With the improvement of people's living standards, parents pay more and more attention to their children's education. Afraid that their children are worse than other people's children, all kinds of cram classes, all kinds of interest classes, all of which are reported to their children. It also sounds grandiose not to let your children lose at the starting line. But is this starting line real?
As a new mother, I personally feel that I can't lose at the starting line, and I want my child to win at the starting line. Actually, this is the right point of view. Just think about it, what is the starting line? How many training courses did you sign up for? How many points did you get on the test? What school did you go to? Like Tian Yulan in "Little Shed", she forces her children every day and makes them schizophrenic?
That's obviously not. In fact, the real "starting line" is not on the children, but on our parents. What levels of cognition do parents have. Pattern, is the real starting line of a child's life? Parents' vision, pattern, cognition, understanding of the role of parents, support, acceptance, listening to children, whether there is appreciation, recognition and so on
I looked at a picture and I think it's very good. The book says this: There is a wall in front of it, and the children are very short. If it is a group of children standing there, the scenery outside the wall, the child can not see at all. At this time, the parents came up, a one-meter-five parent, he held the child, the child still could not see anything. A parent of one meter six, he carried the child on his shoulders, the child saw that outside is the vast world and the sea, this is the starting line.
Of course, I'm not talking about parental height, this is just using height as a metaphor. There is also that posture, your pattern, cognition, your learning ability, is to help the child, can you lift the child to see the wider world, a broader, far-reaching, brilliant future.
Therefore, children cannot lose at the starting line, which means that parents should cultivate their parental ability. When the parents' ability arrives, the child wins at the starting line. I may be particularly hateful when I say this, but that is the reality.
It was once said in a book that if a parent is still confused, but asks his child to be excellent and capable, this in itself is a ridiculous expectation. You have to know that the environment is the child. For example, if you want him to be particularly good at English, it doesn't matter if you don't know English yourself, have you created an English environment for him? Did you show him movies or cartoons in English? He is not around a lot of English reading materials, or he is in the school where English is a more important teaching subject, and so on.
Of course, this is also an example I gave, here I want to say that don't just blindly ask your children, we have to ask ourselves.
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