Women write articles, more or less will involve some topics of dissatisfaction with men, such as about the harm caused by the original family to the growth of children, more of which is the cause of the lack of father's love, resulting in many regrets.
Because from ancient times to the present, in all parts of the world, the absence of paternal love seems to be a common phenomenon.
In the traditional family model, most of the fathers are working hard outside and earning money to support the family (true or false), while women have to sacrifice their careers to take on family affairs and children's education alone.
Therefore, men's lack of education and companionship for children seems to be natural in the eyes of the world, whether as a wife or as a child, they have to acquiesce.
However, in the book "To Kill a Mockingbird", Xinyue sees a very unworldly father.
The father's name is Atticus, a lawyer, although in the (United States) border town, but the business is busy, the responsibility is heavy, travel and socializing, there is no less, in line with the basic settings of career men.
You can't imagine in any way, such a man, he is an extremely rare competent good father.
He had two children, almost all of whom he had brought up (his youngest daughter died when she was four years old).
He was also not young when the child was born, and when the child was less than 10 years old, he was more than half a hundred years old, and he even felt difficult to hold the child and sit on his knees.
In this case, the children he brought out were not only physically and mentally healthy, lively and agile, but also very cultured.
The novel describes this wonderful father from two angles, front and side.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="28" > positive depictions include his sincerity towards people and objects, unrequited love for relatives, friends, and even strangers</h1>
As a single father who has been praised for his lawyer's professional level, Atticus has a lot of love for his children, except for the use of the hands of black nanny Capone in life, and other aspects are almost personal.
He is both the guide of the children and their spiritual pillar, relying mainly on the charm of personality and sincere love.
01 Infiltration education for children
The "I" Scout in the text is a pre- school-age girl with an older brother, Jem.
On Scott's first day of school, the teacher discovered that she had reading comprehension skills and was surprised to ask how she had a cultural knowledge base before going to school.
Scout said she didn't know when it would be, and she couldn't figure out who taught it.
She just knew that dad would read the newspaper and talk about news events with her siblings every night, and in her spare time she would discuss word spelling with her nanny, Capone.
She thought it was a very natural thing, just as we can never remember when we took the first step in life, when we said the first words of life.
This is the method of Adix education, never deliberately and imposing anything on the child, moisturizing and silent, everything will come naturally.
The teacher was so angry that Scutt had a cultural foundation and ordered her to stop reading and studying at home, much to Linscutter's chagrin.
She complained to her father with emotion, saying that she did not want to go to school, and that children with the surname Yuel did not go to school.
Xinyue couldn't understand what the teacher's instructions were motivated by, but this was not a problem at all in Atticus's eyes.
He picked up his little daughter and put her to his knees and asked, "Would you like to live like the people of the Yuell family(Yuell is a family of depraved people)?
Scout associated with the poor image and reputation of the Yuell family and made it clear that he did not want to.
But when she went to school, the teacher wouldn't let herself read with her father at home, and she didn't want to give up the fun.
Dad said that we could read as usual, as long as we didn't tell the teacher (not to tell it just so as not to make the teacher angry).
No matter what troubles the children have, they can always find comfort and solutions in their father's explanation.
02 Appreciate you through your malice
Among the neighbors was a Mrs. Dubos, eccentric, who was unwelcome to the brothers and sisters who passed by her door, and often abused them in very ugly language because their father, Addix, was a black defense lawyer.
This made the brothers and sisters feel very bad, and Jem accumulated his anger for a long time, not dying in silence, but erupting in silence, and finally one afternoon, beating the flowerpot in the old woman's yard to pieces.
When Atticus found out, he solemnly asked the child to apologize and punished him to read the article to the old woman for a month.
He said that you can not like to be unhappy, but you must control your emotions and do this thing well.
Miraculously, Jem, who was in rebellion, calmly listened to his father's advice, forced himself to endure his great disgust, and insisted on this "job" for a month and a week.
Not long after Jem stopped reading, the old lady died.
Atticus told the child why he had to go and read to the old man.
It turned out that the old lady was terminally ill, but in order to leave this world with dignity, she endured great pain and fought against morphine addiction, and finally gave up completely at the time of her death.
Those prejudices and malice about the old lady caused by the black case, Atticus never mentioned it, and his eyes were focused only on her astonishing courage.
Atticus told the child that even if Jem did not destroy the old lady's flowerpot, he would let him read to her, because he wanted him to feel this extraordinary courage that is rare in the world--knowing that there is an invincible possibility, but still has no remorse; knowing that the end of the effort is nothing, still going forward, this is the real bravery.
What a noble personality, to be able to appreciate the other person's shining point through the malice of others to themselves, and truly do it: "You don't love me is your business, I love you is my business." ”
03 Although I do not agree with your outlook on life, I swear to defend your freedom of thought to the death
Atticus's sister Alexandra was a person with a very different view from her brother, narrow-minded, mean and old-fashioned, and she hardly agreed with all of her brother's actions.
Atticus was helpless, but he never blushed with his sister because of a difference of opinion, and he always did his best to respect each other while retaining his opinion.
He did not like to return to Finch Manor (the former residence) because it meant old-fashioned and paranoid, but on the party days agreed upon by the brothers and sisters, he always brought his children with him.
He was intimate with his children at home and lived without restraint, but when he arrived at Finch Manor, he demanded that the children obey the unreasonable rules of the master's family—Alexandra stressed that girls should have the appearance of a lady and could not eat at the same table as men.
When Scout and his sister's grandson got into battle, Atticus said nothing and immediately left the manor with the child.
On the one hand, it shows that I take things seriously, and on the other hand, I also give myself the space to deal with problems - back home and teach my children in a roundabout way.
Both logically and emotionally, Atticus sided with his daughter, and he made his children feel this presence everywhere, but he never let Alexandra lose his dignity.
Later, Alexandra came to Atticus's house and took on the responsibilities of housekeeper.
She disagreed with Atticus's approach to education, especially with Scout, where she tried to create a "lady".
When Scout rudely refuses, Atticus always makes it clear to let the child know that he must respect the elders, and then speaks his opinion to his sister in the absence of the child.
Alexandra did not like the cold and cold at home, and every three or five minutes she held a tea party at home, inviting women from near and far to the house to party.
Addix, who likes to be quiet, never sneers at his sister's hobby, and is always polite in front of his guests.
In fact, not only for his sister, Atticus has great respect for everyone who is prejudiced against him, or put himself in the shoes of the other person to understand each other.
Atticus took on the case of defending black people under great pressure, and his original intention was to set a good example for his children, to face difficulties bravely, and to uphold justice.
It is precisely with this unity of knowledge and action that he gives influence to the children, so that they understand the truth of being human and the courage to face difficulties.
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01 First of all, let's say what we see from the child
The novel unfolds from the perspective of the little girl Scout, full of childlike fun throughout, and also explains some of the story settings: Scout and Jem are a pair of lively and cute, physically and mentally healthy and have good moral cultivation of brothers and sisters.
On days when they are not at school, the two brothers and sisters play in the neighborhood, in the summer, they play a game with their little friend Deere to play the strange people of the Radley family; in the winter, they build snowmen with mud and snow; at night, they go to Radley's house to explore; during the day, they go to the wild to play shooting...
No matter how much fun they have, when night falls, they will unconsciously go to the law firm in town, or pick up dad from work on the only way home, which is the most anticipated thing in the day.
Jem is 4 years older than his sister, and he is more mature in many ways, seeing problems more thoroughly and understanding things more deeply.
During his expedition to the Radleys, he, like all children, was driven by curiosity about the unknown and a childlike heart that had not yet been shed.
But when he learns from his father and neighbor Miss Modi that Arthur of the Radley family is not a legendary demon at all, but a poor man who has been misunderstood and has to choose to avoid the world, compassion arises in his heart.
After accepting Arthur's gift in the tree hole, he wrote a thank-you note and kindly invited the other party to drink tea together; he would feel sad after Arthur's brother sealed the tree hole and quietly shed tears.
He would stop his sister from seeking "revenge" on the Canning child, and take him home to dinner after learning that the child had not brought lunch.
Jem has a sensual side, and at the same time, he has a thinking consciousness similar to that of an adult.
He is very able to restrain himself and grasp the measure of emotional fluctuations.
Because he was always abused for a while, Jem was very angry with Mrs. Dubos and ran to her house to smash the yard in order to vent his hatred, but never made personal attacks.
Later, Dad ordered him to apologize to Mrs. Dubos and read aloud for her, and Jem, who was so disgruntled, went there without perfunctory.
You think he's cowardly? Then you're wrong.
Once, when Jem carefully noticed that his father's appearance was abnormal, and he drove away from home in the middle of the night, he was very worried, quietly changed his clothes, and prepared to go alone to find it.
Atticus once said that true bravery is for his own faith, daring to do things that have no chance of winning.
For Jem, he wasn't able to protect Dad's chances, but he was going.
In the end, the conflict was well resolved in the accidental collision of his sister Scout - it is said that it is a mistake, but it is actually the seed planted by Atticus, and his correct three views and tireless teaching give children the ability to distinguish between right and wrong.
Or another example.
Once, Dill, a friend who lives in a distant town, suddenly ran away from home and fled to the lawyer's house, hiding under Skourt's bed.
Dill tearfully talked about his bitter history, hoping to be taken in and kept secret by his friends.
Jem was happy to see Diehl, and he wanted his best friend to stay, but he could calmly say, no, I must tell My dad about it.
As it turned out, Atticus was trustworthy, on the one hand he dealt with the panic of the adults, and on the other hand, he also allowed the children to retain hope, and Dill stayed in the brothers' room for the night.
Whether it is Jem's words or Atticus's listening, they have formed a tacit understanding and will develop in the direction each other wants.
The merits of Jem are all mirrored by the character of his father Atticus, and are the result of his words and deeds.
In other words, only such a good father can teach a responsible and cultured child like Jem.
02 Let's talk about other people's evaluations of Atticus and the subconscious identification
There are not many people who directly praise Atticus, and Miss Modi is one.
Miss Modi and Atticus were of the same age, grew up together as children, and were among the people in the town who knew him best.
In front of her brothers and sisters, she always talked about the merits of Atticus, saying that he was both literate and martial, proficient in both music and shooting, saying that he was decent, good with people, principled in doing things, and so on, all of which were sincere praises to him.
Some didn't say anything, but their actions had shown their identification with Atticus.
For example, the impartial judge, who broke the tradition of handing over black cases to new lawyers who were not strong in ability, and appointed Atticus, the most capable lawyer in the town, as the defense lawyer for black Tom, was to think that Atticus would definitely proceed from the objective facts and do his best to do a good job.
Or the man who participated in the riot, surnamed Cunningham, was able to be soft-hearted by the young Scout and disband the riot gang, in the final analysis, because he had repeatedly accepted the kindness of the lawyer and accumulated good feelings.
The neighbor's "weird man" Arthur, who is rumored to be a tyrannical demon, has repeatedly shown kindness to the lawyer's children in the days of seclusion, sewing pants for Jem, giving gifts to the brothers and sisters, draping Scott with blankets on the night of the fire, and stepping up when the brothers and sisters encounter bad guys, and his friendliness to the lawyer's family is beyond everyone's imagination.
The nanny, Kaponi, is a black woman who has served in the lawyer's house for many years, treating the brothers and sisters as if they were biological children, not only taking care of their lives, but also becoming an important assistant in education, and showing the highest respect for lawyers with their actions.
Even the infamous Mrs. Dubos, at the time of her death, the only one she trusted was Atticus.
Many, even dissatisfied with Atticus's defense of blacks, psychologically acknowledged his character and professional abilities.
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One could argue that "Kill a Mockingbird" is not a show off of Finch's little days, but a reflection of a certain helplessness in social life through the defense of black people by white lawyers, even if you have always wanted to uphold certain principles, but you have to "kill the mockery " again and again (metaphorical submission to reality, compromise of truth)".
However, this does not prevent us from refining moving emotions in such a warm text to revel in it, after all, the white moonlight of children in the world is often healing.
By the way, this is really a book for all ages.