"The way to govern the family is not to lose the leniency, it is better to be too strict." —— "Ancient and Modern Book Integration"
Since ancient times, family harmony has been a topic that the world cares about very much, because only if your family is peaceful, your life and career will not be greatly disturbed. However, there are too many temptations in the world, so that we in the middle of it often ignore the matter of family harmony because of certain things. For example, in the ancient times of China, the more high-ranking officials and wealthy families, the more they cared about the inheritance of heirs, but everyone knew that not every woman was lucky enough in the matter of childbirth, so there were one concubines after another into the backyard, slowly bringing some internal disputes to the family, so that it would no longer have a peaceful day.
We cannot criticize this practice as wrong, because any phenomenon has its own reasons, but we in the hereafter can still gain some feelings from these examples, for example, in the attitude and means of handling family affairs by the warlord of the Republic of China, we can understand a truth, that is, although beauty is full of temptations, when the crisis involves itself, we should still make a judgment and use a strict and resolute attitude to quickly eliminate the factors that disturb family harmony. So, what is his family crisis? Why is there such a crisis?
01 Remarrying Lady Xianhui is a political marriage
Duan Qirui was a warlord of the Republic of China, born in Anhui in 1865, and at the age of twenty, he was admitted to the Beiyang Martial Arts Academy sponsored by Li Hongzhang with excellent results, and thus began his political career. He has an original wife Wu, married at a young age, the feelings are very deep, especially the two are together, all the way through countless hardships, watching Duan Qirui is about to enter the peak of life, partial Wu is weak, suddenly sick and died, leaving only a heartbroken husband, and a boy who is still weak. For Duan Qirui, the death of his wife was his greatest grief at that time, so he did not want to marry any woman again.
However, at that time, Duan Qirui was serving as an official under Yuan Shikai, and was one of the most prestigious generals at that time, so how could such an identity not arouse the jealousy of Yuan Shikai, who was always jealous? In order to win over his right-hand man, Yuan Shikai, who overheard of Duan Qirui's widow, came up with a trick often used by the superior, political marriage. However, Yuan Shikai himself had no daughter, and in desperation, he had to choose a beautiful cousin from his own family, and adopted her as a righteous daughter, personally taking charge of marrying her to Duan Qirui.
Duan Qirui and Yuan Shikai
This woman' name was Zhang Peiyu, from a family of eunuchs, well educated since childhood, for some unknown reasons, she was over twenty-seven years old and still not married, but this age compared with Duan Qirui, or ten years younger. Zhang Peiyu's personality does not have any squeamishness and willfulness that a noble lady should have, but she is generous and generous, with a good temper, after marrying Duan Qirui, she did her best to help him manage the housework, take care of her elderly mother, and look like a virtuous lady, so that Duan Qirui gradually let down her guard against this new lady and began to truly accept and trust her.
02 Unable to give birth to a male heir, the lady was ashamed
After the marriage, the two gave birth to a total of four daughters, plus the boy left by the original match, which made Duan Qirui, who had both children, very satisfied, and believed that he had no regrets in the inheritance of heirs. But on the contrary, Zhang Peiyu is very concerned about her failure to give birth to a boy for Duan Qirui, she is not waiting to see the original child, but she is worried that if she fails to give birth to Duan Qirui's male heir, she will be discussed and attacked by outsiders, so she grew up in an ancient Chinese traditional family, and she slowly has a thought, if she is generous as Duan Qirui's concubine, then will the world not say that she is not virtuous enough?
The more I think about it, the more I feel the right Zhang Peiyu, took the initiative to find her husband Duan Qirui, and said to him, "It is indeed a very regrettable thing to fail to give birth to a son for her husband, but I have thought of a way to make up for it, that is, to take the initiative to select five concubines for you, to enrich the backyard, I hope you can agree", what Duan Qirui who heard this said in his heart, no one knows, but men, it is inevitable that they will have longing and covetousness for women, especially their own wives personally send beauty to their own faces. Therefore, Duan Qirui nodded his head in particular and agreed to this.
Whether Zhang Peiyu will feel sad about this result, no one knows, and the matter has come to this point, even if she does have uncomfortable feelings about her husband's cheerful attitude, she must personally marry five concubines for her husband according to her own words. Therefore, the greatest sorrow in the lives of women born in the old era is that they can only live dependent on men, and even if they are unhappy themselves, they cannot vent this negative emotion, because once they show it, the world will immediately attack them for not being virtuous enough. Such a fact really makes people feel helpless and sad.
02 The backyard is uneven, implicated in itself, and cleaned up
The identities of the five concubines were all very low, and Zhang Peiyun used money to buy them back from the relevant people, but their appearance was very beautiful, which was very pleasing to Duan Qirui. For Duan Qirui, because of Zhang Peiyun's early style, he especially believed that his wife could manage his backyard well, so he did not waste too much thought in the backyard, and only stayed in the concubine room of his choice at night all day, and concentrated on handling work at the rest of the time. However, the development of the situation gradually surprised Duan Qirui, and the presence of five women disturbed his family and forced him to have to clean up the backyard.
And the cause of the matter, from a certain day Duan Qirui's late return, he happened to bump into his third aunt and fourth aunt at the gate of his home, two people with heavy makeup, wearing gorgeous clothes, drunk and drunk, there is no good family woman should have the appearance, so that Duan Qirui was angry on the spot, immediately ordered someone to detain them in the backyard, and at the same time asked someone to seriously investigate what they usually do. As a result, a secret that made Duan Qirui even more angry was revealed, and the young third aunt secretly hooked up with her only son without anyone.
Of course, Duan Qirui could not drive his son out of the house, so he had to pour all his anger on the third and fourth aunts, drive them out of the house, and let them fend for themselves. At the same time, this incident also brought Duan Qirui a wake-up call, prompting him to also order people to quietly investigate the remaining three aunts, and found that the original fifth aunt had a sweetheart before entering the Duan family, but the two people were poor and could not resist the decision of the fifth aunt's father, so The compassionate Duan Qirui found the lover of the fifth aunt, generously let the two leave, and fulfilled their love.
In this way, the five concubines married by Duan Qirui were left in an instant, but Duan Qirui was still not at ease, afraid that these two would do something out of the ordinary again, so he once again let go of the youngest sixth aunt, leaving only the second aunt who was gentle and honest and sincere, and accompanied himself and Zhang Peiyu. From Duan Qirui's attitude and means of handling these family affairs, it can be clearly felt that he has not lost his mind in the beauty, but can make a decision, use a resolute attitude to eliminate hidden dangers in the backyard, and give the family a harmonious atmosphere.
From this, the author has come to a conclusion, that is, whether the family home is peaceful or not, in fact, is related to the attitude of everyone in the family towards the family, especially the attitude and behavior of those who have the right to be the master of the house, which will directly affect the atmosphere of the family, right?