I was lucky enough to meet two little angels

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I am a single mother with a son and a daughter, and as for why I divorced, I will post a detailed article when I have time.

My son is seven years old and my daughter is four years old. In fact, I don't have much time with them because I've been busy with work. Until the subsequent divorce, every weekend I went to pick up my family and bring it myself, and occasionally I would pick them up at school if I left work early.

Because now there are many cases of school violence. From kindergarten onwards, I often instilled in them what to do if they were bullied! I'm afraid that when you talk to them about this again during the rebellious period, they won't listen to it, and at that time, the children's self-esteem is particularly strong for fear of being bullied by others, and they feel ashamed and embarrassed and dare not tell me. I can't effectively protect them. I often tell them consciously or unconsciously, if others bully you outside, the person who bullies you scares you, you can't tell your parents or teachers when you go home! What should we do!? I will continue to say, first of all, mom should not be just your mom, we are also your best friends, there should be no secrets between good friends, so when others bully you, you must not listen to other people's intimidation, tell your mother, or tell your father when your mother is not around. Because Mom is not afraid of anything, Mom is your superhero. It will protect you in times of danger.

My son just entered the first grade this year, and one day he came back and told me that my mother and I deliberately mixed me down at the same table and deliberately stepped on my fingers! My first instinct was to ask if my hand still hurt? He said it hurt a little bit and it doesn't hurt much now. I asked you again, did you fight back against him? He said no, I said why?! He then said, Mom, didn't you tell me not to bully the little girl, because I am a little boy with greater strength than the little girl, and it will hurt me to hit people!!! It occurred to me that because he had a sister and two children together, he couldn't avoid a fight, and I would often say that to him. And I said how to deal with that? He said I'll give you another chance not to do that next time! I think he handled it well himself.

At night before going to bed we will play some bedtime games together, recently they especially like to play graphics to bump each other, because the sister is younger than the reaction is not as fast as the brother, a few rounds down the sister always loses, I thought she would be angry, she finally told me, Mom I lost it doesn't matter, I insist on it again, I don't give up!! It turned out next time she really got first. In fact, I think that many times I do things halfway, encounter problems and hit the wall and start thinking of giving up! I should have learned this mentality of my daughter.

Sometimes being a lazy mother can also exercise your child's self-care ability. Because I am a divorced family, I want my son to learn to take care of others when he is young. On weekend mornings, my son usually wakes up early, and when he wakes up, he will wake up his sister together, and he will take his sister to wash her face and brush her teeth, change clothes and wake me up again. Now that he is in the first grade, he takes his sister to get up first on the weekend, and after washing and changing clothes, he will go downstairs to the door of the community to buy breakfast and come back to take his sister to eat. I don't have to worry about these things at all. Sometimes I accidentally fell asleep on the couch at noon, and he would go and get a small blanket to cover me, and very intimately turn down the volume of the TV and take my sister to draw on the side, or read a picture book!

Once my mother gave my daughter 30 yuan, my sister ran to the bedside to wake me up, my mother got up quickly, and I took you to buy a bag! yes? Do you have money? Yes, the mother-in-law bought the change for vegetables gave me, hurry up and I will take you to buy a bag, and sure enough, she has 30 huge dollars in her hand!! Later, I got up and took her brothers and sisters to go shopping, and my sister said that my mother said that we went to buy you a bag, and I told her that my sister had too little money, and it was not enough to buy bags! She also said that mom likes to drink milk tea and I'll buy it for you! In the milk tea shop she bought me milk tea, told my brother, brother is not enough money we only buy for my mother, we will drink it next time, brother said good!! I look pitiful, mom buy it for you, just order it! Both refused. I didn't insist on it either!! When I visited the night market in the evening, my sister used the rest of the money to buy me a bouquet of small roses! Don't doubt it, because the flowers here in Yunnan are very cheap! For about 10 pieces, you can buy a small bunch.

A lot of people may think I'm tired with two small children, that's for sure, because there are many times when I get angry and explode!! But the occasional warmth was enough to heal me. I have always felt that I am very lucky, the previous life must have saved the world, and God will give me these two warm little angels! Thanks for meeting, I am also a first-time mother, let's get along for the rest of our lives... My strawberry flavored Oreos.