Text: Xuan Xiaolei
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Ai Xiaoyu (pseudonym), 24, interned at an accounting firm after graduating from college and played live after work.
There was a man in the live broadcast room who came often, with few words, but many gifts.
Ai Xiaoyu became grateful and curious about this man and took the initiative to contact this man.
Later, it was learned that the man's name was Wu Jun (pseudonym), 45 years old, married.
But the man said that he and his wife had no relationship for a long time and could divorce at any time.
Ai Xiaoyu actually had some sympathy for this uncle who was a little "sad" when he talked about marriage.
The uncle continued to contribute gifts and interactions in her live broadcast room, so that she felt valued and recognized, and the more she talked offline, the more she thought of meeting.
Therefore, during the 4th month of the two acquaintances, Ai Xiaoyu took the initiative to go from Wuhan to Changsha to meet Wu Jun, and this meeting did not hold on to it, and there was close contact.
With such a relationship, after going back, Ai Xiaoyu began to think of Wu Jun, and her thoughts surged day and night like a tide, making her feel that this was love.
Recalling the delicate and gentleness of Wu Jun in those few days together, and the little bits of pity between the two of them, she had the urge to fight for herself.
And Wu Jun also revealed the meaning of missing her, wanting her to live with herself. So Ai Xiaoyu resigned and went to her love.
At first, the two lived in the hotel, Ai Xiaoyu found that Wu Jun was not generous, and felt that the two would spend a lot of money every day, so he proposed to rent a house.
After renting a house and living together, although Wu Jun was reluctant to spend money on Ai Xiaoyu, he still took good care of her, and Ai Xiaoyu also enjoyed this kind of care, and even was often moved.
Until later, she found the secret from Wu Jun's mobile phone, it turned out that Wu Jun had been shuttling through the live broadcast room of various female anchors uninterruptedly after interacting with her, often brushing gifts and adding contact information to other female anchors. At the same time, he also transferred a large amount of money to a girl named Wan Feifei (pseudonym), who was generous everywhere.
Ai Xiaoyu was very sad, because after being with Wu Jun, she found that he was becoming more and more stingy with himself, and she couldn't imagine that he was so generous to other women.
There is another thing that she can't accept, before she was pregnant, she had to do minor surgery, in order to save money, she chose a small clinic, she was unwell after the operation, and when she went to the examination, she said that there was a risk of cancer.
But Wu Jun not only did not feel guilty, but became more and more cold to her.
When asked about him transferring money to others, he also lied in various ways, and the two quarreled over it, and Ai Xiaoyu moved out of their rental house in a negative mood.
I thought that Wu Jun would find herself to apologize and ask for forgiveness, but soon found out that she was blocked by him.
She went to where Wu Jun worked, claimed nothing to do with her, and said he would sue her because she went to his daughter's school to make trouble.
Ai Xiaoyu said that he did not make trouble, but only because he could not find Wu Jun, he went to the school to find his daughter for contact information.
However, Wu Jun's attitude towards her was very resolute, and there was no emotion at all.
Ai Xiaoyu went to find another female anchor, the woman named Wan Feifei (pseudonym) said that when Wu Jun chased her, he learned that he was married, and he did not accept it, but Wu Jun transferred money to her every day, and said that he and his wife were about to divorce and dragged for their daughters.
Wan Feifei could not stand his "generosity" and pursuit, accepted him, the two were together for about 7 months, Wan Feifei felt that the relationship had no hope and future, and broke up.
Knowing this, Ai Xiaoyu completely understood that Wu Jun was just "casting a wide net to play a fishing game".
The words spoken to these girls are the same and have the same purpose. Ai Xiaoyu looked for mediation, found Wu Jun, and asked him why he lied that he had divorced?
Wu Jun did not admit to saying such a thing, and at the same time responded to the mediator: "The house was rented by me, and she came by herself..."
This sounded too hurtful, and Ai Xiaoyu knew that there was no point in her pestering any longer.
Looking back at the beginning and end of the relationship, she felt like she had a nightmare.
In this emotional case, there are several places worth discussing and pondering.
Because in the current relationship between men and women, there are actually many similar situations.
From different perspectives, you can see different problems.
First of all, from the girl's point of view, be wary of what the purpose of the person who approaches and pursues himself is.
The first point: the pursuit of married people should not be accepted.
Some people may say that those who have a purpose, at first, can't see it, and people will disguise themselves very well.
However, as the case suggests, this uncle should not have been accepted.
Because she is a married person, even if his relationship with his wife is broken, he is still in a state of no divorce.
Ai Xiaoyu was obviously a little more simple than Wan Feifei, and Wan Feifei rejected this man because of this.
But Ai Xiaoyu did not realize this stake, nor did he realize that it was an inappropriate thing for a man to love another girl without divorce.
She was probably caught up in the man's sweet words, automatically filtering out the parts that were not right.
If he lies and says that he is divorced, he can even playfully let him take a look at the divorce certificate, and anyway, he can't go to the rescue without understanding it clearly.
Because the direction will be wrong, because it may not be reliable, because it may not be reliable, and it may even be a dangerous person.
Looking at Ai Xiaoyu, she may not even know where this man works, but should be the address he asked for after being blocked and found his daughter.
Without understanding the marital status of the other party, they put down their work and life with him, and think that this is vigorous love, that is irresponsible behavior for themselves.
Second point: Don't be fooled by a little fly-tip profit.
Ai Xiaoyu paid attention to Wu Jun because he always gave gifts to himself in the live broadcast room, and only took the initiative to contact him.
But apparently, this man did not brush much money gifts, unfortunately, no one brushed more than him, so he became the "big brother of the list".
But this big brother does not seem to be very rich, otherwise the two would not be living a tight life together.
In other words, even if he has money, it is only his, and he is not willing to give it to you, which has nothing to do with you.
This point, perhaps another female anchor is more clever, at least it should be more accepted.
But no matter how much, you shouldn't accept a man for this.
Many girls may rarely accept or receive giving from others, and once someone appears generous in front of them, they have a feeling of "being flattered" and feel indebted.
In fact, you can refuse, you can also return it in another way, or it is not what you want to come, reminding the other party not to pay too much.
In short, you can't think of giving a promise to each other just because the man gives a little sweetness, so the price is too high.
First, this kind of relationship in exchange for money, even if they are together, can only be a transaction, and it is difficult to develop into real feelings.
Second, if the other party just throws some bait, then as soon as you are hooked, he will not throw bait again, and then it can only be a person who has money and money, and the gain is not worth the loss.
If the other party can still treat it with true feelings, it is still lucky. However, many times, this kind of person has a clear purpose at the beginning, so after achieving the goal, he loses interest, or will not invest in you again, but will change to a new object of investment.
In short, girls must have the consciousness of protecting themselves, and at the same time, they must have the consciousness of not being greedy and not taking shortcuts, otherwise they will be easily targeted and tempted to go astray.
Especially if the emotional experience is simple, we must be more vigilant against some people who maliciously "send flowers" to you, the flowers look beautiful, secretly hidden thorns, and if you are not careful, you will be hurt.
To find a partner, first of all, we must bypass the married, and then we must find those who know the roots and understand clearly.
Of course, if you have been deceived, then you don't have to entangle, see each other early, leave early, and start again. After all, there are many "courses" in life, and it is true that they must be taken to really understand.