Spelled! In order to help his son's homework, this father in Hangzhou actually tied himself up

On November 28, a Mr. Wu sent us a photo saying: "A few days ago, the child's midterm exam, we helped with homework in this way. I tied my hands and the child was all right. ”

In this picture, Mr. Wu is tutoring his child with homework, but his hand is tied behind him by a black strap. Little Lion Sister and her colleagues looked at it and were amused at once, but for a while they didn't know whether to hurt the child or the father.

At six o'clock in the afternoon, the little lion sister dialed Mr. Wu's phone, the background tone of the phone was a little noisy, and the other end of the phone said: "I am on the bus home, here is so congested, there is about an hour to go home, I will contact you when I get home!" ”

After hanging up the phone, my mind immediately came up with the current situation of a middle-aged man: after the evening rush hour, I took a car for more than an hour to come home, eat a meal, and start tutoring my child's homework without stopping... I really wanted to pat him on the back.

About an hour later, Mr. Wu called back, and he was unexpectedly cheerful on the phone.

He said: "I work in Binjiang, my family lives in Gongshu District, and my children are in the fourth grade of a public primary school in Gongshu. Some time ago it was not a midterm exam, family relations are generally tense, I also saw all kinds of information on the Internet, what to help children with homework counseling to enter the hospital, everyone is anxious not to do it. In fact, I sent this photo purely for Leyile, and I want everyone not to be so anxious and learn to reconcile with themselves. ”

Mr. Wu said that he was also engaged in education, and his wife was a full-time mother. Usually, the child's homework tutoring is divided by 2 people, who are responsible for mathematics and English, and the wife is responsible for Chinese and science. My son's grades are quite passable, and the end of grades 1-3 is all excellent, but there are also many conflicts in the usual tutoring homework.

"In fact, I have been using this method since March this year, and it has been used for almost half a semester now." Mr. Wu's words were filled with deep helplessness.

"Why do you say I tie my own hands, it's not really impossible." The question that has been repeatedly said, or wrong over and over again, the fire in my heart, I can't help but give my son a chestnut on the head, a spanking on the ass, but can't keep beating, what to do if it is broken? I began to use other methods, such as formulating a reward and punishment system, doing well has bonuses, deducting money if you don't perform well, and doing both soft and hard. All kinds of methods have been used, the child still has not changed, and even the best patience will be worn out! ”

But Mr. Wu looked back and thought, this is not the child's fault, now the child has to go to an average of four or five training classes, every day from morning to night, it is not easy. In order to control his emotions, let himself be calm, and avoid accidentally injuring the child, he thought of this trick, found a black rope, and tied his hands back.

At that time, the child's mother happened to come to the study, saw this scene, and filmed it. After Father Wu sent the photo to the circle of friends, he also laughed over a group of old friends.

Wu Dad said: "In fact, when I share this photo, I don't mean how good this method is, but I want to communicate with you about my self-reflection." To be honest, I am not anxious about the future of my children, I have a craft, and it is good to be able to support myself. But parents start tutoring homework, and when they see what other people's children are learning, they can't help but get anxious and let their children run with others. In fact, things like tutoring homework, tell the children well, they can listen to it, and there is really no need to do it. If you are in a tutoring class, it is enough to report two or three investments, and then find the real interest of the child in the later stage and then stick to it. ”

"After all, not every child is suitable for reading, and you don't have to let every child live like a person." I think a butterfly is a butterfly, and there's no need to let it race with a rabbit. ”

Finally, Papa Wu also sent out a question from the soul:

"I want to ask you, parents have been forced to this in order to educate their children, should they be, is it good for their children, or is it bad?"

When it comes to homework tutoring, it's really an eternal brain-wrenching topic.

Ask a parent, and there is a steady stream of bitter water to pour.

Jin's mother, whose son is in the second year of junior high school, has been in a state of exhaustion for a long time.

Mother Jin said: "I have a passage in my mobile phone, 'At first I thought I could cultivate a talent, and then I thought that as long as I could get into college, and then I thought that as long as I was in good health, and now I can live.'" 'It's a true portrayal of me!' The child went to junior high school, it was simply adolescence bumped into menopause, every day to help with homework, I said a sentence can top 10 sentences, I always want to go back in time, back to the child's kindergarten!

"Alas, when people reach middle age, all parties are under pressure, and when they encounter this state of children, they really sometimes feel that they can't live!"

Ms. Wang, the parent of the third-grade boy, although her son has not yet entered puberty, but the pain is not less.

She said: "The most painful thing is essay tutoring. My father and I are very good at writing, and every time I see my son's composition is a mess, I get angry. When I first started writing, I tore my son's writings four or five times. ”

"Once when I came home from school, I asked him to write a school activity, he wrote a journal, even the cause and effect could not be written, I angrily tore the composition paper directly into the trash can, the child cried out on the side, cried for five or six minutes, and pitifully took the pen to rewrite it. In fact, I am angry not that he can't write, but that he is not good at writing, he has the ability to write well. So I'm going to tell him that if you don't take it seriously, you're going to have to give more time to do it all over again.

"I sometimes tell myself, why should I be so fierce with a child? I now even occasionally come home late after work, just don't want to help with homework. I hope that when I am not there, he can complete his homework by himself and save the old mother's heart that hopes for 'motherly kindness and filial piety'! ”