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Silence is to look down on the past, without complaint or regret.
Some people say that the wisdom of life is: don't hesitate when you are young, and don't regret it when you are old.
There was a philosopher in India, full of poetry and books, full of talent, many women were infatuated with him, and a brave woman took the initiative to confess to him and ask to be his wife.
The philosopher rejoiced, but at the same time fell into the choice of marriage or not to marry, and one day he finally decided to get married. However, he was told by the woman's father that because of the late decision, his daughter had married another woman ten years ago and was now a mother of three children. When the philosopher heard this, he regretted it so much that he died of depression soon after.
Many people see their own shadow in this philosopher.
The older people get, the more they find that some people in the past have not been able to keep themselves; some opportunities have not been able to grasp them; some things have not been done satisfactorily.
If time can be turned back, there will certainly be more cherishing, more dedication, the end will be less regretful.
It's just that all of it is a futile sigh. Life is a one-way journey that cannot be repeated, and if you choose one of the roads, you are doomed to rub shoulders with the scenery on the road that you did not choose.
In this long journey, the ups and downs we have experienced, the hard-won successes, and the bits and pieces associated with this constitute our unique life, what is the benefit of regret?
Truly intelligent elderly people, who know how to look down and put it down, will not repeatedly mention "the courage of the year", nor will they be grumpy about the "shame of the year". The path you choose, kneeling, will also be finished. When everything settles, it is necessary to say goodbye to it calmly and grasp every day, which is the starting point of a happy life.
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Silence is bitterness and sorrow, joy without words.
Romain Rolland once said: "There are some things that you can't tell others, some things that you don't have to tell others, some things that you can't tell others at all, and some things that you will regret immediately even if you tell others."
People are old, there are too many stories, but there are too few that can really be said lightly. On the contrary, too many people can't help themselves, they are miserable, and they can only swallow themselves.
In the past two days, a story that has burst the circle of friends has made many people cry: an old mother in Rugao, Jiangsu Province, in order to pay off the debt of her son who died unexpectedly, she went out to work in the year of Hua Jia and paid off all the debts in 10 years.
Bearing the grief of the white-haired people sending the black-haired people, carrying a huge debt of more than half a million yuan, and bearing the maintenance obligations of young grandchildren, this old mother did not allow herself to indulge in endless sorrow in the face of difficulties and responsibilities, and she and her wife silently began to act.
Her son's death compensation, some of the project money that arrived, the assistance given by relatives, she and her husband first cobbled together to pay off the bank loan and some scattered arrears, but there was also the salary that the son owed to others.
Therefore, the old man gets up at 3:30 a.m. every day to take care of the vegetable field, goes to the restaurant to wash dishes and dishes during the day, and continues to work in the field after returning home at 10 o'clock at night.
The old man who has paid off the arrears is relieved, but he still does not stop. To teach by example, she should use actions to educate her grandchildren on how to behave.
To be bitter and not to speak is not to make meaningless complaints. Joy without words, is a calm calm. After experiencing great joy and great sorrow and surviving great hardships, silence is a kind of demeanor, an elegance that belongs exclusively to the elderly.
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Silence is the joy of enjoying solitude.
In the old age, people's lives begin to slow down, and life begins to "quiet".
Seeing many people clearly, understanding many things, paying more and more attention to inner experience and perception, and showing more and more the detachment of "not being happy with things, not being sad with oneself".
In the face of interpersonal interactions, the graces and grievances that were once troubled in the heart have become no longer important. You will no longer force yourself to fit into a certain circle and seek some kind of approval. According to their own way of life, do what you want to do, and be ashamed.
In the face of children, even if there are endless expectations, there is no lack of worries, but after all, they are already adults, have independent ideas and lives, it is better to let go and be perfect, they are only in the distance, far away.
In the face of friends, the older the person, the less contact between friends, as long as you know that the other party is healthy, food and clothing, it is a gratifying ending.
In the face of relatives, each has its own "difficult scripture", and the help is already more than enough and the strength is insufficient. It is better to be safe with each other, which is the best response to the mutual concern between relatives.
Everything around me seems to be less important. The important thing is to accept yourself.
In the warm winter sun, a cup of tea, a recliner, reading a book and reading a newspaper, watching cats and dogs fight. In the cold night, a charcoal fire, a pot of old wine, an old song, warm the stomach and heart.
Walking along the field paths, the boulevards of the park, and the roads of the old streets, you can take a leisurely stroll, see the scenery, and also see the pedestrians.
Isn't this tranquility, freedom, and self-reliance just what has long been unattainable?
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Conclusion:
When people are old, it is better to be a taciturn person.
Too many things, at a glance, you know whether it is good or bad, right or wrong. However, there is really no need to reveal the answer early.
Just like people go to worship the Buddha, in the face of the joys and sorrows of all sentient beings, the Buddha always smiles, the answer is always in everyone's own hands, and the fate is the same.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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