Girl" once, Linghua fell in love with Shen Shanwang, a young long-term worker, which of course was opposed by her parents.
The reason is that Shen Shanwang, who lives in the mountains, is too poor.
However, Linghua is iron-hearted to marry.
Linghua cried and made a lot of noise, openly admitting that she herself had taken a fancy to the poor boy who relied on the mountain villa, and openly announced that she would go into the mountains with him to suffer and never return to the "old feudal" mother's house for the rest of her life! The parents were stunned, closed the door and scolded and beat. She cried, made noise, rolled on the ground, and threw the silver dollar to the ground. Angrily shouting, "You guys are going to sell your daughter as something!"
At that time, the new marriage law had just been promulgated, of course, it was not allowed to sell her daughter as something, so Linghua and Shen Shanwang were very successful in getting married.
Although Shen Shanwang was poor, he was indeed a capable bookmaker, but the wheel of the times did not let them live a good life.
After marriage, Ling Peanut had five children, and her life was getting poorer and poorer, her body was getting weaker and weaker, and the rhetoric of that year was long gone, and the rest was regret.
It is true that that era was a big reason, but even today, it is difficult to be happy with a choice like Linghua.
Now there are also such girls, and each other fell in love at first sight, and then despite the persuasion of their parents, regardless of whether the other party has the conditions to get married, do not think about whether they have the ability to bear poverty, or marry the so-called love without hesitation, thinking that if they marry love, they will have happiness.
However, after living a life after marriage, especially with children, I realized that my parents' original opposition was not unreasonable.
If Linghua and Shen Shanwang are poor because of the times, but in today's ability-oriented era, if a man insists on marrying a girl when he has nothing and ignores the opposition of the girl's parents, this kind of man can hardly expect to follow him and live a good life in the future.
A real mature man, even if he does not have money, he can at least overcome the parental barrier with his lover, which is a man's responsibility and commitment.
In addition to being a kind of particularly money-loving, selfish parents, almost all parents want their daughters to live happily, so they say, "Parents can marry without marrying, and parents who oppose it should really be cautious", because parents really think about you.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > young and unworldly Cunni, a rash, reckless love, it is difficult to complete. </h1>
Linghua's eldest daughter, CunNi, was born in 1955, and her birth was the happiest year Shen Shanwang ever had, when he had a deposit for the first time.
Because of her mother's pregnancy and breastfeeding nutrition, Cun Ni grew up, strong, plump, and at the age of sixteen, she replaced her sick mother to help her father pick up the burden of supporting the family.
Cun Ni is not afraid to work, but Cun Ni, who is already nineteen years old, in the closed mountains, she, and young people of the same age, do not have a little cultural life, and they do not understand what love is.
So two generally old youths, Cunni and The Little Leopard, had a primitive love affair.
A primitive instinct burned like fire in the blood of this young man and woman who were materially poor, spiritually desolated, but physically strong. Traditional etiquette, the dignity of reason, the danger of breaking the law, and the shame of the maiden, everything, is now burned to ashes.
It was only in those days, black and white, that their actions were violently criticized when they were discovered.
Cunnie chose to commit suicide out of shame, while the little leopard was sentenced.
Of course, if their thing happened now, there would be no such serious consequences.
But their love, even now, is reckless, irresponsible to themselves, if now, they may be so vaguely married.
However, after truly entering marriage, when the initial love fades with time, in the face of the cruelty of life, many people will regret their impulsive behavior.
They do not yet understand love, which is the lack of education, the poverty of the spirit, the lack of correct guidance.
So whether it was past or present, whether poor or rich, daughters must be spiritually "rich", so that they can understand the world, understand what true love is, know what they want, work hard when they should work hard, and know how to face it correctly when love comes.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > a conflicted wild sister, and in the end she chose Xu Rongshu correctly. </h1>
Huang Mei's marriage is the most likely to be happy, because she later bravely chose Xu Rongshu.
Huang Mei was the second daughter of Linghua, five years younger than her sister Cun Ni, when Those things happened to Cun Ni, she was fourteen years old, just the age of youth, because she had always known that what happened to her sister was the most shameful ugly thing.
My sister did one of the ugliest and ugliest things in the world! She suddenly began to cry. She felt immense shame, humiliation, resentment and resentment. The dearest sister actually brought disaster to the whole family, and also brought her a misfortune that could not be shaken off.
Growing up with this mentality, the wild sister automatically shielded all the opposite sex and became a lonely and inaccessible girl.
But at the age of nineteen, she could not stop the overflow of youth, she began to love beauty, felt that everything around her began to become beautiful, and a man appeared in her life.
He was Xu Rongshu of the neighboring team, a man about the same age as her sister, whom they had known since childhood.
Since he was a child, Xu Rongshu has helped Huang Mei a lot.
Later, Xu Rongshu became a soldier, waited for a few years for him to be demobilized and returned to his hometown, and was elected secretary of the regiment branch.
Xu Rongshu likes the wild sister, as soon as he has the opportunity to chat with the wild sister, he will follow the wild sister who is walking alone in the mountains, escort her, tell her about the outside world, tell her about the future planning of the village, and tell her that the future days will definitely get better and better.
In her heart, Aragi likes to be with Rong Shu, but at the same time she is afraid.
In this way, angry with him, hated him, ignored him, feared him, and involuntarily missed him... Alternately changing and contradicting. This is the heart of a nineteen-year-old rural girl.
At this time, her mother Linghua found a mother-in-law for Huang Mei.
The mother sat down next to her and said in a rare soft voice, "It is the second uncle of the Wuzhuang Third Team, who is three years older than you." His brother worked as a worker at the Beiguan Railway Station and took more than fifty yuan of !...... in January."
Huang Mei was unwilling, and her mother advised her that the other party's family conditions were good, and when they met, they would give sixteen sets of clothes, and they would give five hundred yuan for engagement.
Wild Sister shouted to her mother, the same words as her mother did back then: You sell your daughter as something!
I agree with The Wild Sister.
Xu Rongshu is poor, but that is due to the environment, but he himself has the ability and thoughts, the key is that he likes the wild sister, and the wild sister also likes him.
And this introduced by the mother, although you can take out so much money and things, but it is from their family, can give so much money, not because of this man, but his brother, the brother can earn money and what does it have to do with the younger brother?
Huang Mei finally chose Xu Rongshu, which was the most appropriate.
Even now, such as Xu Rongshu type, the two know the roots, the door is right, although poor, but he is young, capable and ambitious, and both have love in their hearts, choose him, the two work together, then the future can be expected.
And the other man, is using his brother's salary to marry a daughter-in-law, the man is incapable, really married, what good life to live? Especially in today's society, which values individual ability.
In "The Forgotten Corner of Love", the mother and daughter of the three, the love of the wild sister may be the one who will get happiness, first of all, they caught up with the good times, and the two understand each other and love each other, Xu Rongshu is a capable, long-term man, the time and place are favorable.
In fact, in any era, the attitude towards love and marriage, the basic criteria for choosing a partner will not change, some bottom lines to be observed, some conditions to see, and some words to really listen to.
And the more advanced the times, the more cautious the treatment of marriage.
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