True wisdom lies in the deep concealment

What a person should worry about is not the success or failure of others, but should devote more energy to their own lives. Even if others have all kinds of things, as long as there is one advantage that you lack, you should affirm it, and you should be humble to learn from others. Put away the indignation in your heart, let alone let the narrow confinement of your soul, a person can only truly appreciate the beauty of life by relaxing his heart, and can he live a wider world.

There is an old saying: "Giving words to people is heavier than pearls and jade; hurting people with words is more important than swords." "A powerful fist only hurts people's bones and bones, but vicious language can stab people's hearts." How to use language properly is an art, but also a kind of cultivation. Even if you are dissatisfied, you must retain some morality; even if you are full of complaints, you must save some face and dignity for others. What's more, many times what makes us anxious or angry is actually out of our kindness and sense of responsibility. But the more this happens, the more you must pay attention to your own language expression, don't do bad things with good intentions, and let yourself say some impulsive and ugly words, which not only sting others, but also hurt yourself.

　　Therefore, at the wrong time, to say inappropriate words is to say nonsense, and blind talk is easy to break into trouble, and it is easy to hurt people. The mouth is an axe that hurts people, and the tongue is a knife that cuts the tongue, so people should say more good words and more useful words. Of course, speaking well is not an irresponsible greeting, but it can not only express your own meaning accurately and appropriately, but also ensure that you will not hurt others.

　　If a person does not understand the art of speech, it is better not to say anything, and to end up with a quiet and comfortable "shut up and hide your tongue, and settle down everywhere", which is better than provoking yourself!

　　To give each other a step down is to give yourself a way to live. In life, we often encounter people or things that we are not accustomed to, and of course, there is nothing wrong with being blunt and honest with each other, but sometimes we must stand in the other person's position and put ourselves in the shoes of others. Don't hurt the other person's self-esteem because of your unspeakable words or inappropriate attitude. Especially in some public occasions or when there is a conflict with people close to you, you should pay more attention to leaving more steps and more face for others.

　　If you only pay attention to your own emotions, without considering the inner feelings of others, and the result is that everyone is very embarrassed and embarrassed and cannot get off the stage, then in the end it is you who are unlucky; on the contrary, if you know how to give others a step down when you are in the world, so that the other party's self-esteem will not be hurt, then this kind of understanding will definitely make you gain something.

Therefore, to give others a step down is actually to give yourself a way to live. Many contradictions in the world do not necessarily have to be resolved through tit-for-tat or passive means, mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, and mutual retreat, but it is possible to make things more smoothly resolved in a harmonious atmosphere. On the other hand, if you let others get off the stage, you will not get any benefits yourself.

　　"Give people roses, hands have residual fragrance", a little more considerate and understanding of others, give others a step down, there will be many unexpected benefits waiting for you.

　　True wisdom lies in the deep concealment

No matter how much ability a person has, he must know how to hide deeply. If you are competitive everywhere and always sharp, not only will people not think how smart you are, but it will make people think that you are too superficial and untrustworthy, and even attract the envy of others. A person who knows how to hide must know how to temporarily avoid the sharp edge, play his role at the most appropriate moment, and help others to be freed from the depths of the water, only in this way is the real talent, will be respected and recognized by others.