Are you afraid of rejection? Learn to grow in rejection

In the MBA case discussion class, Nakajima fumi once told everyone an ancient Japanese legend. The story is about an old Japanese farmer and his dog walking in the forest, and they swim in the forest for 11 years in search of lost treasures. Suddenly the dog stopped under a tree, sniffed the roots and then began to bark, and the old man began to think that the dog was barking, and ignored it, and he continued to walk forward and hoped that the dog would follow. But the dog still barked wildly, so the old man stopped and tried to call the dog over, but the dog did not listen to him. The old man was very angry, and finally picked it up with a stick, hoping that the stubborn dog would stop barking. Later, when he saw that the dog had once again resisted his orders, he suddenly took a shovel from his bag and began to dig down from the root of the tree, and after only half an hour of work, the old man found the treasure.

Mr. Nakajima explains: "When someone says 'no' to me, I see it as the beginning, not the end, of the relationship, like the dog's insistence on continuing to show directions and bark. So, after a week or two, I'll call those potential customers again, and they'll ask me new questions, and everyone will give me the opportunity to answer. Thanks to my tireless efforts, it wasn't long before my customers started "digging", and unsurprisingly they did dig up the treasure. For most people, saying 'no' may mean the end, but for me that's the beginning of saying 'yes'. ’

In our language, do you know any word that is more harsh than "no"? If you are engaged in sales work, what is the difference between making a performance of 100,000 yuan and making a performance of 10,000 yuan? The difference is in how not to be deterred by the rejection of others. First-class salespeople are often the people who suffer the most rejections, and they can turn other people's "no" into the next "yes".

Psychologist Wayne once helped an Olympic high jumper when his performance stagnated and could not surpass his previous record. When Wayne saw his practice, he immediately figured out the crux of it. It turned out that whenever he approached the crossbar, he would fall into a psychological obstacle and regard a very ordinary tentacle as a great failure.

In order to break his knot, Wayne called him to the front and told him, "If you really want me to help you, you must not have such thoughts of failure." Because the images of failure that have been formed in your mind for so long have long been ingrained, every time you jump high, you always think that the chance of failure far exceeds the possibility of success, so you can't reach your inner potential. The next time you touch the lever again, just laugh, don't think it's a failure, and regain confidence and try to jump again. ”

The athlete followed the method Wayne had taught him, and after just 3 attempts, he broke the best record of the past two years. Although the increase in height was only Erhuangmi, since then, his view of life has also changed. In the same way, as long as your concept changes slightly, the whole life will be very different.

You must know Rambo, you know Stallone, do you think it will be very smooth for him to rise and dominate the film world? Absolutely not, in the process of trying to enter the film industry, he endured rejection again and again, a thousand times. He traveled to every studio in New York, but was rejected. However, he was not discouraged and continued to knock on the door, trying again and again! Finally, he took on the role of "Rocky". Have you ever heard of anyone who, after being rejected 1,000 times, dared to knock on the door for the 1,001st time?

How many times can you tolerate someone saying "no"? How many times have you given up on opportunities to improve yourself because you don't want to hear someone say "no"? How many times have you stopped looking for a new job or visiting a new client because you couldn't stand people saying "no"? Isn't that pathetic, you think? It's just that you're afraid of hearing that "no" again, and you're limiting yourself. In fact, this word does not have any power, and the reason why it will have a restrictive force on you is all caused by your own inner inferiority. When you have the idea of inferiority, you have a self-limiting life.

After you have learned how to control your mental activities and know how to face rejection, so as to turn the trough into a smooth path, you can try to make yourself more excited every time you hear the word "no", and you can see each rejection as a potential opportunity. When the next time the phone rings, don't be afraid to pick up Jane and go on another business battle with a cheerful mood. Don't forget, success always hides behind rejection.

Success without rejection will never last. The more you are rejected, the more mature you become, and the more you learn, the more successful you will be. The next time someone rejects you, you may wish to shake his hand well, which will change his attitude, and one day "no" will become "yes". As long as you know how to face rejection, you can get a lot of what you need.