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After the implementation of the double reduction policy, children with strong independent learning ability and good learning habits have the advantage! So today, Bo Dad will share with the majority of parents, "How to help children cultivate independent learning ability"?
Different parents will also have different expectations for their children:
For example, some parents hope that their children will take the middle school entrance examination, the college entrance examination, and then enter the university in the future.
Some parents want their children to go abroad.
In addition, some parents feel that their children should learn abilities, learn skills, and learn skills.
Finally, there are some parents who do family businesses, hoping that their children have management skills, teamwork skills, and good interpersonal skills and communication skills!
Parents have different expectations and plans for their children, so parents should make a reverse reasoning according to their own plans for their children, how to cultivate children? Nurture your child with these abilities we expect!
Next, Bo Dad focuses on discussing with you how to cultivate a child's independent learning ability, after all, no matter how parents plan, children need to have the ability to learn, and this learning ability is crucial!
So how to cultivate the ability to learn independently? Bo Dad here to share a specific approach, very practical. To summarize, there are three steps:
The first step is to let the child plan for himself.
The second step is for parents to accompany their children to implement the plan.
The third step is for parents to take their children to summarize their own implementation.
Some parents have said that it seems very simple. But the steps are secondary, the execution skills are the key, listen to bo dad to analyze it.
First, let the child arrange the plan by himself.
Let the child make a list of the homework they want to do or the books they want to read, and the things they want to do, and then make a plan for themselves. What time to do something, how long to complete?
Attention, in this process, ah, we parents try not to meddle, just look at the child to do it himself, if he does very unreliable, we can remind a sentence next to it, do not remind too much, or tough children to modify. If he does not change, then in the process of implementation, he will encounter setbacks or poor execution, and there will be a time to summarize and adjust later, at this time he has personally experienced it. When his method does not work, he will accept the advice of his parents.
The second is to accompany the child to implement the plan.
Then in this accompaniment process, parents should try not to interfere. If there is a deviation in the process of child execution, parents can remind the child without emotion, remember, do not be emotional, do not interfere or exert pressure, at this time if you apply pressure, it is the parents to promote the child to complete, rather than the child to complete it independently, can not raise this good habit, this point must be remembered, parents remember "let go, do not indulge"
The third is that parents take their children to summarize their own implementation.
Take the child to do a fact-based summary. For example, I see you in a daze when you're writing your homework, and you were supposed to play for ten minutes, but I saw you play for 20 minutes. This kind of judgmental, unemotional, factual summary will make the child self-reflective and adjust.
Parents can't ask their children to do it all at once, he is a gradual process, slowly improving a little bit every day, even if it is occasionally backwards, and then come back again. Ultimately, it's about getting our kids to learn a self-management ability.
In this process, parents must not be in a hurry, do not carry emotions, do not become a stumbling block to the growth of children, which is already a great success. After our emotions are applied to the child, it is a big mental internal consumption for the child, and the energy of the person is limited, if the child spends all his energy on internal consumption with the parents, then he uses less energy on learning, so ah, parents should give the child more opportunities for trial and error. As long as we insist on doing it, I believe that children will definitely make progress.
After reading this article, I believe that parents have a certain grasp of how to cultivate their children's learning ability. Learning is on the one hand, only the implementation is the real benefit, for the sake of children, let's cheer together!
Pay attention to Bo Dad, and accompany you on the road to parenting!
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