introduction
Depression is entirely a mental, psychological problem. That is to say, there is a problem with a person's "mind". So, your phrase "as big as the mind is, as big as the stage" is perfect for friends with depression. Similarly, the phrase "how small your mind is, how small your stage is" is more suitable for depressed friends!
As stated in the first paragraph, if you have depression, your attitude toward depression and the actions you take will determine whether you can beat depression. When you think depression is a paper tiger, you will eventually overcome depression; when you think depression is a flood beast, sorry, man-made knife tricks me for fish meat. You let depression engulf you.
Knock on the chalkboard and draw the point! The only reason depression is a problem in the world is that people with depression don't have the confidence, determination, and action to beat it! Always think that real depression is only a dead end! In the end, only suicide can be committed. They always think that their set is right, but in fact, it is completely wrong. This is called inverting black and white, being very unclear, and not distinguishing between good and evil. However, people who suffer from depression are often smarter people, but they refuse to believe and admit this.
So, the only difference between overcoming depression and committing suicide is the difference between believing or not believing, repairing and not repairing. The former is unswerving, believes in the methods and thinking of the psychologist, and fights depression with a lifetime of time to finally overcome depression; the latter finds all kinds of fallacies to prove that the method is not good, psychology is garbage, and his depression is absolutely not good. The latter himself drove himself into a dead end and committed suicide. For example, Zhang Guorong and Zhang Chunru.
Depression manifests itself in a variety of ways, with the exception of flood beasts and paper tigers, more of a gray area
Spiritual psychologist testimonial: Depressed patients generally have extreme thinking, black and white thinking. They don't know that in the face of depression, there are more gray areas than flood beasts and paper tigers.
The victory over depression and the recovery of physical illness are different. With the recovery of physical ailments, you can feel a noticeable improvement. The recovery process of depression is very slow, and you may need to work hard, keep working out, and do psychological counseling many times in the early stage, but the results are very slow. Only by arriving at a special location will the changes and growth thereafter increase exponentially.
Therefore, the real victory of depression is often to be in this gray area for a long time, and continuous efforts have little effect. The parties believe that it is fundamentally invalid. Too many depressed people can't accept their slow growth process, and are unwilling to persevere, falling into the darkest hours before dawn.
Depressed people must remove all kinds of extreme thinking. Due to space limitations, I will tell you the dry goods directly here. I say a sentence of top 10,000 sentences!
1. No matter how many psychological counselors and psychologists are found by depressed patients. You can't beat depression, and eventually commit suicide, it's definitely not a problem with psychology, definitely not a problem with the method, but you lack the confidence, determination and action to keep trying for a long time and constantly overcoming depression!
2, do not be mistaken for psychology because of the suicide of Zhang Chunru, Zhang Guorong and others. There is absolutely no problem with psychology! The problem is your negative and pessimistic cognitive thinking! Psychology is great science! It is not the negative, pessimistic, extreme, and rigid thinking of a few patients with depression that can be denied! It is said that psychology does not give strength, and psychology does not carry this pot.
3. In the practice of psychological counseling, we have found that all people who have not overcome depression have a unique common characteristic: unwilling to change their thinking, unwilling to exercise, or persistently admit their own death, or their own extreme thinking, or think that they are not dead, or their own nonsense, all kinds of fallacies, and think that they are right.
I emphasize one sentence: as long as you completely change your thinking, cognition, positive action, and think and act with a positive attitude, all depression can be overcome! The only reason you can't beat depression is your own problem! It is that you refuse to trust psychology and psychological counselors, and you are unwilling to spend your life practicing, adjusting, and changing!
Advice to people with depression: "I don't know what I don't know"
Psychology has a very shocking saying: "I don't know what I don't know." This is to tell everyone that some people do not know something outside of their thinking and cognition. Because they know their own shortcomings, they humbly listen to the suggestions and opinions of others, and then do it, and finally achieve brilliance.
And some people, such as friends with depression, often don't know what they don't know. Overemphasize your true feelings and think that your true feelings are the truth. As everyone knows, your true feelings will still lie to you! Because your feelings come from your negative, pessimistic thoughts, from your depressed mind! When your mind is sick, your so-called true feelings are absurd and unreliable!
Xiaohong said to me: "Teacher, I don't want to exercise, I'm very tired!" Teacher, I don't want to change my mind because I feel like I'm right." I told her, "If you're right, why are you suffering?" She said, "Is it still painful to be right?" I told her, "Little Red! Please cherish any opportunity to consult, please listen carefully to every word I say, this is professional psychological counseling. What I said to you, maybe you can't understand it today, but in the future, you will understand it. I'm talking about scientific psychology"!
She still didn't understand, so I further explained to her: "Now you don't know what you don't know, your heart is dead, so the body is tired, the mind is tired." If your mind is truly hopeful, you definitely won't get tired! The heart can be full of hope! As long as you want; it's easy to think lightly, as long as you change your mind and make your heart full of hope; when your heart is open and there is no entanglement, you will not suffer. When you feel pain, something is wrong with your mind. When you are willing to face your own soul and act according to what the psychologist says, it must be a lot of action! When the time comes, your cognition, thinking, and perception will naturally change. If you still follow the old thinking and persistent actions, it is not depression that will defeat you in the end, but yourself."
Spiritual psychologist testimonial: There are two kinds of people in the world who are blessed, and one is a fool. Because I don't know anything, I listen carefully to other people's suggestions, implement them well, and finally get out of the pain. This is called believing and wishing; one is a high person, because he has completely understood the true meaning of life, thoroughly understood himself, knows how to act, and actively acted with his life. Suffering is life, and only by doing it can we attain the "Tao." And depressed patients are right in the middle of the two, a little capable, but not the top high people, so, do not believe anything, believe in themselves, feel their cattle. In the end, I was killed by my own cattle!
The difference between overcoming depression: believing or not believing, repairing or not repairing
We once again emphasize the most critical point: whether depression is a paper tiger or a flood beast, the only difference is that depressed people "believe or not, repair or not."
It's hard to believe because you have your own obsessions. You believe depression is not going to get better. You believe that your efforts are really ineffective. You believe that true depression is only a dead end. So, what you need is: let go of all your attachments and let go of your "knowledge barriers." As the saying goes, "Blessed are those who believe in me."
You don't need to thoroughly study depression to be willing to take positive action to beat it. The ancient sages and great psychology have long studied depression thoroughly. Now the ideas and methods that professional psychologists tell you are top-notch! It's the most powerful! You do it for the rest of your life! Believing in psychology, the Fa-rectification, and the wisdom of the ancient sages, and spending a lifetime practicing it, can't you still win over a little depression? It is possible to become transcendent and to become a Buddha!
Building faith and trust in psychology doesn't need a reason! Practicing psychology and living actively for a lifetime doesn't need a reason! You don't need to use your negative, pessimistic, depressed thinking to re-prove the fa-rectification and psychological ideas to believe it. Mount Everest is the highest peak in the world, and you don't need to become a mountaineer to climb all the highest peaks on the seven continents of the world to prove that Mount Everest is the highest peak in the world.
Very simple! You're depressed, and your set isn't right! We're professional psychologists, and I've come from depression myself. I'm right about this one! Believe in psychology and the Fa-rectification, and spend a lifetime practicing, practicing, adjusting, changing, and actively exercising! That's right! Don't doubt!