In life, there will always be such a person: you love him deeply, and you have no reason after all, it is difficult to come together, at this time, it is inevitable to feel pain, full of pain, always want to talk clearly with each other, always want to pour out their deep grievances to relatives and friends.
However, some words are useless to say more, and if they are spoken, they will not only not change the outcome of things, but also cause unnecessary distress and make themselves more and more miserable.
Some words, some things, should rot in the heart, just like falling in love with a person who is difficult to hold hands with, no matter how much love, you should learn to let go, otherwise for two people, it is a kind of trouble. Falling in love with someone who can't be together, to learn to be silent, you know?
1. Don't say "love".
Some people cannot love, just as the other party is not dedicated, is plagued by bad habits, does not know how to respect love, and often does things that harm others and benefit themselves.
Some people cannot be loved, just as the other party already has a family, and their married life is happy and happy.
However, the feeling of this thing is uncontrollable, even if you know that the other party can not love, not worthy of love, can not love, but still have a deep affection for each other, secretly look forward to the other party can become worthy of love and love because of themselves.
At this time, if you say "love", the result will often backfire, so why bother? If the other party can not love, is not worthy of love, will be "love" out, and finally may let themselves suffer harm, if the other party has a family, can not love, will "love" out of the mouth, often will be bored with themselves, but also let themselves into unnecessary disputes, at this time, should become a little smarter: silence is gold.
2. Don't frequently look for people to complain.
Some people, in love with a person who can't be together, two people have had a relationship, and finally did not hold hands together, at this time, he can't let go of the past feelings, always immersed in the pain of the past, unable to extricate himself.
He felt aggrieved in his heart, and could not help but complain to relatives and friends, and said his love affair, which not only did not gain sympathy, but also often caused others to fall. Just as a person has an affair outside of marriage and does not achieve his ideal result, the relationship ends like this, he feels very sad in his heart, can't help but complain to his friend, his friend knows that he has done something unfaithful to the marriage, not only did not comfort him, but may also blame him and put him in an embarrassing situation.
If you don't want to see such a result, you must understand that if you are in love with a person who cannot be together, if you do not start, do not say "love", if you do not control your emotions, say "love", the last thing you get is a bitter fruit, you should also swallow, do not randomly find others to complain, so as not to end up begging yourself.
3. Don't blame the other party if you are unwilling.
Sometimes, love to understand that the other party is a person who can not love can not hold hands to the end, after love, find that what you meet is not a good person, not worthy of love, at this time, instead of entangled in the past, it is better to accept the reality, let go early, so that is the right solution.
When the other party began to talk to you about love, the attitude towards you was very good, it seemed considerate, you felt that he was the ideal object in your mind, but after a period of time together, he soon appeared aesthetic fatigue, his attitude towards you was not as good as before, and often did something behind your back that could not stand you, at this time, you suddenly realized that the other party is not a good person, not worthy of trust.
At this time, you may feel sad, unwilling, and can't help but blame the other party. However, blindly complaining about each other, can not change anything, at this time, you may wish to learn to let go, keep silent, let the past page turn, and then start a new life, your life path will become better.