When grandma married my grandfather, she was only nineteen years old, and my grandfather was 38 years old, a full time older.
Grandma fled to the town, just in time for the wind and beauty, everything was just right, Grandpa fell in love with Grandma at first sight, and Grandma immediately passed the door.
Grandpa was a local merchant who ran the shop left by his ancestors and lived a relatively prosperous life. Although Grandma is from Dongshan, she is not an idle person, from the fact that she and the landlord's family have been fighting for several years to finally get rid of the identity of the child bride to obtain the freedom of marriage, and to the rare years when they still retain the skills of climbing trees and houses, the combination of the two can be called a chess opponent will meet a good talent, and will surely achieve outstanding results in the long road of life in the future.
Sure enough, Grandma and Grandpa jointly raised eyebrows, and they were highly unanimous in the matter of having children, and there were seven in their lives.
When Grandma first married, Grandma just passed away, leaving three children, that is, my great uncle, second uncle and third uncle, and Grandma later gave birth to my four uncles, five aunts, six uncles and seven uncles, my father ranked eighth, and the following were nine aunts and ten aunts. Grandma followed Grandpa's good life did not last long, began to fight warlords, the situation was turbulent, the business was not as good as a day, and before liberation, she almost lived by selling the family property left by her ancestors. So raising children became an extremely difficult thing, and the problem of feeding ten children became a big difficulty.
Jiugu was born and gave away, and the family of the sender was not far away in the town. Listen to the sister-in-law, when I was seven or eight years old, I also played with the nine sisters, the little friends all exclaimed how the two of them looked so similar, joked that they were like sisters, went back to ask the grandmother, this matter my grandmother had a number in mind but did not say broken, the sister-in-law left the heart to run to the family's house to play, the adoptive mother of the nine sister quickly insight into everything, moved, since then the sister has not seen her sister again.
Some people say that Jiugu has been living in a small town and knows her origins, but she has never looked for relatives. Perhaps for a child who has been sent away since childhood, she is more or less resentful of her biological parents in her heart, and has been chosen to give away among many brothers and sisters, like an isolated lone goose, which in itself is a kind of injury, it is the parents' ruthlessness towards themselves, it is sad to think about it, she will never forgive this abandonment, and she will live her life hard, breaking the bond with her birth mother.
On the other hand, if the love of the adoptive parents makes up for this hurt, living their own pure life is also a wise choice, why should they recognize their relatives? This matter is also a thorn in Grandma's heart, if it is not a really difficult life, who is willing to give away their own flesh and bones?
However, the family did not live a good life because jiugu sent people, it was still difficult to lack food and clothing. The second uncle and the third uncle left home one after another to join the melting pot of the revolution. In order to survive, Grandma also tried her best, and even, in order to save a bite for the family, as Grandma's eldest daughter, my fifth aunt took away her young father when she got married.
Wugu is a beautiful, capable and hard-working woman who takes care of the family, in this poor family with many brothers and sisters, she can pay everything she can, she loves her brothers and sisters, not to mention that a bite to eat is to sacrifice her own happiness and be willing.
The young father followed the fifth aunt and followed her for several years. My uncle's family is not rich, they are all civilian families, more than my father's mouth to eat, needless to say that the in-laws will also be disgusted, not to mention that it is the backward and poor era, even if it is put on hold now, most of the husbands will not accept it. What kind of pressure the fifth sister endured, working hard and carefully protecting her father to grow up, this bitter woman was in a very difficult situation.
Father did not return to his grandmother until he was old enough to go to school, from this point of view, my uncle is also a good person, he has a bite to eat my father,But also used a great degree of tolerance to tolerate the fifth aunt and everything she did, for this reason, the father and sister have a very deep feeling, but also grateful to this brother-in-law, he and his sister's deep feelings even exceeded their parents.
The life of the fifth sister was too bitter, she did not have enough to eat for many years, and she had to have children, and soon she overdrawn her life, her body collapsed early, and she ran out of oil in her thirties, leaving a son and a daughter.
At that time, my father was serving as a soldier in the northeast, and when he learned the news of his sister's death, his heart was filled with grief, and large drops of tears fell on the snowy Changbai Mountain, and he could not help himself in pain. Under the protection of his relatives, he has grown into a man who stands tall in the sky, he has full strength, but he cannot keep the life of his beloved sister.
However, in the time to come, he will have to experience more life and death.
After walking the fifth aunt's uncle alone to pull the two children's life of pity, my eldest cousin did not raise well, the body became sick, really can not take care of it to send to my grandmother and father, that is, our family.
At that time, my father had changed careers and came back to marry my mother, and also gave birth to my brother, the eldest cousin was about fourteen or fifteen years old, the person looked as beautiful as the fifth sister, gentle, had eyes, saw the work, although in the grandmother's house to recuperate, but did not help my father and my mother to work, but also often with my brother to play, left and right no one does not like this girl. My mother even discussed with my father that this child had no mother to pity, and wanted to raise her eldest cousin as her daughter, and in order to treat her, my father also took her around all day to find a doctor to find a prescription.
"Mom, what kind of illness did the eldest cousin get?"
"It's tuberculosis, in the end it's malnutrition, and the living conditions are not good." Mother said regretfully. "What a good girl, living to the middle age."
The eldest cousin's illness became more and more serious, and then she became bedridden, and the grandmother and father were afraid that the uncle's family would complain and sent it to the uncle, and it didn't take long for the eldest cousin to leave. In fact, as a father, he was unwilling to do this, and he was willing to give everything he had to treat his eldest cousin. He felt sorry for his sister, could not forgive himself, and his heart was very tormented.
The human world is really a place of exile, said bitter, spicy, sour and sweet, but some people have only tasted bitter and spicy, who has ever tasted sweet? In the short seventeen spring and autumn periods in the world, the eldest cousin has experienced the pain of losing her mother and the pain of illness, has she ever had a happy time?
That big cousin with big eyes, long braids, and beautiful gentleness and kindness remains deep in my memory.
Father's heart is painful, and it is sad that no more vivid, beautiful, vivid life has disappeared in front of him. He had become a father, learned to hide his feelings, and whenever he mentioned it, his mother always cried.
However, in that poor era, people's lives were like grass and mustard, everyone could not fill their stomachs, there was a lack of medicine and medicine, there was a lack of food and clothing, and life was no longer threatened at any time. My grandfather and the fourth uncle were starved to death in the natural disaster in 1960, the grandfather for his children, the fourth uncle for the younger brothers and sisters, they chose to sacrifice themselves to keep their loved ones alive. They are great fathers and brothers!
My father pressed the weight of life on his heart and never mentioned it in front of us, and I knew it from my mother's intermittent narration.
My father pinned his love on us, trying to earn money to support the family and improve our living conditions, but there was still negligence.
I was originally the third oldest, with two older brothers on it, and my second brother died when he was almost one year old, and I became the second oldest. The main reason for the early death of the second brother is because my mother, because there is no one to watch the child, my brother is disobedient and makes trouble all day, and my mother has to take him wherever she goes.
That day my mother had something to go out, my brother had to ask to hold him, not to let my mother hug the second brother, my mother was careless, took the brother out of the door, and left the second brother who was sleeping at home. When he returned, the second brother fell into a cardboard box containing cotton under the bed and had lost his breath.
The mother cried and regretted that it was too late.
After walking a few relatives in succession, coupled with the painful lesson of the second brother, when I was born, my parents vowed to take good care of me even if they smashed pots and sold iron. Of course, at that time, living conditions had been greatly improved, the Cultural Revolution was over, the rural production responsibility system had been contracted to households, and the spring breeze of reform and opening up had also played a prelude.
I don't know how much money my father and mother could take at that time, but anyway, since my mother went to work after her maternity leave, I was properly placed in an old couple, given eleven yuan a month, plus a large front door, and kept me to the kindergarten where I could go to the street office.
The old man and the old lady only have one son, far away from Sanmenxia to work, the old two love to talk and laugh, take me to play and tell me stories, not only take care of me clean, but also count as smart and clever, less than two years old will be smooth to say a lot of nursery rhymes. The old lady smoked, and the big front door was bought for her to smoke.
Later, the old couple went to Sanmenxia's son to retire and left the town, and I never saw them again. When I think about it now, I can still remember the way my grandmother laughed.
I was able to grow up like this, my mom and dad gave up on me from a young age, 11 dollars, which was definitely not a small number in the mid-to-late seventies. Of course, practice has also proved that their money is not spent in vain. I saved them back the 11 bucks.
My brother grew up on my back, my brother who was three years younger than me, no matter how much I played with him, no matter how difficult and tired it was to carry it, I looked at my brother and didn't let him fall hungry or be cheated by bad people, my brother and I were thriving.
The father likes his children, especially his younger brother, and his eyes are shining when he looks at his brother. Of course, he loves every child, and tries his best to take care of this family to take care of our lives, let us eat and dress warmly, dress decently, I can wear a light and straw top embroidered with a small yellow duck pattern on the chest from Shanghai, and run around the town every day in the envious eyes of my friends.
I thought that life would go on like this, until we grew up, worked, got married, and had children, but my father could not wait for this day, and he left us and reunited with his relatives.
When my father was gone, the sky seemed to suddenly collapse.
When this father's hand-built yard could no longer see his figure, when I hid alone in the bed and secretly cried countless times, when I went around looking for where my father had gone, the little me experienced life and death for the first time, and knew the cruelty of life.
Since then, I have not gone out to play crazy, I forced myself to grow up, forced myself to share the housework for my mother.
This incident changed my character and it was my eternal pain.
Whenever I achieve results, I regret that he can't share it with me; when I finally know that things are hard and life is not easy, I miss my father even more.
The Father gave birth to me, the mother bowed to me, a person you were born from, this life is not your own, you have family responsibilities on your shoulders, family glory, you have to fight for this family, not just for yourself.
Father, is the driving force for me to move forward, let me cherish all.
When the chrysanthemums on the balcony are in full bloom, it reminds us that it is time to go back and see our father. Kneeling in front of my father's grave, my brother and I prostrated our heads four times.
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