Throughout the ages, people have attached great importance to marriage, and no one is willing to marry a daughter to a husband with a wife, let alone marry a daughter to an old man who is the same age as himself.
A typical example is the Qing Taizu Nurhaci, Who was the founder of the Later Jin Dynasty and the founder of the Qing Dynasty, Nurhaci I, but he did something unbelievable. He promised one of his most beloved eldest daughters to a husband with a wife, so that the world held a grudge against Nurhaci, but it was not Nurhaci who was confused, this is where the wisdom lies.
Donggogge was born to Nurhaci, she was not only the eldest daughter, but also the longest of Nurhaci's 16 children, she was clever and clever, and was deeply loved by Nurhaci, but was later married to a 27-year-old husband with a wife. This is not only the sorrow of Donggogge, but also the indelible sorrow in Nurhaci's heart, but after knowing Nurhaci's intentions, he can't help but be impressed by his wisdom.
Nurhaci is not only very politically insightful, but he also knows the "art of taming people", he knows how to fight with his subordinates, and he knows how to gain the trust of people. He Heli was the leader of one of the five major tribes of the Jurchens in Jianzhou, who was highly skilled in martial arts, upright, introverted and strategic, and was the most admired general in Nurhaci's life. He Heli's power in the Jurchen clan is strong, and if he is allowed to submit to himself, it will inevitably be like a tiger, so Nurhaci plans to use "peace and affinity" to win over He Heli.
Then the problem is, He Heli is strategic, naturally will not give up his career because of the female color, so He Heli believes that he cannot directly kiss at the beginning, which will make the other party feel very humble, and this matter must be considered in the long run. In 1588, Concubine Nurhaci, he invited He he and Li lai to attend his wedding, the two talked very happily, He He li admired Nurhaci's heroic talent, thinking that he would be the lord of England in the future, which also laid the groundwork for the later "peace and relatives".
Taking advantage of He Heli's enthusiasm, Nurhaci decided to give the eldest princess Xu to He Heli, who was initially reluctant because he said that he already had a blessing in his family, and then Nurhaci found a step down, saying that his daughter could marry and make a partial house. Shocked by Nurhaci's repeated persuasion, He Heli finally responded to this family affair.
Although it was a partial house, Nurhaci still held a grand wedding for his daughter, which caused the dissatisfaction of He Heli's wife. In order to avoid the suffering of his daughter's marriage, Nurhaci personally theorized with He Heliyuan's wife, he said, "When I marry my daughter to your husband, I want to unite with your tribe through marriage, and affinity is only a form, moreover, my daughter is only a side room, it will not affect your status of Dafujin, you can just look at her sister." Immediately afterward, Nurhaci called the 10-year-old Dongguo Gege to the temple, and the original wife saw the 10-year-old Gege, and the vinegar in her heart suddenly disappeared and agreed to the kiss.
Since Dongguo Gege married He Heli, the two tribes have united and their power has increased day by day. With the assistance of He Heli, Nurhaci finally unified the Jurchens and won the war in the south. In 1615 AD, Nurhaci officially established the Eight Banners of Manchuria system, and He Heli was also incorporated into the Zhenghong Banner, after which He Heli was loyal and loyal, and followed Nurhaci to his death, making great contributions to the establishment of the foundation of the Qing Dynasty.