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As the saying goes, "The gun hits the head bird." ”
People who don't know how to hide themselves, even if they have superhuman kung fu, are "one punch is difficult to defeat four hands", and they will eventually lose the battle.
Winning or losing is a common thing, but in the end, there must be a result.
Zeng Guofan, a famous minister of the late Qing Dynasty, cleverly evaded the right and wrong in the official arena and pushed himself to a high position. Moreover, his wisdom has influenced future generations, and until now, his descendants have not declined.
Zeng Guofan's success tells us that the people who can really win to the end are always those who are in the shadows. Tough with people, both lose and hurt, secretly exert force, four or two strokes of a thousand pounds.
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Hidden deeply, in and out of the way.
As the saying goes: "Success is also Xiao He, and defeat is also Xiao He".
His mentor Mu Zhang'a pointed out Zeng Guofan, but with the improvement of Zeng Guofan's status, Mu Zhang'a became a resistance for him to continue to move forward, and there was also a possibility of official secret struggle.
Zeng Guofan always hid deeply, keeping a distance from Mu Zhang'a, so much so that everyone believed that he had nothing to do with Mu Zhang'a. Later, Mu Zhang'a was punished by the Xianfeng Emperor for "protecting the throne and greedy for glory and hindering the virtuous and sick country". Many of his staff members were implicated, but Zeng Guofan "saved himself."
Once, Zeng Guoquan wanted to impeach the official Wen, and when Zeng Guofan found out, he immediately wrote a letter to warn: "When anyone who is powerful and powerful is powerful, I must not violate his front, nor can I be snooped with him. ”
Officialdom, business field, it is inevitable to fight openly and secretly, if you are sharp, you will hurt others at any time, leaving yourself with a "bane".
People who can always win are always silently observing others, using the intricate relationships between people to use for their own use.
The big husband moved the camera. Hide yourself, let others be in the open, when danger comes, you can avoid it, and when the opportunity comes, you can firmly grasp it.
The master seems to be in front of the stage, but in fact he is hidden behind the scenes. Like a lake, flat as a mirror, but with an undercurrent. If the lake is strong enough, it can also wash away the embankment and overturn the ship.
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Hidden, humble and noble.
Zeng Guofan said: "There are people who have been self-sufficient throughout the ages, and they are nothing more than a humble word. ”
When Zeng Guofan was promoted to Erpin official, he could have sat on a green palanquin carried by eight people, but he did not make such a rumor, but insisted on sitting on a blue palanquin carried by four people.
One day, Zeng Guofan was traveling and encountered a green palanquin in the alley.
The other party did not have the slightest intention of giving in, and also stood up and said arrogant words. Zeng Guofan kindly walked to the other party's palanquin and took the initiative to apologize.
The other party opened the curtain, saw Zeng Guofan, and immediately knelt down.
Zeng Guofan did not care, but blamed himself and blocked the other party's way.
The word "humble" reflects a person's demeanor and makes himself more noble.
For a while, officials in the capital all told their own palanquins, don't be reckless, blue palanquins, maybe the palanquins of Lord Zeng.
Zeng Guofan also wrote to his brother and asked him to discipline his nephew: "That is, as in the case of the four sedans, there are too many people sitting in the family, and Wen Jize also sits on the four bridges. ”
Confucius said: "If you don't know your destiny, you can't think of a gentleman; you don't know etiquette, you can't stand up; you don't know what you say, you can't know who you are." ”
To be a person, you must know your responsibilities, you must understand etiquette, and you must control your speech. Since ancient times, the most important etiquette has been to lower your posture and be on par with others.
Serve as an official, benefit one party, do things in a down-to-earth manner, and give credit to the people. When a person is more "lowly" than ordinary people, he can get the praise of others.
The crowd gathered firewood and the flames were high. Because Zeng Guofan was humble and humble, he could make more generals submit to him, whether it was against Hong Xiuquan or against Qing officials, he could win.
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Hidden and untouched.
Zeng Guofan said: "As a human being, there are three widows: widowhood and nourishment, widowhood and spirituality, and widowhood and sperm. ”
When he was a child, Zeng Guofan was not intelligent, and he could not remember it after reading it many times.
Zeng Guofan married teacher Ouyang's daughter. With the help of his wife, he worked hard and had the courage to change his destiny. In this life, he was very kind to his wife.
In ancient times, three wives and four concubines were commonplace, and some ministers had a large number of wives and concubines in their homes, and they also remembered people outside the family.
Once, Zeng Guofan heard that his friend's concubine was very beautiful, and he couldn't help his curiosity and went to see it. Afterwards, he regretted it and considered himself "disrespectful."
He has always listened to the teachings of his ancestors: "Although Zeng Guofan did Hanlin, my family still lived by farming, and could not rely on him for food." ”
For many years as an official, Zeng Guofan has always been incorruptible, clothes and shoes are sewn by his family, and on his birthday, he wears a satin coat, and later he has been reluctant to wear it again.
A person can strictly control his desires, even the greatest temptation, can not make him move, let alone let him fall into trouble.
Desire is a trap, how many officials, fall into it. The Qing Dynasty's He yan, the Eastern Han Dynasty's Liang Ji, etc., although the power tilted toward the opposition, but did not know how to restrain themselves, and finally did not have a good ending.
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Conclusion.
There's a saying that goes, "How many secrets does a person need to hide in order to get through this life skillfully?" ”
Man, what a person has to hide, can accomplish something. Either way, you must understand a "Hidden" word.
Words were hidden, and silence was golden. See through and don't say it thoroughly, no matter who you are with, you can't say it without a mouth. When you don't say anything, the other person has already lost. Silence is the most powerful counterattack, but also the process of dormancy and growth.
Hide your anger and calm your heart. Emotions are useless and will only ruin their future. Any impulsive behavior will make people act like the devil, do vicious things, and push themselves into dangerous places. Only by hiding emotions can we deal with a myriad of things.
Hide the past and live the present. Man, you don't have to get entangled with rotten people and bad things. All the unpleasant things are over. Don't think about it, don't care, the troubles in your heart will disappear. The person in front of you is the one who loves you; the blessing in front of you is the best blessing.
Hid impetuousness, the heart is as calm as water. Anyone who wants to get ahead of themselves is bound to be afraid if they think about this every day. Or take one step at a time, quiet and far-reaching.
Hide your name and go into battle lightly. When a person succeeds, there is applause all around, and if you can't put it down, you will ruin yourself because of the aura and honor. Don't care about the name, you are an ordinary person, everything can start over.
Hiding deeply is a kind of wisdom, a person's moral cultivation.
Spring planting is long in summer, and autumn harvest is hidden in winter. When you cleverly hide yourself, you firmly fix the harvest in life, and the more things you hide, the thicker and higher your life is.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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