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The Proverbs say, "Hiding deep is a remarkable talent. Those who are hidden in life are the really powerful people, such as the mountains do not speak, such as the still water flowing deeply, the heart is strong in order to have a happy life.
There are all kinds of women in life, they are either bright or melancholy, or gentle or strong, or calm or noisy. And the really powerful woman must be a strong person, whether in good times or adversity, can be calm, spoiled, exquisite and elegant.
They often have their own attitude to life, their own way of dealing with the world, and their own unique insights. The more excellent women are, the more "hidden", they are low-key and humble, they will always think in a different position; they are calm and capable, they can always set a good attitude; they are fearless, always brave and strong.
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Success master Dale Carnegie said in "The Most Elegant Woman with a Strong Heart": When getting along with people, the first thing to do is to respect each other, so that the other party has a sense of self-esteem and self-respect. The sense of self-esteem and self-esteem here is what we often call "face", and it is very important to save the face of others.
Recall that whether in the face of our own children, husbands or colleagues, have we ever been picky, put up a shelf or accuse them mercilessly without thinking? Does it put them in an awkward or even angry situation?
In fact, we can put ourselves in each other's shoes and think about it, and then show concern for others from the bottom of our hearts, which is often better than the effect of accusations and complaints.
In The Most Elegant Woman at Heart, Carnegie tells the story of one of his accountant friends, Sophie, who thinks differently.
The accounting profession in the United States is seasonal, and generally after the income tax filing boom subsides, companies will fire accountants in order to save money, and then re-hire them until the next peak season. But every accountant is always very frustrated when he is fired, and they basically do not repeatedly apply for jobs and repeat services in the same company.
Because Sophie herself is an accountant, and she knows the mental journey of the people who are fired every year, she will always say to the person who had to be fired at the last checkout: "Mr. So-and-so, you are doing a very good job, and I am very satisfied... I want you to know that you are the pride of our company, we have no doubts about your abilities, I hope you can support us forever, of course we will always support you. Then she paid him the bill and let him go.
Sophie's words gave the dismissed accountant full respect and recognition. Because seasonal employment is an objectively existing situation, every accountant who is fired knows that this kind of unemployment is inevitable.
But the same is the departure, they leave with a sense of respect, compared with the direct dismissal, they have gained their dignity and preserved their face. It turns out that by the next peak season, these people are very happy to return to Sophie again to continue their new work.
The Ming Dynasty scholar Hong Zicheng said: Let one step be high in the world, and regressive is the zhang ben; treating others with leniency is a blessing, and benefiting others is the foundation of self-interest. Learning to think in a different position and save face for others will often bring you unexpected gains, and will also make your interpersonal relationships more natural, harmonious and friendly.
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The really powerful woman is calm, rational, restrained, able to correct her mentality, and will not lose her temper because of a small matter. Because they know that even when they encounter unfair treatment or are wronged, choosing the method of tantrum will not really solve the problem. This practice will only make others feel that this is a sign of mental immaturity.
Friend Xiaohui works at a foreign trade company far from home, and she rents an apartment near the company. Some time ago, the company lowered the salaries of employees because of the decline in performance, when her landlord suddenly proposed to raise her rent.
She was very angry at that time, thinking that she was really "leaking in the house and it rained overnight", and the landlord was a bit "taking advantage of the fire"! She wanted to confront the landlord face to face, but after much thought, reason finally prevailed, and she changed another way and sent a WeChat message to the landlord, which read:
Dear Mr. Landlord,
I know that the rental price of your home is indeed rising now, and I understand your practice of increasing your rent. Our contract was about to expire, and it seemed that I had to find another house to move out, because the rent after the price increase was a bit unbearable for me.
To be honest, I'm reluctant to move because you're the best landlord I've ever met and I love the house I'm living in now. If you can maintain your original rent, I will be more than happy to continue living. Although it may seem impossible, I still want to give it a try and look forward to your reply!
After receiving Xiaohui's WeChat, the landlord felt that Xiaohui's attitude was very sincere, and he was even a little excited, because before that, he had received more than a dozen text messages, either angrily criticizing him or threatening to intimidate him. So he took the initiative to contact Xiaohui, after understanding her situation, he took the initiative to reduce her rent, and when Xiaohui proposed to hope for less, the landlord also happily agreed.
You see, a simple WeChat can resolve a series of life crises. If we encounter problems in life, we must strive to control our emotions, maintain a good attitude, and learn not to be impulsive, because this can help us solve problems properly and alleviate the pressure caused by it.
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Truly powerful women have extraordinary, tough, and superhuman qualities of will. There are many such examples in reality, such as: Helen Keller, a blind and deaf female writer in the United States, Zhang Haidi, a writer who is paraplegic but disabled, and Zhang Guimei, who is seriously ill but still insists on starting a free girls' high school.
The author of "If You Give Me Three Days of Light," the author of "If You Give Me Three Days of Light," the American blind and deaf female writer Helen Keller, lost her sight and hearing when she was a child and lost her sight and hearing due to a high fever, and she could not even speak.
But she did not give up on herself, under the guidance of Sullivan's teacher, Helen learned sign language with her hands, touched the braille card to learn to read, and later touched other people's lips with her hands, and finally learned to speak. Under the care of her teachers and with strong perseverance, Helen finally overcame the obstacles of blindness and deafness and completed her university studies.
She devoted her life to the benefit of the disabled, established charities, and persevered in her pen, completing 14 books.
Even if life gives more difficulties and pains, we must carry the weight forward strongly until the end of our lives.
Author Roa Smyes's book Complete Life before Death tells the story of a poor baby girl born in Ohio named Amour Hamm.
When Aimer was born, she was badly injured in her right half, and the midwife said she wouldn't live much longer. But she not only survived tenaciously, but also lived until she was 90 years old.
Although she endured illness every day of her life, during which she encountered two fatal accidents, she never flinched and never bowed to death.
Unable to perform manual labor because of her illness, she devoted herself to reading and public welfare. He joined the Methodist Church at the age of 28 and became a preacher.
Later, she also built churches, created funds, and often helped nearby schools and hospitals. She spent all the money she got from preaching, writing books, collecting donations, etc. on education. Before her death, she had become an honorary director of more than 20 professional schools and a university.
Amour has struggled with difficulties all her life, but she has never been afraid, she firmly believes that she is a living individual, and her life has its own meaning. She has made herself synonymous with "courage" and "tenacity."
The cicadas chirp in the summer and need to lie dormant for several seasons; they are short-lived, but they wait for the whole day.
All the gains in this world are not achieved overnight, and only the quality of perseverance can match it. No matter how bumpy the road ahead is, no matter how many difficulties there are on the road, as long as the goal is firm, the direction is correct, and the determination to move forward, you will certainly be able to have a meaningful life.
Carnegie said in "The Most Elegant Woman at Heart": Every woman has the potential to make herself strong, confident, and fearless. As long as we continue to learn and supplement, cultivate and accumulate, we can eventually become a truly powerful person, gracefully walking on the winding road of life, and opening our own new life.
If you want to walk gracefully on your own path of life, I recommend you a series of books that will give you access to spiritual wisdom:
"How to make the people you love also fall in love with you", "Carnegie's lifelong happiness advice to women", "Women with high emotional intelligence can talk", "Women with strong hearts are the most elegant", "Women are to have temperament" series of books.
I hope that every companion who reads this set of books can have their own unique elegant temperament, show their extraordinary talents, be full of inclusive affinity, and be a person with a rich and powerful heart.
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