Introduction
Today is Father's Day. Compared with the long history of the existence of the father's identity, the birth of this festival is actually not too long. Father, can be serious, can also be cute. They love deeply, but they are always not good at expressing themselves. As a result, Father's Day is not only a day for everyone to express gratitude to their fathers, but also often becomes an opportunity for public opinion to reflect on the role of fathers.
Convey the meaning in form, and the father word is understood
Hidden in Chinese characters are many Chinese unique concepts and feelings. In Chinese characters, the father's "father" is actually the upper half of the axe, and "father" means that a person holds an instrument in his hand, which means a model and an imitation, so the father is often a guide in the heart of the Chinese.
There is a father and a brother in the family, and the elder is a brother. "Brother" is a small man with a big mouth on top of him, and the boy who can speak is called the eldest son. Why does the eldest son bring younger siblings? Because there is a father in front of him; the younger brother is to keep filial piety, that is to say, the younger brother is following the brother's etiquette, following the father and brother forward, inheriting the family door style. So we can see from the glyphs of Chinese characters, the image of the father in traditional family life.
From the earliest Zhou Gongjia book of "one mu three holding hair, one meal and three spit feeding", admonishing his son Bo Yan to remember his origin, act cautiously, and be humble to corporals, to the diligence and humility in the book of Zeng Guofan's family, to Liang Qichao's sincere seduction, love and respect for the nine children.
The father is not only a role of physical significance, but also a lifelong responsibility and responsibility, the initiator of the child, and the pillar of moral ideals in a family.
Accompany you on your adventures, Father's love is solid
In Zhu Ziqing's "Back Shadow", his father is "obese", he wears a "green cloth cotton robe and black cloth coat", is silent, faltering, and still struggles to climb across the railway to buy oranges for his son; on Luo Zhongzhong's oil painting board, the father is a simple, kind, poor and hard-working old farmer.
Everyone has a father image in their hearts, and in my memory, my father was always willing to accompany me on adventures, and his personal companionship helped me to construct a basic attitude towards the world.
In first grade, my parents had both been laid off, and it was rare to come back once a weekend. At that time, I had just begun to learn to write essays, and when I read the wheat waves in the texts, I asked my father what was a wheat wave. As a result, he took me out early in the morning, took a car from the front of my house, and reversed four trains to the suburbs.
There was no mineral water at that time, and Dad took a military water bottle, told me to drink two sips of water first, and then pointed to the wheat field in the distance and said, "Boy, did you see it?" This is Mai Lang. "I looked up and saw that as the wind blew through the wheat, the waves of rolling, endless waves of wheat, this scene has always been imprinted in my heart.
When we tossed home, the sun was already setting, and my mother said, "It took several weeks to come back once, and it took four trips to see a wheat wave, and four trips back, is it worth it for you two?" Dad replied, "If I don't take her, how can she know what Mai Lang is?" ”
When I was a child, I watched "Red Apricot Branches Spring" on my father's shoulder and followed him on a long journey to see Mai Lang. He also took me to Xiangshan and cherry ditch, exhausted to see the end of cherry ditch, Wang Wei's "walk to the end of the water, sit and watch the clouds rise." But at that time, I walked under my feet full of bubbles, so tired that my heart was full of complaints in front of him, and I couldn't listen to his feelings and teachings.
Fortunately, when I was young, I had a good memory, and in such a process of walking and personal experience, knowledge gradually merged with me, and the glue in it was naturally my father's affection for me and ancient poetry.
How to have both, the father takes care
A few years ago, mothers began to complain about "widowed parenting" on the Internet, which refers to the significant lack of father's side in family education.
Now that the big families have become core small families, fathers seem to have many weak hearts because of the rising workplace pressure, often thinking that they are earning money to support their families, and it is the responsibility of fathers to earn money to support their families.
Chinese fathers are losing the value of spiritual guidance, which is quite worrying, the father consciously returns home can have majesty, because I am most tired of this qualification, but I do not see that behind the majesty is the long-term companionship teaching and spiritual value in the inheritance of spiritual values at home.
A more typical example is the specific distribution of the affairs of raising children in the family, and the "type of work" of father and mother is often different. When children are young, dads are generally responsible for taking kids out to play, and when the kids are older and involve more "critical" future issues, they need dads to grasp the direction. In the long process of growing up, the most troublesome laundry and cooking, living and living, these trifles that are considered not worthy of dad's help, are undertaken by moms.
In today's society, fathers are more and more concerned about their children, and it is of course a good thing to encourage their children to make a difference. But fathers should tell their children to "do nothing." In fact, home is not a place to teach people to expand their knowledge, but a place to teach people to keep common sense, which includes common sense about citizens, common sense about learning, and common sense about science.
The father in the family does not have to learn to be rich in five cars, nor does he have to be full of gold and jade, but he must become a family rule and tell the child what absolutely cannot be done. The father in the family does not have to be meticulous and considerate, but he must let go of the burden and accompany the growth of the child with his heart. Maybe this is the difference in parenthood and the reason for dad's existence.