About returning to school: slow is fast

01

The child has been out of school for a year, and now the day and night are reversed, the parents in the picture above ask me. This is probably similar to the impact of Tsinghua Peking University in one month.

I feel that parents have not yet accepted the reality and have not yet faced the status quo.

Only if we face the present moment will we change things quickly. The more confrontational, the more immersed you will be.

Having said that, it can only give parents enough time to be sad and sentimental... Wait for the parents to wake up...

02

There are also many parents who cannot accept the fact that their children are depressed and suspended from school.

This ostrich mentality of not accepting reality is often a prelude to depression.

A big reason why children fall into depression is that they do not accept themselves, do not accept reality, take delusion as usual, enter the fantasy world, and leave their feet off the ground.

Although this is a kind of defense mechanism of people, it is easy to put on the defense thing, and it hurts the bones when it comes off.

Children cannot accept reality because they are young and weak, have no ability to survive, and are forced to be helpless.

On the parent side, most people will delay the healing time because they can't accept the reality.

A small number of smart parents can quickly accept reality, grow rapidly, be calm and objective, and not immerse themselves in emotions and fantasies.

People who do not accept reality live too painfully, so they have unrealistic expectations about life (easy to be "manic"), and these expectations cannot be realized, and a new round of pain is formed.

For every sweet point saved in the heart, the ability to accept reality increases by one point.

Life is not satisfactory, who wants to accept reality?

But whether you accept reality or not, reality is there. Accept it, and only then will it flow and change. Do not accept, the more confrontation, the more into the whirlpool of spinning.

03

Regarding the resumption of school, slow is fast.

Immersed in the fantasy that the child has not yet stopped school, drinking and quenching thirst for a while can paralyze himself, but the child's situation cannot be correctly intervened by the parents in time, delaying time, and the situation is getting worse.

Regarding the speed of returning to school, parents want to ask how long it will take to return to school?

This is like knowing that the students asked, there are still half a year to go, is it still too late to impact Peking University?

All want to do miracles.

But anyone with successful experience will know to take it slowly, which is the fastest shortcut.

As soon as I came up, I wanted to resume school for a month, half a year to resume school, and some people felt that the speed of resuming school was slow and simply had no motivation to learn, these people, ah, only wait until a year or two has passed, will regret how good it would be if they grew up well from the beginning.

Accepting reality is certainly painful, but not as painful as you think.

Accepting reality doesn't mean you're immediately free of pain, but it's already minimizing suffering.

Not accepting reality is brewing bigger mines, and there must be more suffering waiting behind.