It is indeed a bad experience to get along with people with bad tempers, because we don't know which words we say or which things we do in a casual moment and touch each other's scales.
Maybe we thought it was normal for each other to talk to each other, and the other person was furious.
With such a person, our nerves need to be tense at any time, ready for the other party's tantrums, such an experience is not free at all, so most of the time, we are not willing to get along with such a person.
But people with good tempers are different, they are very generous, but they are not too calculated.
Even if you are angry, you will try to deal with it in a peaceful way.
Therefore, when we get along with each other, we will not be like sitting on a needle felt, like a thorn in the back, like a fish in the throat.
However, in real life, good temper is too good, often not valued, but those women with "temper" have different personality charm, why is this?
Women with "temper" will not succumb to the evaluation of others
Father and son rode a donkey into the city, and one person said that the father and son rode the donkey together to crush the donkey, so the father rushed down, led the donkey himself, and let the son ride;
After a while, some people said that the son was not filial piety, and he rode a donkey himself, so that the father was affected, so the son hurried down, let the father ride, and led by himself;
After a while, some people said that the father did not love children, so that such a small child was affected, so the father hurried down, and the father and son led the donkey together.
After a while, some people said that the father and son did not have a bright brain, and there were donkeys who did not know how to ride.
So you see, everyone in this world has different evaluation standards, and we can't fully meet everyone's requirements, so no matter what we do and what we do, there will be people pointing fingers, and there will also be people pointing fingers.
Therefore, it is difficult to reconcile, since it is impossible to make others like, then why not only like yourself, do not care about the evaluation of others?
As Haruki Murakami once said: "No matter what everyone in the world says, I think my feelings are correct, no matter what others think, I will never disrupt my own rhythm, I can naturally stick to what I like, and I can't like it for a long time." ”
Women with "temper" will not allow themselves to be wronged
When Sanmao just went to Spain to study, in order to make a good impression on everyone, she has always pursued the principle of suffering losses and blessings, and others have agreed to any request they ask, even if they are not willing to do it, the hygiene in the dormitory is also cleaned by themselves, and other housemates will never take the initiative to clean it up.
Slowly, everyone felt that Sanmao did these things for granted, and even when he was deducted points because of poor hygiene, he also collectively framed Sanmao's hygiene as such a mess.
Sanmao finally couldn't bear it anymore and began to scold these people who had received his favor in the past, and punched and kicked.
Afterwards, Sanmao was ready to be punished, but strangely, nothing happened, and the teacher just told her not to be so impulsive next time;
She was also prepared to be isolated, but strangely, nothing happened, and her roommate not only did not isolate her, but also invited her to hold an umbrella with her.
As a result, Sanmao understood that the former self who practiced that suffering losses was a blessing did not get the respect of others, but when he lost his temper, he found that he had the respect he wanted.
Therefore, women with tempers will never bend the law, and they will definitely use anger to defend their boundaries.
Women with "temper" know how to respect each other and are close to each other
Psychological research has shown that when a person is too involved in interpersonal relationships, then the person's way of thinking will depend on the group, which will make the individual and the self increasingly separated.
In real life, there are many women who, in order to maintain so-called interpersonal relationships, often integrate into the group in a way that wrongs themselves.
In their hearts, they will feel that friends must be close to each other, so friends do not share secrets with themselves, friends do not invite themselves, they will be angry.
But in fact, they rely too much on so-called interpersonal relationships, but they never recognize themselves and do not know what they need.
I don't know how to arrange my life path, they are only intoxicated by the so-called interpersonal relationships, and they don't care about their lives in a mess.
However, such people can only be described as mediocre, and they who are excessively pursuing groups lead to unsperformed personalities, and they can only return to the sea of people, and it is impossible to exude unique personality charm.
Yi Shu once said: "Why reluctantly be friends with people who are different from the Tao, Yangguan Road, Canoe Bridge, and Strange Road meet, politeness is enough." ”
Those women with tempers do not value a relationship too much, cherish it when they come, say goodbye when they leave; manage it well when they have it, and they will not complain about themselves when they don't.
They live a dashing, they live transparently, they live a life like a beam of light, naturally exuding a different charm.