Let hope turn into light and shine into the rifts in our lives

According to relevant statistics, 900,000 people die in the world every year, and China and India account for the vast majority.

Of course, there are reasons for the large population of China and India, but more importantly, under the pressure of life, people encounter various problems, especially psychological problems are not well solved.

When it comes to health, more people may focus on physical health, but often neglect mental health. In fact, mental health is the direct cause of the vast majority of self-sha.

How can a high standard of mental health be guaranteed? Let's take a look at the heroine of "Life by Me", Meyer. Musk's experience.

1. Maintain a positive, good attitude

Like most of us, Meyer's life was not smooth.

There is an old Chinese saying: "Men are afraid of entering the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man." "But Meyer is the woman who has never been on a flower car but really married the wrong man."

After marriage, Meyer not only had to take care of all the housework, wash and cook, but the poor and lazy husband not only did nothing, but also often beat her.

Even though Meyer was pregnant, things didn't get any better.

If Meyer resisted, in addition to beating me severely, it was extremely humiliating, even intimidating Meyer, daring to divorce, he would cut Meyer's face with a razor and shoot at the children's knees, so that Meyer could only live with three crippled children and could no longer work.

Is this the legendary "scumbag" acura?

It wasn't until South Africa passed a "irreversible marriage breakdown" law that she finally divorced through legal means.

After the divorce, she lived in three countries and nine cities.

A woman, three children, an unfamiliar environment, both to hold a baby and move bricks, life countless times from 0 to start again...

Does this count as "displacement" and add "widowed parenting"?

But our heroine, Meyer, is neither discouraged nor defeated. On the contrary, in addition to his career in the field of nutritionist consulting and fashion modeling, the three children have also been very well trained. This includes elon, the eldest son of the so-called "Iron Man of Silicon Valley". Musk.

Even in the book "Life by Me", you can't see her use any ink to describe how life is with green face and fangs. What you see is her talking, teaching us how to be a fashionable person, an interesting person, a person who constantly motivates himself, a person who constantly improves himself.

"I never worry about my age because I'm so busy having fun!" Looking at these words, we seem to see the optimistic, humorous and confident Meyer, with warmth in the heart and light in the eyes.

And what supports all this can turn the ideal into reality, a positive and good attitude is indispensable.

As the old saying goes, "No one has far-sighted worries, but there will be near-term worries." Su Dongpo has a word: "People have sorrows and joys, and the moon has clouds and sunshine." ”

Life tells us that no one's life is smooth and perfect. Bumps and setbacks will help us become more mature, stronger, and make our lives more hopeful.

2. You don't have to demand that everything be good

As a student, Meyer's twin sister Kay was a natural athlete who didn't learn as well as Meyer. Although Meyer's academic performance is very good, her athletic performance is terrible, and even if she practices hard, she has limited improvement.

Meyer doesn't feel presumptuous and feels inferior to her sister. The sisters will not be discouraged by the comparison. They are always proud of each other and appreciate each other's achievements, because no one in the world can do decathlon.

Meyer is also not good at cooking, and her best dish is almost at the level of "bean boiled vegetables". But she also doesn't feel inferior because of this, and confesses to her family and friends: "I'm really not very good at cooking." Her advice to us is: You should focus on the things you're good at and don't try to make everything perfect.

Many women are arrogant precisely because they think they can do everything well, but they will be knocked to the ground with the slightest bit of harsh blame. Sometimes, too much stress can lead to nothing.

3. How to better survive the "emotional downturn"

Nietzsche said, "When you are gazing into the abyss, the abyss is also staring at you." ”

Life will inevitably encounter ups and downs, and it is inevitable that there will be times when depression is extreme. When you are stuck in a difficult situation and can't get out, you may wish to try it from another angle and another direction to see which ways can bring you happiness and motivation.

Maybe it's a comedy that makes you laugh, maybe it's a lively outdoor ball game, maybe it's a piece of music you like, maybe it's a delicious meal.

Maybe you need a happy shopping, maybe you need a no-holds-barred talk...

"If your family makes you unhappy and unhappy, you go to a friend or colleague who can make you happy and smile; if your family can't give you support and trust, you go to a friend who is willing to back you up and share happiness and hardship with you." 」 In short, always let yourself live in a loving relationship and make your body and mind happy.

Or, you can read books, especially celebrity biographies, as the famous writer Bi Shumin said: "Increase your knowledge, and by the way, you can also see how others survive when they are unlucky." ”

Everything has cracks, and that's where the light comes in.

To be alive is to have hope.

Let hope become a brilliant light that shines into those cracks in our lives.

Come and read Meyer with me. Musk's "Life is By Me."