01 Hoard spare tires because of vanity
Acquaintances are young, and there are always a lot of friends of the opposite sex. The relationship between these friends is not simple, most of them are warm and unclear.
Some even have a hand-in-hand kissing relationship, which is supposed to be a boyfriend. But when asked which one was Qingqing's boyfriend, she couldn't be sure and sure.
Qingqing is circling with these men, accepting this flower delivery today and going to another date tomorrow.
Despite this, when she encounters a new opposite sex, she will still discharge frequently, and the momentum of the flower heart is obvious.
Who does Qingqing really love? Will it be tiring to fight left and right like this? Qingqing said: "Just like the clothes in the cupboard, although many of them do not wear, or occasionally wear them, but they also have to be bought and put away to be at ease..."
I said, "Don't you find the clothes you don't want to wear to hang inside, and don't you find them occupied and difficult to clean up?" ”
Qingqing said disapprovingly, "It's my stuff, even if I don't use it or don't like it, I don't want to throw it away." Men are the same, someone is around me to have a sense of security! ”
I was speechless, but I could feel Qingqing's growing vanity. She is young and beautiful, and her nature to attract bees and butterflies is just to prove her charm. And among the men who circle around her, the people who really fall in love with her soul do not seem to have.
02 Hoard spare tires because of their own inadequacy
Qingqing herself understood this, so she continued to collect men, like a hoarder in the shopping mall, even if it was an ordinary suitor, she did not refuse not to throw them away.
Qingqing's mentality, such as a hoarder, this kind of person will reserve all the opposite sex that he is reluctant to throw away, satisfy his strong vanity or resist his own inferiority.
Qingqing's behavior is obviously "flower heart" and hoarding. There is also a category of women who belong to implicit hoarding. They have many shortcomings in themselves, so they are always ready to attack in the dark. She cares deeply for men, making them dependent on themselves or losing themselves in her gentle consideration.
When men talk about this woman and feel touched that she is so good to themselves, perhaps she is treating another man in the same way elsewhere.
Whether it is the obvious hoarding of Qingqing or the secret collection of another type of woman, the root cause lies in their lack of self-confidence and hypocrisy. They seem to have received a lot of admiration, but in fact, they are just mirror flowers and water moons.
Like a wardrobe full of clothes, in the end they will find that none of them are really what they like and suit them.
If a man meets such a woman, he should also face it rationally. Get to know her because she is insecure and unconfident? Or is it because of vanity?
If it is the former, if you really love her, help her get rid of her guard and let her understand that your love can make her trust. If it is the latter, then you must be careful that the other party has no intention of you at all, but only keeps it as a spare tire or a spare tire, so that giving up early is king.
Suffering from such a love illness is also a kind of sadness for the woman herself. Being in love is not shopping, practicing loving only one person at a time, cleaning up the things you don't need and throwing them away. Only by controlling the crazy "swiping card hoarding" behavior because of vanity can we harvest true love.
"Wen Shu Xuan Xiaolei, pen name Mo Yang." Graphics and text are irrelevant. Figure丨 Network, invasion and deletion"